The Word Love

I ask myself that question every day(what is Love). Love Can be a challenge to define at the level of how a person experiences it. However much we may want to, we can not command, demand, or take away love. Ask someone and they will give you their own definition of love. Love is a variety of feelings, emotions, and attitude. For some love is more than just being interested physically in someone, it’s an emotional attachment. People say love is pure, painful, sweet, and dreadful all at once. The truth is, love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Everyone needs to be loved to live a proper and healthy life. Love has various definitions.

People often confuse love and lust. Love is more of a feeling that a person feels for another person. Love means to be deeply committed and connected to someone or something. You can invite Love, but you cannot dictate how, when and where love expresses itself. The basic meaning of love is to feel more than liking towards someone. It is a bond that two people share.

Things you need to avoid when building a relationship; like being demanding. You need to understand that your partner had a life before you entered. You cannot ask them to give it up, the moment you entered. They have their priorities. They had a life.

• Never rushing into a relationship; Loving someone is patience. Take things slow, know their likes and dislikes, are you willing to spend time with them. Every person has some habits that would be annoying to you. Think! would you be still sharing the same bond when you see the dark side of a person?

• Love is not being Jealous; There is no room for jealousy and possessiveness in cases where true love is really there. Being protective is a part of a relationship, but there should be a healthy understanding. Being too much involved can make the other person suffocated in the relationship. They may be having an ex with whom they share an understanding as a friend, but it didn’t work out when they were dating. That is the reason they moved on and now are with you.

• Love is to stop expecting; The more you try to change a person and try to make them act according to you, the less attached they will be with you. Stop expecting doesn’t mean to give up on you. But do not expect your partner to do things exactly what you thought they would be doing. It is not right. Your expectations in your relationship may be different from what your partner’s expectation of you is. Respect the fact that they are a little different from you.

• Love is giving yourself a chance; It is important that we learn from the experiences of yesterday, but it is equally important that we don't let our yesterday's ruin our today's. Just because you both had a conflict in opinion about something doesn’t mean things won’t work out. Give yourself a chance. Your perception and your partner’s perception may differ. Sometimes, that is what makes life exciting! Learning to trust again, when we've been hurt, is really hard sometimes, but it's imperative if we ever hope to find love again. You deserve a new beginning. You deserve the most beautiful and true love there is. Don't let someone who trod all over you before destroy your future happiness and have the victory.

• Love is avoiding misunderstandings and maintaining privacy; Give a chance to let your partner put forward their point of view. If they are wrong, try talking to them about why you do think are they wrong. Don’t jump to conclusions and create a drama. This is very unhealthy to your relationship. With social media readily available to share all your problems and people ready to jump to your rescue, we tend to discuss issues over the internet more than we do in person. Never do that. Maintain privacy in your relationship. Talk out the issues with your partner. Don’t use the platform of social media to complain about something that is wrong between you two.

It is so easy to say "I Love You", but hard to prove it. It is more than just saying it, it is a force of nature. It does not come with conditions, stipulations, or codes. Like the sun, it radiates independently of our fears and desires. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you nor can you prevent it. It not a commodity, not even a marketable power source, love has no territory, no borders, no quantifiable mass or energy output.

Ultimately, love is accepting the other person for who they are. Encouraging your partner to achieve their dream and respecting each other is true love. True love is a divine feeling that gives a feeling of being complete. It is worth fighting and taking efforts for each other. Love is being there for each other through the thick and thin. Love cannot be defined in words but can be expressed through actions. Love is being someone’s strength and love can be found in small gestures.