What is immaturity?

1. Lack of a sense of personal boundaries

Those naive people around you must have one thing in common:

On the surface, it is easy to get along with others, but in fact, he is a good man of ten thousand years. He is good at being bullied, and even if he is betrayed, he puts on a smiley face. People around him occasionally bully this kind of person, and they all feel that it is no big deal.

Friends who have no bottom line, no principles, and no real facts are the truest portrayal of immaturity.

And what about really mature people?

Some trivial matters, it's okay to joke around, people don't offend me, I don't offend others.

But once it touches the bottom line - no, there is no negotiation, everything is decisive, and your dignity and bottom line are greater than everything.

Childish people always want to please everyone around them, and have a bit of a pleasing personality.

Mature people, on the other hand, will not kneel and lick, let alone flatter them. They earn their dignity by themselves, and everyone will save some face for them.

easily offended.

2. Very poor emotional control

I don't know if you have noticed: naive people always like to write their emotions on their faces.

When I'm happy, I show it off all over the place, for fear that others won't be able to catch my braids. If you are unhappy, you will immediately shake your face, regardless of the occasion and place, wherever you go, you will be the object of embarrassment.

Once you have achieved a little achievement, you will immediately brag to others, unable to hide your emotions on your face, let alone anything in your heart.

And what about mature people?

Mature people never deliberately show off what they have. He won't tell others what books he's read, where he's been, and what luxury items are in his closet. Even if others brag in front of him, he'll just smile and pass.

Such a person has no sense of inferiority.

Mature people are actually very strong in restraining their emotions. Because they know that they may be disgusted by others because of their unintentional bragging, and they may attract unnecessary enemies because of a bluster.

The more thoughtful a person is, the more he knows how to behave, the more he understands what it means to be humble and what it means to be a low-key person.

3. Very poor self-discipline

Immature people don't know what they want at all.

When you encounter a little difficulty, you have to live by it, when you encounter a little setback, you choose to escape. You are always willing to spend a lot of time on meaningless pastimes, and you don’t have a minimum plan and understanding of your life.

And what about mature people?

They are often particularly successful with themselves, have clear and firm plans for love, career, and ideals, and are willing to take action to implement them.

Self-discipline is actually one of the key criteria for judging whether a person is mature.

If a person does not even know what he wants, he will always be in a state of confusion and inaction about life, and he has no courage to be responsible for himself. Naturally, it will be difficult to bear the weight of "maturity".

4. Unreasonable

Naive people are generally divided into three categories: those who are kidnapped by morality at every turn on the Internet; those who are full of benevolence, righteousness and morality, and who are full of men and prostitutes; those who do things without considering the consequences and rely on intuition.

And what about mature people?

Not only has the bottom line for morality, but also has the ability to judge right and wrong about things, know what to do and what not to touch.

When you get along with a mature person, you will have an inexplicable sense of security, and you will not worry about the person doing something out of the ordinary, which will affect you, and you will not learn some bad habits from this person.

Maturity is a kind of temperament, which can not only make you exude a stable temperament, but also bring a positive influence to the people around you.

5. Don't know how to be grateful

When a person is immature, he can tell by his attitude towards his parents.

What is immaturity?

When I go home to be the boss, I make a lot of demands on my parents. I’m used to the days when I’m used to clothes and food, and I don’t show any respect and gratitude to my parents. This is naive, and I don’t accept any refutation.

What is mature performance?

In my opinion, when you are an adult, you can take on family responsibilities, know how to be grateful, and start worrying about your parents' life, health, and career. This is a sign of mental maturity.

6. Inability to acknowledge the excellence of others

There is one that is particularly annoying and quite naive - obviously he is not satisfied with half a bottle, and he especially likes to point fingers at others.

When you see someone else buying a house, you have to reason about "the house doesn't keep its value";

When you see someone getting a promotion and a salary increase, you have to say "it must be sex with the boss";

Seeing that someone else has a partner, I quarreled that "these two have a one-night stand at most"......

In the eyes of such people, they have no ability, but they must not see the good of others. Whenever others make a little achievement, they are all attributable to the scheming and luck of others, and they are unwilling to admit the talent and efforts of others.

And what about really mature people?

Such people will never be stingy with their own recognition. When they see the excellence of others, they can not only express their appreciation from the bottom of their hearts, but also know how to keep up with excellent people.

Although mature people may not be liked by everyone, they must have loyal friends and partners around them.

7. Lack of sense of responsibility

When you get along with naive people, you can clearly feel that no matter what happens in the hands of such people, you are not at ease.

Naive people generally lack the sense of responsibility they should have, let alone a sense of responsibility. They don’t care about what they should undertake. The most important thing is to live a comfortable and happy life, and they don’t think about others at all. feeling.

And what about getting along with mature people?

Such people generally have a strong sense of time, they will definitely do what they promise, they will not take the initiative to create trouble for others, and they will take the initiative to take care of other people's feelings.

When you get along or work with mature people, you can always feel particularly at ease. Even if there is a problem, mature people can take the initiative to take responsibility and will not choose to avoid or shirk.

8. Have your own attitude towards feelings

Mature people will not live up to any affectionate relationship, nor will they be ambiguous with people who have no results.

And naive people, whether for love or friendship, their attitude is often swaying and vague. Love playing cold and violent, like cheating, and hurt people at every turn, these are the naive motto.

Such people are particularly frivolous in the emotional world, all relying on their own subjective consciousness, being led by the nose, and rushing to and fro.

Not taking the initiative, not rejecting, not being responsible, anyone who maintains such an attitude towards emotions, at least mentally, these people are naive, because they do not know what love is, let alone the responsibility behind it.

9. Can't understand the meaning behind the words

Naive people can only understand what other people say. And mature people can hear what other people don't want to say.

"Let's talk about it" - I reject you

"I'll go back and discuss with my wife" - I can't help you

"You will meet a better person later" - I want to find someone better than you

A naive person has no social experience. He can only hear things on the surface, chase after others and keep asking questions. Only after he has said everything can he understand it.

other people's intentions.

Mature people, on the other hand, can often understand what other people mean, smile lightly, and leave some leeway for each other.

10. Not knowing what self-love is

Mature people deeply understand a truth: put their value in life as the primary goal, no one can shake, and no one is worth shaking. Love, wealth, and respect are actually just accessories after success.

Such people will not be flattering, nor will they be humble, because they know that only by making themselves strong can they win the recognition and respect of others.

And what about naive people?

When you are frustrated, you always give up on yourself and try to gain sympathy from others by being humble, but the result is just the opposite. The less you love yourself, the less you will get love in the end.

A truly mature person will always live easier and more self-love than a naive person.

Know what you want, know what you should love, know what kind of person you should be, and strive for life on the road of love.

And naive people don't know anything, but they want everything, and in the end they get nothing.