Deep Dive Into One or the Other

Subhi Najar's (Medium writer) new Deep Dive is out and here's my contribution to his questions.

1. Day or night, and why?

I’ve always been a night owl and I guess that stems from being a single mother for all of my boys lives.

Night was the only time I could achieve quality ‘me’ time so I abhorred the need to waste any minute of those hours sleeping.

2. Summer or winter, and why?

Definitely summer. I don’t suffer winter and the cold well at all. In fact I’m allergic to the cold and suffer horribly. Winter is synonymous to hibernating while I wait the cold weather out.

Summer, on the other hand, is a glorious time of the year and nature calls to me. Whether that’s in the form of the beach, a long, cool rainforest trek or a fishing adventure. Summer is the season whereby I come alive.

3. Tea or coffee? and why?

I love both tea and coffee but my preference is certainly coffee.

Funnily enough, I detested coffee when I was young, until I turned eighteen that was.

When I was eighteen, I was unfortunate enough to be involved in a bank robbery and I was the closest person to the gun wielding robber. If there’d been a hostage situation, I would have been it. Thankfully that wasn’t the case.

However, once the incident was over and the robber escaped, the bank manager rushed to get me a cup of coffee, to help me calm down as I was in shock. At the time, I didn’t have the heart to tell him I didn’t drink or like coffee and to placate him I did drink the entire cup.

Much to my surprise I enjoyed that cup of coffee that day and I’ve been a coffee drinker ever since.

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4. Guitar, piano, or maybe another instrument, and why?

I’m not at all musical, in fact, I’m tone deaf, so playing an instrument is not in the cards for me. However, I am a music lover and enjoy listening to a wide range of music genres.

I am partial to listening to and watching an epic guitar riff and I’m often left in awe of the guitar gods that seem to play this instrument effortlessly.

5. Still or sparkling water, and why?

I would have to choose still water for this one. I find sparkling water quite bitter, alongside the same lines as soda water or tonic water is bitter.

6. A time off in the mountains or near the seaside, and why?

Each of these choices have their place and in this instance I’m going to have to choose both.

I love anything to do with nature but when I’m worried or stressed, I always head to the water. When I want a beautiful hike through our glorious scenery, I head to the mountains for the day.

7. The city or the countryside, and why?

I’m a 110% country girl at heart and feel the most comfortable in the country. Country people are friendlier and life in the country is a simpler, slower paced life. Country people will always lend a helping hand and you are, by far, safer in the country.

Sadly, the same cannot be said for the city. People in the city are estranged and compartmentalised. They don’t want to know you, don’t want to move outside their little box of a life and they wouldn’t think to lend a helping hand to a stranger. City people just don’t want to get involved in something that’s not going to advance or enrich their life in some way. There’s also far more danger in a city.

Don’t come for me city people as this choice is based on my own personal experience.

8. Venus or Mars? and why?

This is the only question in which I won’t choose one or the other, for no other reason than I don’t have a preference in either option.

9. Reading or writing and why?

I love both reading and writing and although I do spend a number of hours wiling away from the real world by escaping into the pages of a good book, I’m still going to choose writing.

Reading to me is a luxury that I enjoy immensely but writing is an absolute need.

I ‘need’ to write to survive. If you could spend an hour in my head, you’d understand why I make that comment. I write to process my thoughts, to deal with my emotions, to let shit go and to clear out my over cluttered mind.

To not write would be a form of suicide to me.

10. Love or being loved, and why?

Both of these choices are beautiful and there’s no better feeling in the world than love. While I, like everyone, has a need to be loved, I find loving someone is far more satisfying and fulfilling.

I pride myself on bending over backwards for those I love and doing all possible to ensure they are safe, happy and have all that they need.

What a great set of questions Subhi has included in this deep dive. Thank you Subhi.

Will you join us in this deep dive and allow those that read your responses, to get to know you a little better by answering these questions?

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Originally published on Medium