The 8 Online Dating Mistakes Men Make That Drive Women Away

Online dating is an important part of the modern world. It’s a way for many singles to meet their match, and it can also be a great way to start conversations with people you might not have met otherwise. But online dating isn’t always easy.

For men, it can be especially challenging to find and keep a woman’s interest. One of the main reasons is there are so many mistakes that men make when using these sites. Some men may think they know what women want but in reality, they don’t have a clue. As a woman, let me teach you about some of the most common mistakes that men make on dating websites and how you can avoid them from today onward.

Mistake #1: Not Showing Off Who You Really Are

The number one mistake that online daters, men and women alike, make is trying to be someone they're not. They create a profile based on a person they think others might like but bears little to no resemblance to who they really are.

When online dating sites ask for your age, weight, height, location and interests, it’s important to be as accurate as possible. This will help you in the long run because it will help you find appropriate matches instead of wasting time with the wrong person.

But you also need to be honest about the less visible parts of yourself, such as your hobbies, interests, values, and ideals. While they may not result in someone calling you out for lying on the first date, dishonesty in these areas will eventually come to light and practically guarantee the end of whatever relationship was forming.

Mistake #2: Being Too Serious

Online dating is a time to get to know one another. It’s not a time for you to sit back and have an ego-boosting discussion where you’re the best guy she’s ever met. Instead, it’s a time for fun and flirtation. In other words, lighten up!

Men tend to be too serious when they first start out on these websites. They want to impress their potential match so they can make sure that she knows they are her perfect match. This can often lead them into becoming too forceful with their words or actions, which women can find off-putting. Women want a man who is genuine and doesn't need to become someone he isn't just for her.

Mistake #3: Not Proofreading Your Profile

The first step in avoiding mistakes on online dating sites is to make sure that your profile is up to date. This means that you should be proofreading it for typos, spelling errors, and other grammatical mistakes.

One of the most common mistakes men make when using these sites is not checking their profiles for misspelled words. How will women know whether you enjoy the open ocean or are a boat salesperson if you say you "sale boats?" They won't! If you don't proofread your profile, they'll never know how genuine you are.

A quality profile can help a woman see how serious you are about them and what you're interested in. It shows how much time you invested into the profile which tells her how much time you'll invest in her. It can also help her get to know you better before deciding whether she wants to meet up with you or not.

Mistake #4: Overly sexualizing your message

Even if all you're looking for is a hookup, being overly sexual right out of the gate is a huge turnoff to most women. Even if the woman is all-in on a purely physical fling, she doesn't want to be treated like a replaceable object.

And if you're looking for something more substantial, then starting off with a sexual message is sending the wrong message entirely. If she's also looking for something more substantial, that sexual message is almost certain to result in her unmatching from you and then blocking you.

It's fine to compliment her, even if it's on her physical appearance, if it's done respectfully.

Mistake #5: Being Too Aggressive

When it comes to online dating, the most common mistake that men make is being too aggressive.

One of the most important things about online dating is that you have to be patient and wait for the right woman to come along. And when she does, you have to be patient and let her get comfortable with you. If you're not patient enough to wait, then you're going to end up driving a lot of women away.

Be smart about your approach with women on dating websites. Take your time and don't be pushy. Allow her to get to know you first (and you her) before pushing to meet. Don’t ask for or even hint for sex before you’ve met. Relax and let things play out naturally.

Mistake #6: Posting Too Many Pictures of Yourself

One of the most common mistakes that men make is posting too many pictures of themselves. Typically, these are bathroom selfies and other photos that are focused on physical appearance. When you post several pictures of yourself, it can seem like you’re trying to show off your body. This will often put women on the defensive and make them less interested in getting to know you better.

The more you focus on the physical appearance, the less time and attention they'll be able to spend on getting to know who you are as a person. Not only will this result in women not being interested in dating you, but they’ll find someone else they want to date instead.

Instead of focusing on your body, focus on telling a story with your profile and showing personality through pictures and words. In fact, one study found that photos that showed emotional rather than physical reactions were preferred by women.

Try sharing photos of you in action doing things you love. These will accomplish both showing an accurate image of your body and showing women who you are. And that will make them more attracted to you than anything else.

Mistake #7: Not Reading the Profile

There's lots of basic information offered in a woman's dating profile. From her height to her age, hobbies to career, and even her name and what she's looking for in terms of a relationship are often scattered throughout the words she's written.

So when you ask her what her name is, how old she is, or some other question that is clearly already answered by her profile, she immediately knows you didn't take time to read it. And that tells her you're less interested in her and more interested in just finding anyone who shows interest in you.

Take the time to read the profile. Reach out to connect if you're interested based on what you read. And take a moment to write something that shows you read her profile. You'll stand out among all the other men by personalizing your message.

Mistake #8: Talking Too Much and Talking About Yourself

This is a big one. Talking too much and talking about yourself might be the number one mistake that men make on dating websites. Trying to impress a woman by talking about your accomplishments, or boasting about how many women you slept with, is going to do more harm than good.

Talking too much about yourself can cause her to get bored and lose interest in you. You may be interested in her as well but if she doesn't feel there's some give and take in the conversation, it will be hard for her to form any kind of connection with you. It's important when using dating sites, you master the art of asking about her while also talking about yourself to keep women interested.

This is where being present comes into play. If you're not a chatty type of guy then don't try and fake it when communicating online because women can spot liars easily. Instead, try being calm and collected while talking to her so that she feels like your full attention is on her rather than what's happening in your life at the moment (or whatever else may be distracting you).

If you're a man, you know that it's tough out there. Women get a lot more matches than men, which means a lot of competition. If you want to stand out from the crowd and snag that lady's attention, watch out for these mistakes that women find unattractive.