I do not have a monopoly on suffering.
How would you describe yourself in 3 sentences?
My life has taken a drastic turn. That was not something I was expecting to happen again at the age of 28. For the past few years, I lived as a stay-at-home wife and mother. Now, my marriage is ending, and not by my choice. I've moved out of the home I shared with my husband, and I only have my young daughter half of the time.
In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses a topic that many women write to her about. They want to know how to get over a breakup a lot faster. Their self-esteem takes a beating and they can't seem to move on and feel good about themselves.
Remember that 80s song 'and I ran, I ran so far away,' from A Flock of Seagulls? If you lived through the 80s, you couldn’t get away from it. I loved that song, even when I couldn’t stand it anymore. It resonated with me on a deep level, one I wouldn’t understand for many, many years. Decades, even.
“Sexual compatibility is a learned behavior in marriage, not something you can ‘test’ for.” I wish that this meme was true. There are several reasons it’s not. Where should I start?
It is sad how many men and women complain about the difficulties they have enjoying a successful dating life. Both sexes must learn how to open up and talk to each other without initial harsh judgment or sabotage due to their own subconscious insecurities.
As I sit at my desk, sipping on a soy chai tea latte and preparing to write, I find myself thinking about all the people who believe the term feminism should be replaced with a word that's less divisive. Frankly, whichever word we use to define the belief that women should not be oppressed is going to be fraught with negative connotations, put there by people seeking to undermine the movement's progress and by "feminists" who misrepresent the point of the movement by saying crazy things like "all sex is rape." Which led me to thinking about another term I do believe should be removed from our vernacular: The Opposite Sex. We should replace it with “The Other Sex.” The former denotes a warring situation; we oppose each other. The latter denotes an egalitarian relation; it says we are peers, not foes.
Only someone who's experienced being cheated on knows the pain that runs through the body and in your head. Real heartbreak makes you feel like the air has been sucked out of you and the only position your body can gather is a ball on the floor. The pain changes you. Being cheated on is the ultimate betrayal with pain that lingers for years. Like a broken bone, it heals over time, but the scars of it will never fade. Throughout life, you are reminded of the betrayal every time you open your heart up to others and every time you think of the traitors who broke your trust. Dealing with the feelings of being cheated on can be one of the most daunting things a person can go through, but there is always light at the end. Hearing solid advice and reading about other's experiences through written word can help start the healing process. Below are some of the best books to read if you’ve been cheated on. They can help you begin to sort out the complex feelings faced after or during being cheated on. You can (and will) get over the pain.
Dealing with a breakup of a marriage or long term relationship will always be a very hurtful time but it doesn’t mean you are a failure or your life is over. There are thousands of people in the same situation but the good news is; there is someone special out there for you when you are ready to receive them.