Twin Flames & 22 Signs

You find yourself thinking about them, agreeing with them, wondering what they are doing, and enjoying every second that you are together – it’s an intense kind of relationship and one that many people don’t have the chance to experience.

It’s called a twin flame relationship, or twin souls relationship, and unlike the more traditional idea of a soul mate, twin flame relationships are built on the give and take, hot and cold, black and white or a relationship rather than the similarities between two people that are often more common in relationships.

According to Alex Myles in Elephant Journal, twin flames are noticeable to each other as soon as they meet:

“Twin flames have an instant, instinctive and undeniably intense bond. As soon as they meet, they feel an overwhelming and familiar “home” sensation, as though they have known one another before.”

Twin Flame lovers are characterized by many things, so before we get to the 22 signs that you might be in a twin flame relationship, let’s talk about the four essential elements that underpin this amazing relationship.

As mentioned above, the meeting of twin flames or twin souls brings an instant, intuitive feeling of connection and of “coming home”.

I believe that there is an undeniable, overwhelming feeling that they have been brought together as part of a higher calling.

The early stages of twin flame unions may be filled with turmoil, challenges, and pain as the two work to merge and balance their energies.

In fact, author and astrologer Kelley Rosano explains that she believes that twin flame relationships can be powerful, but “often twin flames don’t have enough self-mastery to maintain a healthy relationship.”

This powerful, magnetic connection may cause partners to separate for a short time to heal and address old wounds, all the while knowing that separation is an illusion and their connection and shared energy will keep them linked regardless of physical space.

According to Alex Myles in Elephant Journal, twin flames could “potentially…be the most loving and transformational experiences, but, unfortunately, often in the beginning, they are filled with turbulence, trauma and pain.”

However, once equilibrium is reached, twin flames will experience the most loving, transformational partnership imaginable, with a deep connection emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

In fact, spiritual coach Tanya Carroll Richardson says in Mind Body Green that a twin flame relationship is made up of two people who balance each other out.

It’s different from a kindred spirit.

Also, before you read further, please make sure you aren’t in a co-dependent or unhealthy relationship.

Twin flame relationships and co-dependent relationships are very different – twin flame relationships are defined by respect, equality, kindness and healthy boundaries.

On the other hand, unhealthy and toxic relationships are defined by obsessiveness, unequalness, unhealthy attachments, feeling trapped, and reliant on your partner for self-worth.

Some people, unfortunately, confuse the two, which doesn’t do anyone any good.

Now in order for the higher calling of a twin flame union to occur and function properly, I believe that these four elements need to be addressed and balanced. Keep in mind that this is just my opinion. It may be different for different people.

1) Deep Emotional Connection

By attuning to the heart center, the epicenter of knowing, thinking, and feeling twin flames may receive the loving bond and comforting reassurances of their connection.

Research at the Institute of Heartmath supports these findings based on studies involving the bond between mother and child.

Simply being close to her baby may induce a mother’s brainwaves to synchronize with her child’s heartbeat, which in turn makes her more attuned to the electromagnetic vibrations emitting from her child.

A twin flame connection may experience this same type of exchange of energy, and in some cases, are energetic mirror opposites of each other.

This reflection of their flaws or faults may feel negative at first but is in fact deeply positive and may lead to some important healing breakthroughs.

They may find themselves loving deeper and harder than they previously thought possible. The vulnerability needed for such a connection takes courage, since hidden emotions or unhealed wounds may come to light before real healing can begin. Once this sometimes-difficult work is done, and a deep emotional connection is solidified, twin flame lovers will begin experiencing a form of pure love.

2) Mental Connection

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Alternatively, they may appear to be opposites. In this case, twin flames may have complementary skill sets and talents that combine perfectly to give them the strength, courage, and confidence to achieve balance and use their enhanced abilities to complete their goals and reach for their dreams.

3) Physical Connection

I believe that upon their first meeting, twin flames, or twin souls, may realize they are radiating energy on the same frequency which causes not only a powerful physical attraction but a feeling of oneness.

It is my understanding that kundalini energy, stored at the base of the spine, may be released when a connection is made, this awakening energy may cause twin flames to see themselves in a new light and begin to become more aware of their faults and flaws. This deep awareness and questioning soul journey may result in these partners separating while they complete their healing soul work.

Once they have broken their cycles of dysfunctional behavior, they can reunite in a permanent sacred union. Physical attraction alone is not enough to result in or define a twin flame connection, there must be an exchange of energy and blissful awareness of presence. A twin flame relationship is all about respect. I believe that while the physical connection isn’t based purely on sexual attraction, if sexual contact occurs, the primal nature of the connection will be instinctual as the two souls communicate with their bodies.

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4) Spiritual Connection

I believe that the innate ability to sense another’s emotions or moods, even from miles apart is a sign that twin flames have connected.

This is a sacred occurrence and often results in unconditional love.

This rare emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual connection can only occur once each partner has excised and healed their personal demons with tenderness and compassion then given themselves wholly to their union. This process is not without pain; often the act of separation to heal and become whole as an individual can feel excruciating and frustrating, but this is an essential step towards a healed union. In order to experience a harmonies union, there can be no co-dependence, unrealistic expectations, or ego-driven obstacles. Once this harmony has occurred, twin flames will begin vibrating on the same frequency and experience a union of unconditional love.

5) What does your Zodiac say?

Using astrology to find out whether you share something special with another person is rapidly on the rise. The best bit? Zodiac signs can absolutely help you figure out whether you’re in a twin flame relationship. Because they influence how compatible you are regarding communication, love, emotions, sex, and personality. For example, if you’re a Virgo then you’ll develop the most intimate twin flame connection with a Pisces. While a Libra will be drawn to Aquarius and Gemini guys because they too need independence and intellectual stimulation to thrive.

6) You feel like everything is right with the world when you are together

Regardless of what is going on, twin flame soulmates know the relationship is worth the investment and energy to foster and nurture. Together, you are better than when you are apart.

7) You are balanced

The ultimate in Yin and Yang – you couldn’t be more different, yet complimentary of one another. You find happiness in the light and the dark.

8) You change your life because of them

Without realizing it, you become a different person. The energy you create when you’re together changes you both.

9) You experience extremes of rationality.

Because your relationship is built on extremes, you can expect moments of ups and downs. But more than most couples. Your love is fierce, and it can drastically alter your mood, emotions, and capacity for rationality. Love is blind, crazy, and hard – you’ll experience all of these things in a twin flame relationship.

10) You connect with each other immediately

Even if you’ve just met, you feel like you’ve known each other for years. All of your stories are similar, and you’ve probably even been at the same place together before, and not even realized it. It really feels like fate is on your side.

11) You feel like something keeps bringing you together

No matter how angry you get, or how broken the relationship might feel at times, something brings you back together.

The Divine Universe has a plan – or at least, it sure feels that way.

12) Twin flame connections are more than just friends, lovers, and companions

You’re connected on a deeper level, and when people comment about how the two of you are soul mates, you know it even goes beyond that. People don’t understand your relationship the way you do. In other words, you’re best friends.

13) What do your biorhythms say?

Want a somewhat scientific way to know if you’re in a twin flame relationship? And whether the person you’re with is the one? A friend of mine recently introduced me to a concept called biorhythms. She says learning about her own biorhythms has changed everything in her quest for love. Biorhythms aren’t entirely mainstream but it’s got a lot more scientific credibility than certain new age fads. In fact, it’s becoming extremely popular among an unlikely group of experts, including scientists and shamans. The idea behind biorhythms is that our lives are influenced by natural mathematical cycles. And that we can use these cycles to predict important events, such as when we’ll meet our twin flame. Now, I’m as skeptical as anyone when it comes to stuff like this. But cycles are everywhere in our lives, including the human body running on circadian rhythms and ultradian rhythms. It’s almost certain our relationships are influenced by natural cycles too.

14) You finish each other’s sentences

You spend so much time together and understand each other’s personalities so well that you know exactly what they’re going to say in social situations.

People might think you’re a little weird when you finish each other’s sentences, but they simply don’t understand how deep your connection is.

15) You feel connected to them

You know they get you, and you get them. That’s important in any relationship, but so often people feel misunderstood. Twin flame connections provide that understanding.

16) You are passionate about them and their desires.

You often talk about your desires but are truly tuned into what they want in life as well. You know that two heads are better than one and together, you can achieve anything.

17) You have rocky times in your relationship

No matter how bad it gets, you are there for one another. You’ll consider the relationship instead of the individuals in the relationship.

When you are together, everything is good – even the bad.

18) You experience spiritual happiness

You feel whole when you are with your twin flame lover.

19) It feels like they are already your family

Even if you just met, you know your family is going to get them and see what you see. You know they’ll fit in with your quirky crew of family members and your twin flame won’t judge you for it.

20) You share everything

The good, the bad, and the ugly: all things considered, you’d rather fight with them than be happy with someone else.

21) You don’t care about the commonalities – the differences drive you to one another

It’s what should draw you apart than brings you together. You love the bridging the gap in your relationship and know it’s a worthwhile effort when you have found the person who mirrors your flame for life.

22) You love traveling together and exploring new places

You relish traveling together. New experiences get your juices flowing and doing it together makes it that much better.

New experiences help twin flame soulmates expand their mind and learn more about each other which deepens your incredible bond.

After all, we’re all human and we all need time to reflect and rejoice in the beauty of life.