What's Your Little Pain?

　　But all become friends, put aside some kind of interest in the relationship, mostly because they have the same interests and hobbies. I have no interest in entanglement with W, but have many of the same interests, for example, we do not smoke, do not gamble on drugs, both like quiet, also love to drink, and more importantly, love to get drunk.

　　Frankly speaking, if not working in the same company, I guarantee that we have long lost contact. Because he never took the initiative, even if he was kind enough to ask him, he would always refuse with a reason without reason: no!

　　Not to go is not to go, and not with you any explanation, you love how to understand. Once to put up with him, twice to put up with him, time after time, you still put up with it? And not to beg him what! So, his friends around him one by one to know the difficulties and back. I believe that this can not blame others, he did make many people unbearable, but I can tolerate him, L can also tolerate him, tolerate him not because he did not see his shortcomings, but found that he has a more valuable side of human nature, this side, far more than his shortcomings highlighted.

　　He does not like to talk, see who do not say hello, not a word a day, he often has mouth ulcers, remember a colleague once laughed at him: you just talk too little! The air in his mouth is not circulating. He had a habit of drinking, as long as others and he clinked glasses, he immediately dry, and lowered his head to drink, never caring whether others in the cup of wine finished. He mostly lives alone, and when he gets home from work, he first turns on the TV, turns up the sound on the TV, and then starts to concentrate on the Internet, asking him who is watching the TV, he says he wants to add some popularity! Not many people in this world want to be alone.

　　The first thing you need to do is to take out all of your savings, not to bet on him winning, but to tell L: you dare to do it, I support you. l financing needs, he mortgaged his property together. It's not easy to have a nice house in Guangzhou, it's his years of hard work, but he didn't seem to think about it. He and L do not often see each other, meet also do not have much to say, just because L is his good friend, a good brother. The good brother has something to do, he is willing to turn around. Sometimes I'm in a hurry to open my mouth to him, which is faster than inviting him to dinner, as long as he has, never hesitates a moment. He is not richer than L and I, just that he does not have any investment ideas, the income will only save up. In this regard, it is considered that L and I have taken advantage of them, and therefore, we have to "tolerate" him in every way.

　　We tolerate him for one more reason: his situation is not very good, or even very bad. He has been divorced, and until now is not successful, his father is partially paralyzed, his brother has terminal oral cancer, a long time to do chemotherapy, and now basically gives up. He is in a bad mood, with some emotions, and some self-absorption, which L and I can understand. If these happen to others, maybe the whole day of grieving, but he did not mention a word, about what suffering a person to swallow.

　　On the first day off from work after the New Year, I went to the clubhouse with L to play ball, and the three of us had dinner together in the evening, and every time we had dinner we used to drink a few glasses, but this time he drank too much, or because our topic touched his emotional defenses and made him cry.

　　He told us that now the only pillar of the family - his mother - also has oral cancer! The doctor said the disease is hereditary, and his own "mouth ulcers" are no less severe than those of his mother and brother. The family asked him to go for a check-up, but he was determined not to go, saying he didn't want to know the result! The table was silent for a long time, and L and I had tears in our eyes.

　　He wanted to go home to be with them, to do his duty as a son and a brother, but financially he had to be supported by him, he had to insist on working, saving money, and using his salary to buy more time for his loved ones' lives.

　　He and his mother's situation, he knew early, even in front of his best friends, he did not want to mention too much, he did not want to put on a painful or let people pity him in front of others do not want others to share his pain and grief. Some people who don't know him would say he is autistic and indifferent! How many people can be as strong as he is if they are carrying so much misery on their backs?

　　On the way back, my tears flowed again! As his good friend and brother, what can we do for him? Or nothing at all. He used a cruel reality to set a scale for us to measure happiness, so that we instantly understand that even though we also have such and such a bad, compared to him, we this pain, but what! Shouldn't we live contentedly and gratefully?