What Questions Should You Ask Yourself Before Breaking Up with a Lover?

Relationship problems typically top the list when it comes to things that keep us up at night, thinking about the choices we've made in our lives.

Problems and issues having to do with family relationships are no little thing by a long shot. But as troublesome as these type of relationships can be, some people would agree that romantic relationships tend to cause you the most trouble of all.

If you're currently in the midst of a questionable relationship that you fear is no longer working for you, you probably agree with the above title.

Sad to say, more people are in a bad romantic relationship than they are willing to admit. There are lots of reasons for this kind of denial, but one popular one has to do with our reluctance to make changes.

Sometimes, we prefer not to seriously examine our relationships, for fear of what we may have suspected for a long time; you're no longer happy and you think it's time to go.

I've been in this situation myself, time and time again, until I finally wrote a guidebook for myself and for others, to help me remember everything I learned from each breakup.

Although I wrote the information about my heterosexual relationship, the things I learned and that I share below, can help in any type of romantic relationship. I wrote it several years ago, but the information is just as relevant and timely today.

For example, let's consider…

Why Should You Go?

Aside from the obvious reasons like when your safety or your livelihood is threatened, there are lots of ways that a relationship can be bad for you.

For instance, if he claims to love you but is constantly causing you emotional pain, this may be a good reason to split.

Of course, all of us make mistakes that can potentially end up hurting someone's feelings.

But no matter what the circumstances are, there is no reason to allow someone to continue hurting you time and time again.

When a person is truly sorry for a wrong that they have done, they make a point of not doing it again. If this is not the case in your current relationship, it may very well be time for you to give up.

You cannot continue staying with a person when you know in your heart that the relationship is deteriorating. It doesn't matter whether he puts you down all the time, has a controlling personality, won't work or help out at home, or takes advantage of you by lying and cheating.

You have got to make a decision on how long you want to continue living your life in this manner.

This may all be more than just a bit familiar to you. These comments may be a mirror of your own life and current relationship. You may even be resisting the urge to stop reading so you can continue burying your head in the sand.

Your man has probably told you how much he really loves you and how very sorry he is for any and all his offenses.

But the fact that you're reading this information means that this isn't the first time you've heard those excuses. The sad thing is, if you continue to stick around, it probably won't be the last.

Final Thoughts

As you can see, the above material, as brief as it was, has given you plenty of food for thought. And that is exactly what you should do.

• Think about the points I just made and how they apply to your situation specifically.
• Tell yourself that no matter what the answers are, you’re finally ready to face the truth head on.
• Take some time when being honest with yourself, and allow the truth to set in completely, as you consider what your next step should be.

One thing for sure, is that what you’re considering is no easy task. Sometimes it hurts like hell to take a long hard look at the relationship you’ve been over romanticizing or outright lying about.

But you will never be able to fix the problem unless you face it head on, call it for what it is, and act according.

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