The performance of high emotional intelligence in love is different between men and women. How many do you fit?

Falling in love is also a science. If you meet the one you like, but you don’t get along, you may miss your lover.

Falling in love requires not only passion and hormones, but also high EQ. However, the performance of EQ between boys and girls in a relationship is not the same.

But whether it is a boy or a girl, a high EQ in a relationship will make the other person emotionally happy, emotionally stable, and extend the shelf life of the relationship.

Boys

1. Control your emotions and take care of others' feelings

When you fall in love with a boy with high emotional intelligence, he will control his emotions well and digest his negative emotions in time. When he is in a bad mood, he will not vent to his girlfriend at will. There will be a little friction when interacting with his girlfriend, and he will be timely Discovery, adjust the rhythm.

Will take care of other people's emotions, such as not showing affection in front of single buddies, and will not complain about his girlfriend being too clingy.

2. Sweet mouth, praise your girlfriend to the heart

Boys with high EQ always praise progressively when they praise their girlfriends. For example, when they see their girlfriends dressed up during a date today, they will praise their hairstyles first, then their clothes, and finally praise their girlfriends for being the most beautiful. Hair and clothes are all green. But the beauty of a person is not as good as a girlfriend, who loves herself.

3. Being assertive and not expressing opinions easily

When you are in love, you often encounter scenes of shopping and shopping with your girlfriend. Boys with high EQ know that misfortune comes out of their mouths. Many small conflicts occur in the little things of life, as long as the girlfriend asks herself about the clothes she wears. It looks good, and when you buy something that seems to require him to give advice, you will always respond "If you like it, I will pay for it, whichever suits you."

Even if he encounters some questions that he doesn’t want to answer his girlfriend, he will pretend to be stupid or humorous in order not to spoil the atmosphere. In fact, he is very assertive. No matter what his girlfriend asks and buys, he is only responsible for paying for it, not commenting. Suggestions, other tricks and tricks.

4. Will not easily deny his girlfriend's words

When you fall in love with a girl, you will inevitably encounter disagreements or disagreements on the same thing or person. High EQ boys will not easily deny the other party because he understands that even if the other party is wrong, it is not necessarily right, and admits the other party. If you are right, you are not necessarily wrong, so partial agreement is the best policy.

When your girlfriend complains about a girlfriend, just sigh slightly and gently stroke his girlfriend's hair. "No one is perfect, and I also have shortcomings, but you still love me, so the more you complain about her, the more you care about her. "

5. Confident but not conceited

Confidence is a temperament exuded from the inside out. It is not to please others or to show off, but to show oneself humblely. Even when a female friend asks her past love history when dating, she will not show off her excellence. Instead, Yun Danfeng replied to his girlfriend, "The past is not important, you are the most precious now. You don't mind the girls who have chased me? Are you jealous?"

Listen more to the other party's words, and after understanding the other party's needs, respond sincerely, not only to make the other party feel valued, but also to show their self-confidence and calmness.

When you fall in love with a boy with high emotional intelligence, you will find that as his vision broadens, his thinking is clear, and his calm demeanor is nothing more than that.

Girls

1. Have a sense of proportion and respect privacy

Women are very curious, especially girls who are greedy and curious about their boyfriend’s cell phone and other privacy, but girls with high EQ can control their hands and mouth, even if they see a suspicious photo, Will be anxious to continue to read the following content without the consent of her boyfriend.

If there is any doubt, I will ask it out openly, and I will not let my boyfriend make random guesses without sulking and crying.

If you care about your boyfriend, you will not care about the privacy of your boyfriend too much, and respect each other as independent individuals.

2. Boyfriend praises himself and will respond twice

Everyone likes to listen to pleasing words. When her boyfriend praises her beauty, the girlfriend with high emotional intelligence will reply, "I am the effect of makeup, which is so seductive like your bare face."

Go shopping with your boyfriend, knowing that the other person is boring, but will take the initiative to buy gifts to make the other person happy, thank the other person for being with you.

3. Don't lose your temper and blame others

Girls who fall in love like their boyfriends to spoil themselves unconditionally, but girls with high EQ will never be arrogant. When encountering disagreements, they will not lose their temper for no reason. They will not blindly accuse each other when they make mistakes. They will take the initiative to calm down and look for them. Causes and solutions.

Especially when you are dating, you encounter unexpected situations that cannot be implemented as originally planned. Girls with high EQ will never yell at this and that, which makes people feel more irritable. They will never say, "It's all to blame, you can't arrange such a thing well, do you think about it?"

Such hurtful words rarely come out of the mouths of high EQ girls.

4. Never get entangled after breaking up, just let it go

Girls are naturally more emotional than boys, and they value love, but when a girl with high EQ finds that the relationship between the two is irreversible, she predicts that there is no future, and will understand that no matter how much entanglement is futile, she will never separate and combine. Seeing my nostalgia and reluctance.

It will not be because of a few sweet words from her boyfriend. Now that you have decided to break up, you will act decisively and set off for a new place.

5. Avoid direct conflict with your lover

Girls with high EQ know who is right and who is wrong in love, and the conflict between lover has nothing to do with right or wrong, it is the need of emotion and emotion, not right or wrong dispute.

Under the premise of not meeting the bottom line of principle, high emotional intelligence girls will not have direct conflicts and conflicts with their boyfriends. Even if there are some contradictions, they will change their direction. For example, because their boyfriends have been busy recently, they have not accompanied themselves for a week. Be considerate and let your boyfriend spend money or compensate yourself in another way, instead of directly erupting into conflict and accusing the other party of not caring about yourself.

Conclusion:

In short, men and women with high EQ will not comment on people and things they do not understand, will not harm each other verbally, are confident but not conceited, are good at listening, and know how to show weakness in time.

In the final analysis, it is the ultimate sense of character, with a bottom line and principles, with kind thoughts in mind, gratitude to each other, cherish the moment, be the best of yourself, and be worthy of the one you love.