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What Happened To True Love? Now We Are Only Left With The Heat Of A Few Minutes

Let's try to be with someone who, when they pronounces their love for you, will be there to stay.

By HowToFind .comPublished 3 years ago 3 min read
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What Happened To True Love? Now We Are Only Left With The Heat Of A Few Minutes
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I dare say eternally disappointed that true love has been lost.

And the fact is that before saying I love you was not so simple, the magnitude of the feeling, made it difficult to pronounce these words.

But now we say I love you even to people who we have known for only 3 days.

The uncertainty in a relationship until the moment these words were pronounced has been replaced by a "to go" and now everything is like that, "to go"; simply to entertain oneself on the way.

Because now one has the sad mentality that the faster, the more one takes advantage, because according to society there is "more passion".

How can it even pass through someone's mind that having a "to go" with someone clearly out of our interest is going to have more passion than being with someone you love?

Dating apps

I am very discreet (has a partner or is married). I don't know what I'm looking for (looking for sex) Do you live alone? I have room (surely you don't offer your house to talk about movies). I recently ended a relationship (presumably they don't want any more ties).

These are some of the most read phrases - aside from those referring to physical descriptions - on Internet apps and dating sites. Contact is now much faster; the long questionnaires on the pioneering dating sites to find matches are history.

The key, with such immediacy, is to discover in time the intentions of the person on the other side to avoid disappointment and save time. If you are looking for a fleeting sexual date, no problem.

But if the intention is to find in those pages and apps something else (conversation with another person, sharing hobbies, a stable relationship...), the interference of users who are only looking for sex can be exhausting.

So much so that in some of the more serious dating sites -thought out at the time of their creation to encourage stable relationships- one begins to detect fatigue among those subscribers who have gotten there for motivations that go beyond sex.

They must invest more and more hours to identify those who have the same intentions as them.

The problem has been aggravated precisely by the arrival on these portals of users who no longer distinguish between applications designed to promote sporadic sexual contacts (which there are and are very explicit) and pages that were born as portals to promote lasting relationships.

Romance

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Dating sites and apps will put an end to traditional romantic encounters (many contacts are made, for example, through the telephone between people who are in the same place), as well as predicting the decline of these apps due to user fatigue.

Many of them have gone from the initial emotion or the illusion of finding their other half in these apps to the current fatigue, since it is increasingly difficult to find in these digital platforms (when you aspire to something more than sex) what they are really looking for.

However, these applications are here to stay. Although they will have to make an effort (and those will be the ones who survive) to make it very explicit if they play on one side or the other.

The frustration of the users is their main threat, because nobody wants to waste time nowadays looking for something in a place where you can simply not find it.

So let's try to love each other more, to have higher expectations, to be with someone who values us as much as we know we deserve, and when I say I love you, it's to stay, not to be carried away in a car's cup holder.

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