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Men's fantasies about marriage never stop at sex!

After marriage, men often switch their attachment to their mother explicitly to another member of the opposite sex. But it wasn't a very obvious transition. It wasn't like I had to divorce my mother the day I got married. It takes a process to slowly shift that dependence.

By [email protected]Published 2 years ago 3 min read

Every woman has a fantasy about marriage, hoping that "the prince and princess will live happily ever after".

Some women will think that marriage is a very happy, and let people look forward to things.

Well, what women don't know is that men have fantasies about marriage, too.

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Like all women, when they fantasize, they tend to idealize.

I want a woman who is kind and considerate, who takes care of herself but doesn't take care of herself, who takes care of herself like a mother, who adores herself like a daughter.

As much as women idealize marriage, you can imagine how much men idealize marriage.

First, a man wants his wife to be a mother

After marriage, men often switch their attachment to their mother explicitly to another member of the opposite sex. But it wasn't a very obvious transition. It wasn't like I had to divorce my mother the day I got married. It takes a process to slowly shift that dependence.

In this process, he may still have the previous contact with his mother, and he may even rely more on his mother than his wife at the beginning, and then he will change to his wife more when he gets along with his wife.

Of course, in this process of transformation, a man will imagine that his wife is as tolerant, tolerant, patient and gentle to him as his mother.

Second, fantasy as long as there is a wife, can solve the sex life

The MAN CAN fantasIZE, HAD a wife, ONESELF SEXUAL DEMAND SHOULD HAVE NO ANY PROBLEM! After all, being single is for you.

But the reality is that married sex is influenced by a wide range of factors.

So, after marriage, there are a lot of times also need to solve by themselves!

Third, have a wife, there is a person who knows their own

The role of a mother for a man is to tolerate himself, but not to understand himself.

Men sometimes refer to this as "there's a generation gap". And the wife is a peer, so the man will feel that the wife can not only tolerate him, but also understand him.

Most men are not good at expressing themselves, and a man who is not good at expressing himself will want his wife, the woman closest to him, to understand him.

Fourth, want to have an admirer

Men need respect, women need love.

Men, on the other hand, want their wives to worship them, and they want to have a long-term admirer after marriage.

For men, the feeling of being adored really satisfies their sense of identity.

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See here, perhaps many female friends will think: imagination is pretty good.

Yes, imagination is always beautiful, just as women have fantasies, men also have fantasies. However, if you think about it carefully, you will find that there are many contradictions in the idealized fantasy of both men and women.

Because of this contradiction, there really is no ideal wife for men in the world. If there is, it must be pure fiction.

So what to do when disillusionment sets in?

The best way is to return to reality. A lot of itself is impossible to exist, so rational men, should also understand the existence of this reality.

Ask yourself what you want, and if you want a mommy version of your wife, don't expect her to idolize you like a daughter.

After all, fantasy is always good, reality is always cruel.

Again, as a woman, we should understand this idea.

Husband and wife can not worship each other like god, also can not really like the parents version of selfless give, always you hurt me, I hurt you mutual mode.

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