When Sex Is All You Two Have

Have you ever met someone that you were attracted to followed by intriguing and stimulating conversation that lead to impromptu/non impromptu dates that left your mind swirling and your loins overheated. Flirty conversations and careful footing when answering those questions of the past, present and future plans highlighted with hints of sex flying all around leads to a hell of a build up. Nothing like actually liking someone who gets you and makes you feel excited and anxiety all at the same time. I mean how else is Mr Right suppose to make an entrance or appearance without dazzling the dame right? I'm still a firm believer in chivalry guys.

So now after careful speculation and desire you engage in sexual bliss with this person and find them to be all that you like and all that need to move this new found suitor into lover-ville. And at first all seems wonderful because it's new. Little things that normally would ignite you don't seem so bad. You find yourself engaging in conversations or activities that normally you wouldn't but for some strange reason because it's coming from this person your so smitten with it becomes okay. Until it isn't, and that first disagreement surfaces and you both get to see the other person's "bs", also known as the real them.

Now a betting man might say this is when you examine the table to see the pros and cons worths and risks to decide to hold em or fold em. But when good D is on the table all that goes out the window with the baby and the milk, lol. Now ladies and gentlemen am I lying? :) Has to be some truth there because even though we may not get along we still have great sex and our bodies still like each other so the struggle becomes very real. The tug of war of control, power and dominance becomes a competition between both male & female at this point and because of this the first unnoticed crack surfaces on the perfectly polished glass house of facade.

Does reoccurring disagreements & breakups take place? Yes. Does the relationship stop? To some degree. Does the sex stop? No. This is the stage of limits and no one likes limits so this is the most uncomfortable period when dealing with someone because this is when you know you need to walk a way but your weak and scared so you don't. Instead you stay and deal with the sad truth of neither one wanting to say its over yet alone to ultimately say goodbye to one another.

Why you ask? You wonder why even still? Lust my friend and orgasms from a lover that knows your body so well not to mention they fit your body perfectly and that's not easy to walk out and replace like that. Don't get me wrong i'm not saying you cant find a quick little in the clutch but I am saying how likely will you want to be bothered with them.. Talk to them.. lay around all weekend or for days with.. Cook for.. Or go to the store with? To me that determines my level of dealing with someone it's a great measurer of that.

After experiencing all of this and hearing all sorts of sound advice from friends and family alike and after examining self and being real with self do you call it quits? Do you stop being a slave to the D and do whats best for you in search of some new D? In theory yes but in reality many have went right back to from which they just left. Couldn't stand the lonely nights and laying next to a cold side of the bed but would rather go back to that warm body attached to that part that makes you explode and feel that way that only they can make you feel. The real question is.. is it really a bad thing? If you find that you can't stop dealing with someone should you stop fighting it and surrender or should you keep fronting and fight it?

Should there be other factors involved besides communication like abuse, cheating, lying or should what has happened up until this point be the only thing weighed? I just know that when it comes to matters of the heart it's hard to be matter of fact because when feelings are involved it's hard to play things from the bleachers. Your to close to and up on it which makes it harder to see except from your perspective. It's hard to stop dealing with someone you really like and want for things to get better with if only they could get there stuff together, because somewhere in our mental space we have formulated our fantasy of what we would like to see happen vs what is actually happening. Which sounds super crazy and like your out of touch with real time reality but a bit of that has to be true to even be at this point correct? Lol.

Moral of the story is as long as all parties are at consenting legal age and no one is being forced or harmed or influenced in any addictive or negative way just try to be as safe and good natured as possible but don't be anyones fool. And should you find yourself in a bad relationship don't talk about it unless you really need help and your truly ready to leave.