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The Key to a Successful Relationship - 4 Things You Need to Know

What you need to know to establish a healthy relationship.

By Nina SimonsPublished 5 years ago 4 min read
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A successful romantic relationship isn't just something that happens on its own. It is a result of a process that involves both sides, which includes many factors. It requires time and patience, but if you both show an effort, the positive results are almost guaranteed.

1. Stop criticizing and blaming

Unhealthy relationships are usually full of arguments that include criticizing and blaming one another, without any other use than to hurt the other person and make themselves feel good or right. This attitude is completely wrong and it could threaten the whole relationship in the long run, even if you have managed to get your way for a short while.

The reason why criticizing and blaming have a negative effect on the relationship is that they actually represent an attack on the other person's character and self-being. Instead of saying, "It's your fault we have money problems," you should express how you feel and ask for the other person's opinion. For example, you could say, "I feel that we both could do better when it comes to managing our finances. Don't you agree?." Never presume that the other person is fully responsible when something bad happens. Even if they are, attacking their persona will get you nowhere.

2. Accepting the other person in full

Nobody should be forced to change for the sake of another person. This doesn't refer to small things like changing a restaurant or adding an item to your home because your partner really loves it. It refers to forcing somebody to change their essential traits, namely, trying to turn them into something they are not.

As you will never be able to do that, of course, constant arguments will follow and repeat in a never-ending circle. Whether somebody is an extrovert or an introvert, or if they are argumentative as opposed to being agreeable, is the very core of their character. This is something you will both have to make your peace with. There is no perfect person—each one of us has beautiful traits and some truly annoying habits and features. The key is learning to love the good with the bad. If the good is dominant, then the bad should waste less of your time and effort. If you both agree that some of your traits are complete opposites and that neither one of you is wrong, then you have a chance to find a compromise that will work for both of you.

3. Have healthy boundaries

It is necessary to know yourself at any moment of life. Sometimes it's hard to get to know some parts of ourselves or to admit they exist to others. However, it is crucial to know what we want and what we don't want. That is the right way to form stable relationships with others. We can never deny ourselves at the cost of other's wishes. Even if you don't have a partner right now, you need to be clear about what you need and seek. In case you decide to contact a reliable dating agency such as Blue Label Life, you need to state what type of partner you're looking for ,but it's even more important to state what YOUR plans are and what type of person YOU are. You can't have a healthy relationship if you're constantly trying to make the other person happy, even if it means you are depriving yourself of something.

When in a relationship, you both need to have your emotions in check. Continuously doing only the things your partner likes or neglecting other aspects of your life, such as hobbies, friends and alone time leads to low self-esteem. You both need to be fulfilled in all aspects of life in order to be satisfied with yourselves. Only then will you be able to improve together and to give your best to the relationship. Unhappy people don't make a happy relationship.

4. Stop believing in a romantic love

By this, we refer to the romantic love we see in films and read about in books. It is impossible to feel giddy about your partner all the time and to experience a wave of happiness every time you see them. The period of crazy passion will pass and you will be left with both good and bad moments. You will experience days when you can't stand the look of your partner and days when you just want to get away for a while. It's all perfectly normal and it doesn't mean the relationship is broken. Stripping off the unrealistic expectations will prepare you for a real and stable relationship that has its ups and downs, but it also offers far more stability and closeness than a passionate fling.

All in all

Acknowledging who you really are and who your partner really is and accepting it is the path to a long-lasting, healthy relationship. If you invest yourself in it and are ready to adapt, then you both can expect great results in the future.

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