Ten Things Every Girl Should Do After a Breakup

Breakups suck. However, bad relationships are even worse and while you think you may not be able to survive the split, you can and you will.

While no one can tell you exactly how to start moving on with your life after a breakup (I CAN), there are most definitely things you should do to get the healing process going. A mix of cleaning house and partying with a combination of ugly cries and hot new single-selfies. Regardless of which of these you follow and what order you do, I promise you these ten pieces of advice will help you get over that jerk and on with the awesomely single life that awaits you!

Here are ten things every girl must do after a breakup.

Get rid of photos.

You don't have to burn them or break the frames, but for the love of God, put them away. I know you love the picture of you two in the Key West sunset and I'm willing to bet some of the displayed pictures are out just because it's a fantastic shot of yourself, but it doesn't matter. Get rid of them! Shit, have a full blown best-friend-selfie photo shoot or invest in some new art, just replace the old ones with new ones as soon as possible. Remember, empty walls and shelves can be just as depressing as shrines to past relationships, so act quickly.

Clean out your bedroom.

Change the sheets. Throw them away if you must. I would say burn the damn things since they hold the sweat of the love you once made (EWH), but that wouldn't be very responsible of me. Chuck his toothbrush, pack up his clothes, and donate those annoying little stuffed animals that are more of a dust collector than love reminder anyway. All the cards and love letters, put them in a box. Turn up the music, make as many coffees as necessary and de-boyfriend the shit out of your room as soon as you can. Then after you've purged, scrubbed, cried, and screamed, finish it off with a new candle and take a whiff of what freedom and the new you smells like.

Make an empowering playlist.

Music determines your mood which in turn, impacts your life. It empowers, it motivates, it heals, it makes us feel. So skip the love ballets and go for more of the tough bitch, I can do anything I want, better off without you songs. Taylor Swift, Pink, Demi Lavato are just a few of the best breakup anthem artists to get you started.

Allow yourself a (small) pity party.

We can all list the positive things we are going to do to better ourselves and move on after a breakup. But before we do all that, we have to allow ourselves to grieve a little. A part of your life is over, a chapter closed. A person you once loved and may always love is no longer part of your everyday life. The future you once dreamed about is no longer existent. Oh shit, did I just make everyone really sad, because I am NOT breaking up and that just made me really emotional! My bad! My point is, you wouldn't be normal if you just snapped right back to the old you and didn't shed a tear. Invite your friends over or party alone but get yourself some junk, some wine, and wear his college t-shirt one last time and ugly cry until you can't anymore. Your breakup deserves it.

Now, give yourself an "I'm single" party.

OK, now that your pity party is over, let us move onto the FUN party! This is an essential part of breaking up and moving on. When you feel ready and confident that you can handle a night out without a break down and drunk dialing your ex and/or refrain yourself from humping the first guy that hits on you, then go out and do the damn thang. Celebrate! You're alive, you're young, you're healthy, you're FREEEEEEEE!

Change your hair!

OK, it doesn't have to be just a hair color change or cut, it can be any kind of style reinvention. Rock a new look you've always wanted to but was either too scared or too comfortable to try. Growing up, I changed my hair a million times and it was either after a break up or reaching a goal weight. There is something SO invigorating about a new look and even thought it's only a cosmetic change it can do wonders for the soul and give your heart the makeover it so badly needs!

Block and delete.

This probably should be number one on the list, but I didn't want to give it that power. Out of all the advice throughout this article, this may be the hardest to do. However, it is NECESSARY!!! Like, more than necessary, it's REQUIRED in order to move on. Changing your profile pic and relationship status is NOT ENOUGH. I repeat, NOT ENOUGH! You need to unfollow, unfriend, and block! How is looking at pictures of your ex-boyfriend with a new girl going to help you? What is reading his profound tweet going to do for your day? Nothing! I understand you also want him to see the pictures of your new red hair and itinerary for your upcoming vacation to the Bahamas, but what the hell man. You broke up! It's over. If you can't handle full disconnect, than at least change your security settings so you are no longer friends but he can still stalk your pics. Even I get that!

Plan a trip.

I know planning a trip isn't always easy due to responsibilities or finances, but one of the best ways to get over the past is to plan something for the future. This "trip" doesn't need to be to Greece and it doesn't need to be next week, but pick a destination and a date and start saving. You will have something to look forward to, to be proud of, and work towards. And let's be real, a frozen drink on a sandy beach or a new city and foreign sunrise can turn the saddest girl into a happy one.

Forgive and forget or just pretend he fell off the Earth.

Sorry if that offends anyone, but let's be honest, you cannot carry that shit around forever. Take your time to heal, talk to your girlfriends, family, whoever will listen, but then after an acceptable amount of time has passed you need to let that shit go. Either forgive yourself, forgive him, and move on or just pretend that asshole fell off the face of the earth. You can remember the good times and you can even have an outbreak moment of sadness but the key is to remember there is a reason you guys are no longer together. There is a reason you two didn't work as a couple. There is a reason you are better off without him.

Don't get BORED.

One of the most difficult and unspoken challenges during a breakup is filling up your newly obtained free-time with something new. Time that used to be spent with your boyfriend. You see, boredom is the enemy when it comes to getting over someone and too much time alone with nothing to do can often lead to regret and weakness. So, many people join the gym to not only burn off energy and anger but aide in the "reinvention" of one's self. Others start reading books or connecting with old friends they lost time for. A little alone time is good for you but start off in small doses.