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The Truth About Long Distance Relationships

And Tips on How to Make Them Work!

By Ashley MendozaPublished 6 years ago 3 min read
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In this day and age, it's hard and almost a bit ridiculous to believe that everyone's "soulmate" would live just a few miles away. The world is a huge place, flooded with so many kinds of people who you have yet to meet but one way to do that is through the internet! With various forms of social media, including dating apps, you can come across people who may live across the state, country, or even world! You may just meet someone and fall in love. Although, when it comes to the distance, what is there to do? Now, as someone who has been in a long distance relationship, it is hard and there is nothing that will change that fact. However, there are things you can to do that ease the heartache of being away from the person you love most and make it work!

  • You must have good communication. Without that, you will only make things worse! Communicate your feelings, what you are doing, etc., and leave the door to misunderstandings closed as much as you can! It is important to use your words and express how you feel since your significant other is not around you to know if something is wrong otherwise.
  • Along with communication comes listening! Always listen to your partner and try your best to understand their perspective and feelings. Don't listen to respond but listen to understand.
  • Trust is also very important and is something I personally have struggled with myself! It may be difficult for you to trust someone with so many miles between you but if you love them and want to build a future with them, you are going to have to build that trust and constantly work on that. But keep in mind, if you really cannot find it in yourself to trust this person, maybe they aren't the one for you. But before you make any quick decisions, use the communication tip and express to them how you feel and why!
  • Reassurance is also a key to making a long distance relationship work! Being apart, you don't get to give or receive the physical affection that most would, so it is important to express to the person you are dating how much you love them, what they mean to you, and where you want your relationship to go.
  • You also NEED to make and set aside time for one another. What my girlfriend and I did while in a long distance relationship was talk on the phone/video chat every night (at no specific time) and talked about our days, joked around, and just had that time of hearing one another's voice and seeing one another's face before bed. However, on top of that, we would also have "dates" where we would pick a day and set time (earlier than we typically would call one another at night) to get on video chat and watch movies together while eating some snacks or having dinner. This is extremely helpful and comforting, feeling like you are spending time with your partner and doing something together as you would if you were physically together.
  • However, the most important tip is to make time to actually see one another! Getting that quality and in person time together is so crucial to the relationship. Even if you can only manage to see them for one day at a time due to work, school etc, you should take that one day and make the most of it! If money is an issue when it comes to seeing each other, saving and prioritizing is a must!

Your significant other and the relationship you have with them should be one of your top priorities if you want the relationship to last long term, and to make said long distance relationship last long term, I would suggest taking these tips and applying them to your relationship! Relationships can be hard and when you add distance on top of that, it can make it even harder, but if you love someone enough then the distance and potential hardships will be worth it!

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Ashley Mendoza

19 year old woman living in California with a lot of passion and a lot to say. 🌿

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