The Kiss of Connection

The word kiss is enough to invoke the brain to release happy hormones in many people. When was the last time you had a really good kiss enough to bring a bright smile on your face whenever you think of it? Sounds magical right? Kisses are indeed magical, they are meant to take you to a world of euphoria, make you desire for romance and intimacy and most importantly act as a catalyst in long term relationships and marriage. If you are in the honeymoon phase of relationship, you must be experiencing a lot of kisses which brings a smile on your face whenever you think of them. Over years the length of the kisses shorten and become restricted to small pecks before work, or a short one before calling the day off while going to bed.

“One example of affection is the “six-second kiss” advice from relationship researcher John Gottman. Every day, he suggests, kiss your partner for six seconds. That’s one six-second kiss, mind you, not six one- second kisses. Six seconds is, if you think about it, a potentially awkwardly long kiss. But there’s a reason for it: Six seconds is too long to kiss someone you resent or dislike, and it’s far too long to kiss someone with whom you feel unsafe. Kissing for six seconds requires that you stop and deliberately notice that you like this person, that you trust them, and that you feel affection for them. By noticing those things, the kiss tells your body that you are safe with your tribe.” — Excerpt from Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski.

So what will happen if you take out six seconds several times in a day to kiss your partner?

You are in the middle of an argument regarding the schooling of your kid and suddenly your partner kisses you for six long seconds. You feel awkward, it was something that has never happened before. You realize how futile the argument is. You start missing those days when you were bereft of all responsibilities, could spend days locked in each other's embrace,and suddenly you feel an urge to rekindle the romance. You look into your partner's eyes and find the same urge as you. What are you waiting for? This is the perfect way to rekindle the spark in your relationship.

While dealing with the business of your life many couples often forget one of the major aspect of a happy marriage, that is physical intimacy. Happy couples know they need to nurture every aspect to keep their marital bonds strong, and physical intimacy is something which can't be forgotten in order to achieve marital bliss.

Kissing can act as a great stress buster after a heavy day at work. Kissing releases oxytocin, better known as the love hormone and dopamine, better known as the hormone of pleasure.

A six second long kiss can be enough to rejuvenate the lost times of intimacy, strengthen bond, reduce stress level, and act as an addition to the bank of emotions. No matter how long the relationship, every one desires to feel wanted and appreciated. A bit of appreciation will act as catalyst when teamed up with a six second long kiss.

WHAT CHANGES CAN A SIX SECOND KISS BRING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

• It can bring a sense of fondness and admiration.
• It reduces cortisol (stress hormone) and increase oxytocin (love hormone).
• It can boost your positiveness.
• It can lead to sex.
• It can be self soothing.
• It can be a turning point in your arguments.
• It can rekindle the dimming romance in your relationship.

This practice might seem to be awkward in the beginning but is one of the most effective and least time consuming way to improve things with your partner, happy kissing!