Grief & Recovery?

First, before we go into talking about what it means to recover from grief, lets share a clear definition of what grief really is. Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Feelings that you are having that follow a loss are normal and natural for you. More often then not we have been made to believe that our feelings are not valid, are abnormal, and not natural. Truth be told, grief is actually one of the most emotional states of being and it is very much misunderstood.

Grief is also the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior. Let me give you an example of a conflicting feeling. My great Grams is experiencing a debilitating illness and she looks to be suffering. When she passes away I have a feeling of relief because she is no longer suffering her illness. Yet, at the same time, I am no longer able to carry on a conversation with her, hug her, and care for her. I miss her and I am terribly sad. Her loss has created me to feel conflicted.

Many other losses can cause us to feel similar conflicting feelings. We might think of divorce and death as the most obvious losses to produce feelings of grief. Though there are many more life events and experiences throughout our lifetimes that create significant emotional loss. Let's name a few other losses we may experience, such as, moving, graduation, marriage, health changes, loss of safety, financial changes, addictions, and many more.

What is Grief Recovery?

When I first seen the words grief and recovery in the same sentence, it crated a state of confusion for me. As it may also be creating for you. However, that was until I understood exactly what it means to recover from grief.

Simply put, recovery following ones grief means to feel better. Recovery gives us some happiness back, our power to take control, and an ability to live without fear of being hurt again.

What we get from grief recovery is the freedom to enjoy or express our memories without the fear of our regrets or remorse ruining that memory.

When you recover you come out the otherside knowing that it is totally normal and acceptable to be sad. You will also learn that it is okay to speak your truth and your feelings with those around you.

Recovery will help to give you the tools that you need to forgive others, especially when it comes to those who say or do things based on their lack of knowledge about grief. Many people grow up not knowing how to speak about grief, let alone being able to help others properly with their loss. With the tools and skills taught in grief recovery not only will it help to heal your broken heart, it will allow you to be present in all of your relationships.

As a grief recovery specialist it is my job to give you those tools and the skills to help heal your broken heart. I start by taking you through the 7 week evidence-based, educational, action-oriented program. This program has been shown to positively impact the healing and recovery for those impacted by loss. The method is designed to help you with pain, isolation, and loneliness that you might be feeling, caused from loss of any kind. I work online with my clients in a confidential, private home setting, and we meet weekly with a time best suited for your needs.

People say you have to let go and move on in your life, but they don’t tell you how. The Grief Recovery Method 1-on-1 Program teaches you how to recover from loss with supportive guidance every step of the way. The 1-on-1 Action Program is exactly what it suggests — you working on your own recovery guided by Cathleen, Advanced Grief Recovery Method Specialist.

As a specialist I have also gone through this exact process from being impacted by loss in my own life. It helps me to be very empathic and understanding to your own personal feelings and need for healing. I too have had personal experiences with death of loved ones, pet loss, abandonment, divorce, and miscarriage. Many years I carried with me the conflicting feelings of having suffered with unhealthy abusive relationships that included sexual, mental, and physical abuse. Much of this grief was carried on my shoulders, never knowing what to do with it. The Grief Recovery Method® helped to bring closure, relief, and forgiveness to some of these enormous losses. Now having the tools to do something about that grief I want more than anything to share these tools with others so that they can be free.

All my love,

Cathleen xx

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