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Tips for a Happy, Healthy Relationship

Spillin' the Real Tea

By dani Published 3 years ago 5 min read
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In this day & age it is hard to find real love. With tinder, & sugar-daddy-dating sites, all this other social media we have at our fingertips its easy to be distracted... or even fooled. Catfishing is a daily occurrence, putting on a front to impress people is more common than being real now a days.

But fear not, it is possible to find that ideal relationship. And you will find it. And once you do, you'll have these tips to make sure that its real & to make it last.

#1. Do not change who you are to impress him/her. Be real, be open & be willing to get rejected.

Being real and being vulnerable is very important in the early stages of a relationship. It is vital that you are honest about your likes & dislikes regardless of what you think THEY might think. Because I guarantee you that if you arent compatible now, you won't be compatible later. Thats why its important to figure it out in the very beginning. You need to know if its gonna work out before you invest too much time & end up getting yourself hurt. Now I'm sure some people are gonna say "how do you know its not gonna work unless you try it?" Well, I'm telling you. If you arent compatible , then you arent compatible. And pretending to be is only gonna cause more problems later down the line. If you aren't meant to be, its no big deal. There are billions of people on this earth and it is my belief that there is someone for everyone. Fate will lead you.

But if you ARE compatible and you are honest about who you are and what you believe in and what you like, if he/she is your "someone" chances are that other person is going to realize just how perfect for each other you are.

In either situation, its just the right choice. Be honest. Don't create a persona to fool the other person into falling for you. You wouldn't want that done to you, right?

#2 Space is key. Have your own friends, & your own hobbies. And DON'T cut your friends out of your life.

Thats not to say that you can't have mutual friends, or hobbies that you share interest in. Im just saying it is critical to have things that you enjoy to do yourself. In my personal opinion you can never spend too much time with your partner, but there are gonna be days where you want to change it up or see old friends and do something different. On those days you want to be sure that you have buddies to hang out with and talk to.

Your partner should not be the only friend in your life.

#3 Branch out & try new things that your partner likes to do.

This is how you keep things fresh and exciting. Now I might have confused you, above I stated not to change yourself for your partner and I mean that. This tip is not about changing who you are. Its about compromising your time to explore the likes & dislikes of your partner in order to make each other happy & keep each others wants and needs fulfilled.

Now, girlfriend, you might like going to the movie theater every Valentines day to see the new "50 Shades" movie, amiright??

And, boyfriend, you might like hiking, or maybe even camping?

My advice to you is to do both, together. Try out new things, experience things together that you normally wouldn't do. Promise you, that even if he drags his feet into the theater, she'll appreciate him being with her. And vice versa.

#4. Don't stop dating.

It is easy to fall into a routine once you've been in a relationship for a long period of time. I'm guilty of it myself, my husband and I are homebodies. But recently we decided to spice things up again & start going on dates. And let me tell you, we are the happiest we've ever been

We're a Netflix & chill couple. We like to order in, and binge watch.

So if youre like us, I get it. Why would you want to leave your comfy couch to go sit in a restaurant for an hour around strangers.But I have good news for you. You don't have to do that.

Its 2018 people, you can go to places like skyzone or bounce (trampoline dates), or go to a posh movie theater where you can lay down and relax and be served your food & drinks. There are so many fun things to do with your partner its ridiculous, just google some ideas and I guarantee you'll find one that you both want to do.

#5. Spice up your sex life.

Sex is a huge part of relationships. If you arent sexually compatible a lot of the time you will break up, or one of you will cheat. It's crucial to find that out as soon as possible.

But even if you are sexually compatible you can always make it more interesting. *wink*

Find out your partners secret fantasies, take a trip to your local sex shop and pick out some things for you guys to try out with each other. Im not saying go out and buy a ball gag and whips, people!!!! If thats not what you're into, thats fine. But ladies, maybe have your man pick out some lingerie for you, or whatever your heart desires. Just don't let yourselves get bored!!!!

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And with that, I bid you adieu. I'll talk to you next time!

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