What is a couple?

Some people say that husband and wife are the most difficult interpersonal relationship in the world.

Indeed, two men and women who are not related by blood, who live together in sauce and vinegar with oil and salt, are bound to stumble.

Marriage is a mixed practice. It is not enough to talk about life without having experienced marriage.

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Consensus of mutual understanding.

There was a reader in the background who left a message:

He has been married for 8 years, but when he listens to his wife's even breathing in the dead of night, he is lost in thought.

When he reached a certain age, he had to obey his parents' arrangement and married a wife who had just met for 3 months and had suitable family conditions in all aspects.

Before that, he had a girlfriend who knew each other and loved each other, but her mother didn't like her, and she disliked that her family couldn't give him more help, so she refused to allow them to be together.

The older generation advised him, "If you live together, you'll get along. We all come here like this."

Time goes back to the present. He lived with his wife for so many years and had a child, but it was just two people living together in the same room, not caring about it, and his emotions couldn't ripple at all.

The couple can't even fight. In a word, they never walk into each other's hearts for a moment.

He told his wife that he had been promoted, and her wife would only answer him "Oh";

His wife is relatively simple, and his usual dressing makes him feel boring;

He always thinks of his ex-girlfriend. If he hadn't listened to his parents' arrangement, he might be living a completely different life now.

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What kind of marriage is the scariest?

Marriage with a wall standing all the time is the most suffocating.

Husband and wife, you don't understand me, and I don't understand you; You don't care about me, and I don't care about you. It's just that two people live together without understanding or appreciation. This marriage is like stagnant water.

The most painful thing in this world is to be close to someone, but the distance between hearts is thousands of miles away.

Marriage without understanding and consensus is doomed to be a tragedy.

When Lu Xun left Japan to escape the marriage arranged for him at home, he had a love story with Xu Guangping.

Zhu An, who was obsessed with it, lived a miserable life. She once said that she was a relic of Lu Xun.

However, Lu Xun regarded her as nonexistent, and she lived a marriage in name only.

The happiness of marriage begins with mutual understanding. To live with people who don't have empathy is to waste their lives and find no fun at all.

02

Sincere loyalty.

There is a saying: husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately in case of disaster.

When life encounters difficulties and marriage encounters crisis, we can understand that two people of the original husband and wife are separated.

However, when the marriage is subjected to a severe test, two people who have not left, guarded each other and faced each other are closer to the essence of husband and wife.

In my eyes, the marriage between aunt and uncle is particularly respectable.

A few years ago, my aunt had a serious illness, and my uncle's performance made everyone recognize him.

When my aunt learned that she had cervical cancer, one night, she called her uncle and said:

"I have this disease now. If I can't cure it, I have to say that the key is to spend a lot of money. I don't want to cure it. It's time to spend money at home. After I leave, you have to live well."

Say that finish two people sorrow, uncle said.

"Who allows you to give up, this disease must be treated, and how much money you spend must be treated. Don't worry about money, I will solve it by selling iron."

Later, my sister-in-law was admitted to the hospital. He had to go to work during the day and take care of her life at night.

Every morning, I send the porridge cooked the night before to the hospital, and when I come back at night, I bring my grandma's chicken soup to my aunt.

When his family's money was spent, he sold his favorite watch and paid the medical expenses to his younger sister.

After more than a year, under the care of my uncle, my aunt's condition gradually improved.

After the test of this illness, the marriage between aunt and uncle is better than before.

Xiao Yan often said: "They are facing the test of life and death together. If there is no uncle, she will definitely not survive. Uncle is her savior."

I have heard a saying that it is very good. The best state of marriage is not a lifetime of romantic passion, but full of Jianghu loyalty.

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This time of crisis will not change because of the strength gap between the two sides.

When Ge You became the best actor, someone asked him: Why hasn't he changed his wife yet?

His wife, He Cong, is far from beautiful, but only plain in appearance. Today, standing beside Ge You is really a bit ordinary.

When this problem reached his ears, he said a word:

"When people were nice to me, I was nothing. She followed me through thick and thin, without complaining. Now that I'm good, I'll kick somebody else's ass. I really can't do such a thing! "

Yang Lan said:

"Marriage needs another bond besides love. The toughest one is not children, nor interests and money, but loyalty."

Whether rich or poor, we can face it together, which is the meaning of marriage.

03

The kindness of caring for each other.

Many people's marriages may not experience the hardships of great winds and waves in their whole lives, but only lose to the daily life.

I know an aunt who is in her fifties and is divorcing her wife.

The reason is that, finally, I can't stand my husband's attitude of reaching for his clothes and eating for his mouth. Many times, she couldn't get up because she was sick, and she needed to cook, otherwise everyone would be hungry.

She has served him for decades. Now that the children have grown up, she has come to Beijing as a nanny, and she can earn 10,000 yuan a month.

She calculated an account. She saved up her pension money for a few more years. She can live by herself. Why did she pay to serve the giant baby like the big ye?

Marriage is a relationship of giving each other, and no one can take advantage of marriage for a long time.

Any unequal pay is a huge hidden danger in marriage, and one day it will appear in a painful and embarrassing way.

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I once met a couple who spent the old age hand in hand and asked her the secret of keeping a long marriage.

She said with a smile:

"that is not simple. We bid farewell to our parents when we were young, and bid farewell to our children when they grew up. We all know that we only have each other, and we can only rely on each other.

In life, we take care of each other completely. I take care of him when he is sick. I can't leave. He is my crutch. We need each other. Can it not last long? "

Marriage is a rare fate, and it is also a kind of kindness that can not be met.

A good marriage is not a one-sided contribution by one party, but a treasure in each other's hands. Only by giving in both directions and accepting each other can marriage become a blessing and nourish everyone inside.

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Adult marriage is not only love, but also friendship, tacit understanding and unforgettable kindness.

Couples who don't understand, marriage is like a prison, two people in strange bedfellows;

Couples who are not loyal, when the rain of life blows, the two people in the marriage say that they are scattered;

Couples without kindness, when one side's patience is exhausted, the marriage house will collapse at any time.

In this age of high divorce rate, if you want to grow old together, two people in marriage should pay love, care and understanding, and add their relationship to love, affection and kindness.

Care for each other, need each other, and go to the end of life in the midst of fireworks and dust.

Wish to light up the [watching] you and have such a marriage.