The 3 Letter Word: I Love You

I believe that love is very difficult. I love you is easy to say. There are people that meet and say its love at first sight. There are so many love stories that I see on tv that I absolutely admire. There was this couple. They met in a laundromat. I think he was single. He said, I need someone nice. Her husband happened to be an alcoholic. She left her husband. Well, they ended up getting married. They have been married 55 years. I thought to myself, that is amazing. Another story. It was on Facebook. There was a couple, aged 105 and 102 I believe. 86 years of marriage. They are still in their right minds and their secret was: love.

A lot of people do not understand that love is an action word. Easy to say. But you must show it. A lot of people say it because the other person says it first or because it sounds nice or because people will think it’s cute that the boyfriend/girlfriend said I love you to one another. In some cases, its true. People have a connection to each other that cant be explained. A mental connection, emotional connection, an actual love.

Some people get married for the right reason. They absolutely adore the person they are with. Everything about the person makes them happy no matter what it is. Marriage is easy to get into but hard to get out of. When a person has history with someone, the feelings do not just go away that easily unless something hurtful happens or the two just do not see eye to eye anymore. The divorce rate unfortunately is so high. Then, there is the marriage of convenience.

The marriage of convenience could be any number of factors, but the top factor we hear about is, she is pregnant. I always hear people say, well he got her pregnant, he had to marry her. Children are a gift from God. Even if the pregnancy wasn’t planned, a child doesn’t choose it’s parents so it’s not the child’s fault nor circumstances that led up to the child’s coming into the world. That is sad but people have that mind frame. I feel that unless someone wants to get married, leave that decision up to them. There is one thing that is floating around right now is in my generation age. I am 36 by the way for those who have not looked at my profile.

For some strange reason, there is this stigma that marriage should be automatic if we date someone over a certain time frame and live with that person. Where in the world does this stuff come from? We are young adults true enough and our parents want us to do the right thing but let us do it on our own. Marriage is a big step and people should make sure that they are ready to make that step before doing it. After all, this is going to be the person that you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with, unless things don’t work out, one passes away, many other factors come to mind.

I think it is bad when violence is what separates a husband and a wife. Those vows that you take or personal ones that you make to one another should be remembered. But to some, it does not. The news is full of stories about spouses hurting one another. It is sad. Stories like that break my heart in a million pieces.

Cherish your spouse. When you get the connection with that right person, do not let go. It something that you only get once in a lifetime. Do not let people make you think that you must get married for convenience, because the person has money, your parents told you to, whatever other crazy reason. Know for yourself that its what you want. Love is a bond that cannot be broken.