The Miles Between Us

I never thought that I would take to writing about my experiences but in the current strange world, that we have lived in during 2020 and moving forward maybe my words will support or entertain others and with that hope, I start this journey. Three years into a long-distance relationship and we are held up from being together by the pandemic, let me give you a brief insight into a LDR. (Long distance relationship)

Firstly unless you meet your partner online, you probably didn't see it coming just like me. Met someone whilst away and basically didn't look back, I found my person!

1) Run for the Hills - Don't do it!

Just Kidding, I wouldn't change anything because he is the right person for me, but it most definitely is not easy but here's hoping its the most rewarding relationship that will last forever. I have never heard so many people saying "when you know you know" and "if it's meant to be, it will be" but clearly that is very true. Just try it I guess, if it comes along one of the biggest challenges aside from being apart will be the time distance but you can make it work if they are the one.

2)Don't take for granted your technology

Our phones are the one thing (along with data/ internet) that keep us connected BUT they are also one of the most frustrating elements too. Just like all technology when they work its amazing and when they don't we want to phone them out the window and our frustration wears off on each other. Make sure you have a few options, What's App, Messenger, Face time and skype just for example that way if one isn't working you have a backup.

3) Visit each other as much as possible

Of course, where funds allow, visit your partner as much as possible, obviously this is a no brainer but I found this to be so important in securing our futures understanding truly each other's personalities and quirks. We love adventures so being able to go on local adventures in our home towns made us realise the type of life we will have together and it's great to share some history together too.

4) Think of ways to make moments in time special

Of course Holidays, Christmas and birthdays etc are important and a perfect opportunity for spoiling your other half with a gift, letter or special message. BUT time together is important no matter how many miles are between you, so make the time as much as you can. I'll write another story in regards to some amazing ideas but not everything has a monetary value, for example, a date night where you cook the same food and watch the same film.

5) Do your research

If things start to become look into your future early, is one of you willing to move? What requirements are there for doing so and how long does this take? this may affect your decisions in your relationship and cause issues if you haven't discussed previously. Also start your savings pot for the visas, legal charges, travel and shipping.

Now this is just my top 5 points of things to consider, and as mentioned above if it's meant to be you will know and probably go with the flow but if like me you have never really known anyone that has done a LDR and you feel alone with it - just know it's being done by more people than you know, it takes time, love, communication, patience, perseverance, paperwork, teamwork and commitment to name a few qualities but we know each other more than most that have been in a relationship 4 times as long because all we have are the conversations across the phones the majority of the time and you learn so much.