Finding Your True Values in Life

That's right, your personal values definitely shape your destiny in some way, shape, or form. They can be compared to your golden nest egg in life. That kingpin... maybe. It is human nature to be inspired and laser beam focused on those activities and areas of life that are at the top of your list or hierarchy of personal values. For example, you cannot prevent a person from getting up early in the morning to exercise in the gym or go for a run; No different than a seven-year-old child playing video games for hours with laser beam focus while complaining of boredom when it comes to learning algebra in class. What we focus our time, energy and attention on depends on what we value most in our lives.

How can we find out? Then, the quality of questions you ask yourself helps your mind come up with some creative solutions to indecision as well as those most pressing dramas and issues. Motivational speaker and teacher, Dr. John DeMartini is the genius who came up with the value determinants behind asking quality questions in your life.

First of all, how do you spend your time? It all makes sense, because we humans are here to live life to the fullest. I get it, most of us spend most of our time at work; Yet on one hand, success certainly leaves clues. On the other hand, if you reduce your work hours by choice, to make room for other things in your life... then what are those other things you are making room for? There is always a trade off. For example if you constantly think about your special someone; So it is fair to say that the relationship is above your personal values in that regard. It's no different for a seven-year-old to be excited to learn math in school, while on the other hand, that same seven-year-old can focus again and again for hours on end on a video game like Minecraft.

What would you do if your boss was kind enough to give you an afternoon off from work? Would you rather go home and study in your field to better yourself? go for a massage? Check Your Finances? Work on your behalf? meet people?

How do you fill your position? When you walk into someone's house, and they have a wall full of college degrees; Chances are that mental and intellectual stimulation is high on that person's values. Maybe his career? Or his career in the pursuit of making money? If you want to view someone's room in an office based role; What is displayed on their desk? What's hanging in their cubicle space?

What do you think about the most? It can also be on what you internalize the most. If you are very focused on making more money for example, and are therefore tempted to Google search how to do this, ask yourself how this can be done; It is highly likely that your personal finance/financial situation is high on your hierarchy of values.

What do you talk about in social settings? If you find yourself bored, restless, and/or disinterested and disinterested in what the other person (or a group of people) is sharing, you'll naturally be left out. This tuning is valuable feedback that topics of conversation around a certain life area are low on your list of values. The opposite (dualistic) is true. When you listen to a topic you are passionate about, your body language is positive. Time flies when you are having fun, and only when you are engaged in something that is above your values. No one is watching the clock here. Conversely, what you talk about the most and steer the conversation at parties and other social events significantly hints at what you value most in your life.

what do you spend your money on? If you find that you have more money than you have at the end of the month; It just goes to show that saving money and building wealth (the financial aspect) is low on your values. Once pay day arrives, and the money is spent on (like) clothes and Jimmy Choo shoes before anything else; Fashion and/or beauty is above your values. If saving money and building wealth is 15th on your list, and you are in debt; You will stay in that position until money/finances are at least in the top three of your overall values.

Which activity/activities give you the most energy? Fatigue, boredom, fatigue and restlessness are not related to engaging in an activity that is above your values. For example, your business really loves its business, and it is fair to say that my business is above my personal values in this regard. Nobody wakes me up in the morning and forces me to open my laptop and write. It's second nature to me. Same with other elements of my freelance work. You can have someone on their couch watching a documentary for work, and the next minute they get a phone call saying they've won an all-expenses paid interstate trip. As a result, this same person is up on the couch, full of beans in two seconds. Traveling is more on that person's values than being a student or some other professional. In some temporary part time jobs that you really have; I've found that some tasks give me a high, while others fill me with energy while I stare at the computer screen in disbelief, unproductiveness, and annoyance; Even with the high paying gigs.

The areas of your life where you find yourself most organized and organized provide valuable insight as to your highest values in life. Take a person who signs up for a gym membership, and has a group exercise timetable attached to their fridge and/or a notice board at home, and/or at work highlighting certain classes and times; I'll bet your bottom dollar that he is highly organized when it comes to his health and fitness. Those who drop out of gym membership early fall into the opposite camp. Again, no criticism, what it is, and how humans are naturally attracted and interested in areas of life that are important to them. It's no different than someone who plans their meals a week in advance to cook healthy meals while someone else talks about their dietary needs.

This leads to the next determinant of values: Where are you most disciplined and focused? The areas of your life that you focus a laser beam on while you work and/or listen to TED Talks just goes to show what is really important to that person. For one person listening to (say) a podcast on crypto lights up their world, while for another the same podcast puts them to sleep.

What we fantasize about the most also leaves valuable footprints. The journals that a person grabs hold of to cut out images to place on their vision board are another valuable feedback mechanism on what is important to that person in their dreams coming to life. Additionally, the areas of your life that inspire you the most give off some clues. For example, if you study and admire Richard Branson, being an entrepreneur and businessman is valuable to you, whereas, on the other hand, if you study Michael Jordan, sports and fitness are valuable to you.

Combine what you love to learn about with the books you love to read, and the content you love to listen to – with the seminars you attend in your precious free time that impresses you. provides invaluable insight on what it does.

It's also a good idea to think about your life and focus on the goals you've achieved; Especially long term goals. If we set goals in areas of our life that are low in our hierarchy of values; We resent ourselves, and therefore feel bad and hard on ourselves for not achieving. It's because that field is low on your list of values. It seems that codependency and people-pleasing dominate.

As mentioned in the sub-heading of this article; The good news is that we don't need to settle for the order of the hierarchy of our values unless we really want to. Nothing is permanent or set in stone here. Once you have read all the questions and tips above; Then you keep a personal count of how many times each area of your life comes up - even if it's only once.

For example, let's say that your finances are number one in your hierarchy of values, and your health is third; Any space beyond the second space. In this scenario, you may not be happy with it. Now is the time to merge the values of health and finance together, so that your health comes first, while your finance comes second. Now ask yourself "How can living healthy benefit my financial situation?" and "How can being healthy enable me to achieve (whatever financial goals - eg save money, pay off debt and build wealth)?" List the maximum benefits you can get from answering these questions. Go scoundrel. If you aim for at least 50-100, then a serious inner shift has happened, and you will begin to notice these changes in your life. For example, you will be healthy, and your bank account balance will start increasing. If not, some portion of your income will start staying with you for a while. In turn, list the benefits of adding this shift by listing how a higher level of value can benefit a lower level of value.

There's no hard and fast rule for how many times you need to do this entire exercise; Yet once every six months is a sweet spot. The ball is in your court here. If your life is in a state of flux, and you want to move the goal posts more often; Then it is necessary to regularly examine your system of values, and make necessary changes. The magazine is your best friend here; If a simple notebook and paper will not suffice.

To conclude, if the hierarchy of your value system could speak to you, as well as the previous higher values... it would ask you to let it go. That's right, just let me go...and I don't care anymore. You really have to sign off with a song, because the music is inspiring right now. This song by Grimes is the best chill music of all in addition to being pretty upbeat. It's on topic. It's great to listen to, no matter the mood or time of day. You are welcomed. By focusing on your values, you can shine. Again, one of the best hits you'll find on the subject of this article...is speaking to your hierarchy of values. If you destroy something in life that is not serving you... it can't be all bad can it?