The best rules for making friends

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Cousin Lili has a girlfriend named Reiko, and they are college classmates. After graduation, her cousin joined the business, and Reiko opened an online shop and sold curtains. Some time ago, when the cousin’s new house was renovated, Reiko said that she would give her a set of curtains as a gift for her new house. The cousin said that in order to support Reiko's business, she must give money. One refused to accept the money, and the other insisted on giving it. In a hurry, the cousin blurted out: "Your curtains are not good-looking, I didn't like them. You still don't give them to me." Reiko was embarrassed when she heard the curtains. The matter will be over.

After another period of time, my cousin went to Rezi’s house for dinner. At the dinner table, she faced Reiko in front of her parents and said, "Look at you, every day is so tired. The online shop is neither making money nor worrying about you. I think you are not yourself. It’s better to find a company to work for the boss.” Rezi’s mother immediately asked worriedly after hearing this, “Daughter, didn’t you say that the shop was doing pretty well?” The cousin knew then that Reiko was afraid of her parents. I didn't tell my family many things in the shop. After that, the cousin obviously felt that Reiko was gradually alienating her.

Words are the state of mind and words are the voice of the heart. What kind of words there is often what kind of heart. It is sincere to be honest, not kind. The kindness that truly considers others is that you have you in your heart, and you are also caring about it.

Being able to speak is ability, and being able to empathize and understand transposition is cultivation. Thinking from the standpoint of others is not to pretend to be sincere, but to solve the problem after speaking, without embarrassing the other party. Among friends, the reason why you want to "have a ruler in your words, and leave a half in words" is because I understand you, so I don't say something.

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My friend Yingzi and her neighbor had been getting along well before, and the two were about the same age, and they often talked together. But recently she told me that she had a fight with her neighbor.

At first, the neighbor was very busy at work, so he could not collect the courier, so he asked Yingzi to collect it several times. Later, without permission, the neighbor changed the address and contact information to Yingzi. Over time, the courier's phone number always called regardless of day or night, and several times when she happened to meet Yingzi for a meeting. So Yingzi reminded her neighbor, suggesting that she use the courier cabinet to collect it, but the neighbor said that the courier cabinet is a bit far away from home, and it is convenient to send it upstairs.

Usually, neighbors often throw things away, and find that they lack seasonings or side dishes when cooking, and they always come to Yingzi to get them. Yingzi fell ill two days ago, came home from get off work, and went to bed early after taking the medicine. Sleeping soundly, I heard a knock on the door again. It turned out that the neighbor was going to make supper and came over to get eggs. Look at the time again, it's almost 11 o'clock at night. Yingzi took the egg to the neighbor, and then solemnly told her: "In the future, please buy everything you need to cook in advance."

One party repeatedly crosses the line and the other party keeps backing down. Such a relationship will not last long. Proper people, no matter how close the relationship is, they will not force each other to act according to their own standards, and will not be so good that they "regardless of each other" and treat all yours as mine.

True friendship is not about control and unbounded dependence, but knowing how to advance and retreat in time to make each other comfortable. You have your ideas, and I have my hobbies. We are happy to be similar to each other and respect each other's differences more.

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Between friends, even if the relationship is close, they should talk about courtesy. The so-called gratitude is not to say one thing to do, but to accept generously without forgetting to give generously. Those who don't know how to be grateful are sweet and bitter, and those who know how to be grateful are sweet and kind.

Fate is all mutual, and feelings always take root and sprout gradually in your coming and going. The most touching thing in life is: you are in trouble, you are in sorrow, you are in poverty, and you are in success. Therefore, I am also present at the important moments of your life.

When a friendship fades away, instead of blaming others, it is better to see if you really know how to cherish it. A good relationship is nothing more than a journey of heart-to-heart and affection.

In the final analysis, the best rules for making friends are to be proactive and honest. Speaking without being short or offensive is a respect for the other party; keeping proportions and not interfering in communication is a respect for relationships; knowing how to be grateful and knowing to cherish is a respect for life. Good relationships all start with congeniality, and longer than respect.

I hope you will be a person who is both innocent and thorough, and walks through every moment of life with your friends.