Creating Equality Starts with You

Speaking to myself: Reminding my soul: Revival:

You’re not in this world to change others, you’re in this world to change yourself. Your focus is not to be on others, but on yourself to learn, grow, build, care for self, and live a life that is wanted from the standards of self (we lose our individualized standards as we compare ourselves to others.) With that (focusing on your own behavior and growth) you will learn to love others, respect others, help others, understand others, and be 1 with others (instead of focusing on how others need to change/grow, you’re too busy focusing on yourself — realizing that we have a hard time controlling ourselves and there is no place for us to judge others.)

We are not meant to live life FOR others either, but WITH others. We have no place to try to control others in any way, shape, or form. Their life is THEIR own. (Control can look like: “You need to make better choices,” “You need to make sure you go even if you don’t want to,” “You should be in a better place in life by now.” It’s telling others how to live their lives based off your own standards of how you believe everyone should be living. Also, if someone is hurting themselves or others, it’s not your responsibility to control them, belittle them, or “open their eyes,” it’s your responsibility to stay true to “self” and with that you will be what others need of you (not what you need of them – that person is responsible for “self” to provided what you need of them) An example of staying true to self and not controlling another is “where have your choices gotten you?” asking a question without judgment but for further understanding and growth.

There should be no worries of being taken advantage of or being hurt/betrayed by others since the priority in the first place is to focus on “self,” meaning you will not tolerate being continuously deceived or betrayed. You will have your limits. If someone doesn’t respect those boundaries — then that someone no longer has the privilege of doing life WITH you (and vice versa - focusing on self will create you to have a mature, respectful, and loving behavior therefore giving you the lovely privilege of being in the lives of others. You are a gift to them as they are a gift to you.)

Also, as you focus on “self,” you will know that the betrayal or disrespect given to you by someone is not something personal toward you — but something the person who committed the act is dealing with. Of course, it’s heartbreaking to want that person in your life and you needing to dismiss them, but it’s a loving act toward them to let them go and give them an opportunity to learn and grow. Tough love is genuine and selfless. It’s also a loving act toward yourself — causing an increase in self-trust and a decrease in fear/anxiety.

Bottom line: regardless of degrees, accomplishments, manners, knowledge, wisdom, and so forth — each human we interact with is of EQUAL value to self. We each have a gift and a purpose that was planted in us directly by God (I know some people don’t believe in God, maybe a different God, the Universe, or a higher power?).

Thinking anyone is less because of their lifestyle undermines God’s (the God you believe in) knowledge and creation. Who defines humanity for us: Worldly standards or your Creator? Worldly standards place us each at different levels, different value/worthiness, different levels of deserving respect…. Meanwhile the truth behind humanity is that we are all equals and should be treated as such. Treating anyone otherwise shows you that YOU have some work to do on “self.”