The Walk that Took all the Time in the World

Bonding is a process that starts with the first look. The initial eye contact can say so many words and give so many gestures. Hopefully that connecting look has a mutual understanding. What could even be more wonderful, if the two of you are hearing the same song in your head as you check each other out. Even more impressive, she gives you the look that says, come and get me!

The ice is never hard to break if the chemistry is organically there from jump. Only something that was meant to be, but there, the moment presents for you to take the first step and for her to provide a stance of welcome. Yeah, she cannot make it too easy. She has to see if you are really interested, or just another common face trying to impress a random woman to rack up a body count.

Send a drink over and give her a smile. Walk over at the right time and introduce yourself. Try to ease in the conversation and stay away from random pick-up lines. Give her a compliment, but try to say something unique and simple that would go a long way with her. Mention her earrings, or comment on her accessories.

Ask her open-ended questions, try your best to get her to explain herself and not reply with a simple "yes" or "no". Pay attention to her body language and see if your conversation is welcoming. Eye contact and the position of her shoulders are very important. Please don't forget the position of her arms. Meanwhile, as you are studying those signs and obvious clues, remember to stay cool and focus on her.

The first meeting is always special, might even want to pay attention and remember something unique about the time so you can casually bring it up later to show that you remember the small things. By this time, if she hasn't made an excuse or gesture to send you on your way, this is a good sign but you might not want to stay too long and over extend your initial welcome.

If you made a connection and accomplished the task of obtaining her number (and not her IG account), call the very next day. If she likes you, it will not matter and coming across as desperate will not come into her mind. Women who pay attention to games to this nature are not into you from start. so avoid playing games with her and show her that you are serious about getting to know her.

The beginning of this walk can be very slow and with an honest attempt, all things will fall into place at the appointed time. Invest time and get to know her as a friend. Take her somewhere casual, but classy; a great place that supports one-on-one conversation. Talk about family, talk about goals and stay away from work-related topics and each other's occupations. I say this because the both of you need to see if you can be friends before anything else. The walk of life will surely test the friendship more than anything. Being with a friend that will help you solve problems and accomplish goals is far better than someone who "looks" good on paper.

Focus on the friendship because friends will never hurt each other. Friends will not forsake each other. Friends will hold each other accountable and friends will understand each other. Most importantly, friends don't let other people walk the same walk you are walking together. A true walk with someone will never be done alone. A true walk with someone will never have a moment of shame. A true walk with someone will never have doubt. A true walk with someone can give you peace. A true walk with someone can give you life of understanding and the best possible version of you ever imagined. A walk with someone without taking your time, can set you back so many years of your life and allow you to miss out on what is truly meant for you.

Walk slowly. Every step is worth it!