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Why you're drifting away from your friends, and that's okay

by Honeybee Articles 2 years ago in friendship
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That's life

When we're going up, our friends are a huge part of our lives. When you look back you remember all the sleep overs, parties, the notes you passed in class. How you talked to each other about everything, nothing could pull you apart. But as life continued to go on, you realized you haven't talked to them in a while. It's been a good minute since you hung out, and that's okay.

You grew up: When we grow up, we start to change. We start to enjoy different things, the joke we found funny when you were 18 might not be as funny 5, 10, 15 years later. You start connecting with people who share your adult interest, you might outgrow the bar scene while your best friends till party every weekend. You're finding yourself, your passions in life and that's something to be proud of.

You don't have anything is common anymore: Having similar interests is what connects people, plain and simple. Now, when you get in touch here and there you start to realize you don't have anything in common anymore. When you're talking you're finding it hard to hold a conversation, even bringing up the past doesn't hold well anymore. It can be sad and even hard at first because you never thought the day would come, but that's life.

You started a family: Starting a family of your own is a huge blessing, especially when you get married, have kids and one day you wake up and realize you did it. You made it. You're a parent! You're learning everything baby, sending your kid on their first day of school and eventually going to their after school activities. Your family has movie nights and take out days and you absolutely love it! When a old friend comes in looking to hang out like the good old days, that's just not your thing anymore. You have a family now. And that's where you want to be.

They haven't changed: This is pretty similar to the growing up section. But we're going to discuss it anyway. Your friends haven't changed. Throughout the years you have your own place, family, job, grew mentally, spiritually and when you look back to when you were younger you're proud at how far you have come. Your friend on the other hand still acts the same way they did in school. Nothing is new. They are still single. Still working the same job. And have somebody they are talking to, but not sure where it's going to go. There is no shame of drifting away, you don't have to surround yourself with people that aren't on your level anymore. You still care about them, but somethings you're too old to talk about anymore.

You moved away: You moved away from your hometown and at first everybody you used to talk to still hits you up, but after a while the messages start to fade. Then eventually nobody contacts you, on social media you still see everybody hanging out, but you're no longer tagged. But at the same time you're doing the same thing, you found a new group of friends, start seeing new things and your old life is in the rearview mirror. It's nothing to feel bad about. That's growth, you did what many people are afraid to do, and that's leave the only place they know as home.

Anyway, that was just a few of the reasons why friends drift apart, but like we said earlier, that's life. It happens. Sure there are some people who are best friends their whole life which is awesome. But for most of us, the cookie doesn't crumble that way. Once in a while you'll talk and then for months or even years you won't. But you'll never hate each other for it, you both know your lives have changed and along the way you'll think of each other now an again. If you think about it, that's best friends for life, being in someone's heart even if you can't be there in person.

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