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12 indications you're stressed without realizing it and how to relax
Stress may cause bloating, acid reflux, procrastination, and overspending,
Stress is something that everyone has experienced at some point in their lives. When everything seems like it's getting on top of you, you can practically feel the tension increasing throughout your body. You may also notice that your shoulders are hunching and that a headache is starting to form.
In spite of this, a lot of the time we might be dealing with stress without even being aware of it. "Even though stress can have an effect on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in many different ways, spotting the signs isn't always easy. This is especially true if you've been coping with a lot for a long time, or if there's no obvious single cause for your stress. "
In the modern world, we can become so accustomed to being stressed that we actually are not always aware of our stress until we are at the boiling point,
To begin mitigating the harmful effects of stress, it is "imperative" to first get familiar with the symptoms of stress. In this article, we are going to discuss 12 warning signals that are not uncommon but nevertheless startling. However, if you are concerned about your symptoms in any manner, you should always visit your primary care physician since they may also be evidence of other health problems.
Bleeding gums
When your immune system is suppressed, it may be more difficult for your body to defend you against hazardous mouth bacteria, which may lead to bleeding gums. "High levels of cortisol – the stress hormone – over a long period can impact the ability of your immune system to work well. When your immune system is suppressed, it may be more difficult for your body to protect you against harmful mouth bacteria.
Procrastination
Procrastination is a stress-related behavior, not laziness. Procrastination may be overcome by starting with the toughest job. Avoiding obligations would just make you feel more stuck.”
A morning jawache
Our brain tells our muscles to stiffen up when we're stressed to prevent damage and suffering. “If you’re waking up with a clenched jaw or feeling more sensitive than usual, it could be a sign you’re more stressed than you realize.”
Sexual apathy
“Reduced libido can be very difficult to explain from one person to another,” due to physical ailments, interpersonal issues, or mental health issues like depression. But feeling overwhelmed by life events may frequently lead to a lack of sexual desire.”
Gastric reflux
“Stress can increase stomach acid, which may worsen acid reflux in people with gastroesophageal reflux disease.”
Cleaning
If you find that you have an increased urge to control your environment – for example, feeling the need to clean more than usual, or becoming irritated when objects are misplaced in your home – it could be a sign of stress," When other aspects of our lives become more chaotic and stressful, you may find that you become preoccupied with those aspects of your life that you can control. For example, you may become irritated when objects are misplaced in your home.
Bloating
"Stress can cause a reduction in the amount of blood that flows to your gut, which makes it more difficult for your body to digest food. As a result, this can lead to abdominal pain and constipation."
Trouble sleeping
nsomnia is characterized by an inability to fall asleep or to maintain sleep for extended periods of time, both of which are necessary in order to wake up feeling refreshed. When we are under a lot of pressure, our minds may wander to thoughts of the future, and we may have trouble falling asleep as a result. Alternatively, we may wake up in the middle of the night worried about the things we haven't finished yet in our life. Insomnia may, of course, be attributable to a variety of different factors; but, it may be an indication of stress if our normal pattern of sleep has been disrupted as a result of a more hectic period in our lives.
Oily skin
This extra oil may clog your pores and contribute to skin problems such as spot breakouts and acne, which can leave you feeling even more stressed than you were before. "Cortisol implies that your skin's glands create more natural oil when you are stressed.
Unanticipated and unwelcome weight gain
It's possible that stress is to blame for your weight gain, even while you’re making healthy food and exercise choices. "When your body is in fight or flight mode, your cortisol levels increase. Cortisol gives your bloodstream a higher sugar content, which can have an impact on your rate of metabolism, which can lead to weight gain." [Citation needed] "When your body is in fight or flight mode, your cortisol levels increase.
Irregular periods
If you notice a shift in your menstrual cycle, it may be an indication that you are under a lot of stress. cortisol can affect the ability of your hypothalamus to work well and release reproductive hormones in a regular manner." "As a consequence, you might experience fewer or skipped periods."
overspending or going shopping too often "Dopamine is released when you make a purchase, which may temporarily improve your mood. However, this may lead you to make further purchases in an effort to sustain the high that shopping gives you.
How to really unwind and relax
Recognize the strain that you are under.
Until you recognize the stress in your life, nothing will change," says the psychologist. "The change toward calm can be tremendous when you accept it as it is rather than ignoring it," says author.
Close your eyes
Because the contemporary world is so overstimulated, you may be shocked to learn how much of a stress-relieving impact just shutting your eyes for a few minutes can have.
Prepare a timetable for your downtime.
Whether it's listening to your favorite music while dancing around the kitchen or reading for thirty minutes, purposefully set out time for the things that you like and are aware help you feel more at ease.
Spend time in the great outdoors.
Spending time near water and in green areas may assist to lower our levels of the stress hormone cortisol, as well as increase our levels of the feel-good chemicals endorphin and dopamine, respectively.
Call a friend
Talk to someone about whatever it is that keeps running through your head whenever you find that you can't stop thinking about it.When we open up to other people about how we are feeling, it may help us reframe those sentiments, which in turn can lead to more optimistic thinking and less panic about our situation.
Listen to music
A research that was conducted in 2017 found that listening to music for only twenty minutes may assist to considerably reduce levels of stress. "Easing your anxiety, slowing your heart rate, and lowering your blood pressure are all side effects of listening to the music you enjoy the most,"
If you want this to work, make a playlist of songs or sounds from nature, like the sound of waves crashing on the shore or the sound of birds chirping, and allow your mind to focus on the various melodies, specific instruments, or the singers," the author advises. "This will make it more effective."
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But after looking at the research, this is what I've come to know as a symptom for the deeper problem, which runs much more deeply - it's the root cause of this distraction. It's not that we're distracted; it's that our brains are overstimulated. It's that we crave distraction in the first place. Our brains love these tiny little nuggets of information and social media and email and these things that we do over the course of the day. There's even a mechanism in our mind called the "novelty bias," by which our mind rewards us with a hit of dopamine, one of those wonderful pleasure chemicals, the same one we get when we eat and order a whole medium pizza from Domino's, you know, the same one that we get when we make love. We get that same stimulation when we check Facebook. We get this dopamine coursing through our mind. And so we not only crave distraction, but our mind rewards us for seeking out and finding distraction in the first place. So, this is the state of our minds today. 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Maybe this morning you were taking a shower, or maybe some morning in the past, and then your mind had a chance to connect several of the constellations of ideas that were swirling around in your mind to create an idea that would never have materialized otherwise if you were focused on something else, on your phone, for example. This is a mode, especially when we do this deliberately, when we deliberately let our mind wander; I call this mode "scatter focus." And the research shows that it lets our mind come up with ideas, it lets our mind plan because of where our mind wanders to. This is fascinating. It turns out that when we just let our attention rest, it goes to three main places: We think about the past, we think about the present, and we think about the future. But we think about the past less than we might think, only about 12% of the time, and often we're recalling ideas in these thought-wandering episodes. But the present, which is a much more productive place to wander - we wander to think about the present 28% of the time. And this is, you know, something as simple as you're typing up an email and you can't find a way to phrase something because it's very delicate, maybe it's political, you go and walk to another room, to another room of the house, the office, and the solution hits you because your mind had a chance to approach it and prod at that problem from different directions. But here's the thing: our minds wander to think about the future more than the past and the present combined. Whenever our mind is wandering, we think about the future 48% of the time. This is why when we're taking a shower, we plan out our entire day, even though it hasn't started yet. This is called our mind's prospective bias, and it occurs when our mind wanders. If you're good with math, or maths, I should say - not in Canada anymore - these numbers don't add up to 100. 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It could be simple; if you're at work walking from one room to another in the office - very simple change - but if you don't use your phone during that walk, your mind will go to the meeting that you're about to attend, it'll go to the call that you were just on, it'll wander to the ideas that are circulating, and it'll make you more creative in this way. It could be something as simple as waiting in line and just, I don't know, waiting in line. It could be getting a massage. You know, whatever it is that lets your mind - I love this picture so much - (Laughter) whatever you love doing. Here's a pro tip: Ask your masseuse to let you have a notepad in the session because ideas always come to you and you're always incubating things, so capture them so you can act upon them later. But I think, after doing this deep dive into the research, we need to make two fundamental shifts with regard to how we think about our attention. We think that we need to fit more in - you know, there's all this talk about "hustling." I'm an anti-hustler. I'm one of the laziest people you'll ever meet, and I think that's what gives me so many ideas to talk and write about. We don't need to fit more in. We're doing enough; we're doing too much. We're doing so much that our mind never wanders anymore. It's sad. This is when our best ideas and plans come to us. We need more space. If you look at what allows traffic to move down a highway, what allows it to move forward isn't how fast cars are moving, as you might expect, it's how much space exists between the cars that allows traffic to move forward. Our work and our life are the same way. The second shift: we like to think of distraction as the enemy of focus. It is not. It is a symptom of why we find it difficult to focus, which is the fact that our mind is overstimulated. I have a challenge for you. It's a two-week challenge, but it's a challenge to make your mind a bit less stimulated and simply notice: what happens to your attention? How many ideas do you get? How does your focus change? How many plans do you make? So, for two weeks, make your mind less stimulated. There are so many great features on phones, on devices that'll let us eliminate a lot of the time we waste on our devices. Use those features, not only to become aware of how you spend your time but how you can spend less so you have more ideas. Have a disconnection ritual every evening. One of my favorite daily rituals: I disconnect from the Internet completely from 8pm to 8am. My fiancée and I, we have a weekly disconnection ritual, a technology Sabbath every Sunday, so we can disconnect from the digital world and reconnect with the physical world, the real, actual world. Rediscover boredom - you don't have to do it for an hour. Please don't call Air Canada. It's just a world of hell. But rediscover boredom, just for a few minutes. Lay on the couch, and where does your mind go? And scatter your attention. You'll find some remarkably fruitful things in that attentional zone. If there's one thing that I have found to be true after doing this deep dive into this world on how we focus, it's that the state of our attention is what determines the state of our lives. If we're distracted in each moment, those moments of distraction and overstimulation build up and accumulate to create a life that feels more distracted and overwhelming, like we don't have a clear direction. But when we become less stimulated, when we make our mind more calm, we get the benefits of added productivity and focus and ideas and creativity, but we also live a better life because of it. Thank you so much. (Applause)
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People nowadays are really stressed so this is all for you https://vocal.media/poets/wings-of-resilience-a-journey-through-adversity
right - i always listen to music at times like this and that's so helpful!