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When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
You Cannot Make Someone Love You by Loving Them Harder.
Introduction Love is often considered the glue that holds relationships together, but what happens when that love is one-sided? The notion that you can make someone fall for you by loving them harder is a widespread belief, yet it leads to disappointment and heartache. In this article, we'll dive into why this mindset is flawed, how true love functions, and why self-love is crucial for nurturing healthy relationships.
By Muhammad Nadeem2 years ago in Humans
To Love and To Be Loved: The Essence of Human Connection
Introduction Love. A four-letter word that holds the power to shape lives, lift spirits, and create deep, meaningful bonds. To love and to be loved are two fundamental aspects of our human experience. They are as essential as the air we breathe and the water we drink. Love fills our hearts with warmth, purpose, and belonging. But what does it mean to love, and what does it take to be loved in return? In this article, we will explore the profound meaning of love and its impact on our lives, breaking down the intricate dance between giving and receiving love.
By Muhammad Nadeem2 years ago in Humans
What Happens if You Don’t Have Sex for a Long Time?
We live in a world where conversations about sex are everywhere, from TV shows to social media, but what if you’ve gone a long stretch without any sexual activity? Whether it's by choice, circumstance, or life just being too hectic, the effects of not having sex for an extended period can vary widely from person to person. So, let’s dive into both the positive and negative sides of what happens when you’re not getting it on for a while. The Positive Side of Abstinence: It’s Not All Bad. 1. Time for Self-Discovery and Personal Growth Believe it or not, taking a break from sexual activity can allow for a lot of introspection and personal development. You might find yourself gaining clarity on your emotional needs, learning what matters to you in relationships, or rediscovering hobbies and passions that fell by the wayside. Being single or abstinent can offer a golden opportunity to reconnect with yourself—without the distractions of physical intimacy. 2. Enhanced Focus on Non-Physical Intimacy Not having sex doesn’t mean you can’t connect with people in other meaningful ways. Emotional bonding, deep conversations, and shared experiences can become the backbone of relationships during periods of abstinence. For couples, this could help deepen your bond, as you focus on other ways to express love and affection. Think about all the ways you can show care: holding hands, cuddling, or just talking late into the night. 3. No Stress Over Performance or Expectations Let's be honest: sex can sometimes come with its pressure- whether that’s performance anxiety, trying to meet your partner's needs, or worrying about things like contraception or STDs. A break from sex can mean a break from those stressors. Without the physical expectations, you can breathe easier and maybe even enjoy the freedom that comes from not having to perform. It can be a relief to not feel pressured by sexual expectations and to just exist without those concerns for a while. 4. Potential for Better Health in Some Cases For some individuals, avoiding sex may lead to better physical health, especially if they’re prone to certain infections or complications. Abstinence can protect you from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or prevent the risks that might come with contraceptive use. This time can also allow your body to heal from any conditions or discomfort that might arise from frequent sexual activity. The Negative Side of Long-Term Abstinence: What You Might Miss Out On 1. Lowered Libido or Sexual Desire If you’re going a long time without sex, you might notice that your libido starts to dip. While this isn't a universal experience, some people find that the less they engage in sexual activity, the less they think about or crave it. This can lead to feelings of frustration, confusion, or even sadness for some people, especially if they associate sex with connection or identity. 2. Impact on Mental Health Sexual activity is known to release feel-good hormones like oxytocin and endorphins, which help reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. When you don’t engage in sexual activity for a long time, you might miss out on these natural mood boosters. Some people report feeling more stressed or emotionally distant without that regular release. However, keep in mind that exercise, deep friendships, and other activities can also boost your endorphin levels. 3. Potential Strain on Relationships For couples, sexual intimacy often plays a big role in keeping the emotional connection strong. Going without it for too long can sometimes create distance or tension, especially if one partner is craving more physical connection than the other. Open communication about each other's needs is key to making sure the lack of sexual activity doesn’t turn into an emotional divide. 4. Physical Effects of Not Having Sex While this doesn’t apply to everyone, some people notice that going without sex can cause physical symptoms like pelvic floor tension, discomfort, or general restlessness. Plus, if you’re used to the immune-boosting benefits of sex (yes, that’s a thing!), abstinence could mean missing out on that extra health boost. How to Cope with the Changes Whether you’re taking a break from sex intentionally or it just happens to be the situation you’re in, it’s important to remember that both your mental and physical health should be prioritized. Here are some tips: - Exercise regularly: Physical activity can help relieve stress, boost your mood, and even improve your libido over time. - Stay emotionally connected: Make sure you’re investing in emotional intimacy, whether it’s with a partner, friends, or family. Meaningful connection doesn’t have to be physical. - Communicate with your partner: If you’re in a relationship, talk openly about your needs and any feelings surrounding the lack of sex. Honesty can prevent resentment or misunderstandings. Wrapping It Up Whether you're going through a dry spell or choosing abstinence for personal reasons, there are both positive and negative effects of not having sex for a long time. You may feel more emotionally clear and less stressed about performance, but you might also miss out on the mental health benefits and intimacy that sexual connection provides. At the end of the day, it's all about balance—taking care of both your body and your mind, no matter what season of life you're in. So, what are your thoughts on long-term abstinence? Has it been a positive or negative experience for you? Let’s discuss this in the comments below!
By Dome Emmanuel2 years ago in Humans
How Much Do Dockworkers Make? A Look at Their Salaries and Struggles
Dockworkers, also known as longshoremen, play a crucial role in the smooth running of U.S. ports, particularly along the East and Gulf Coasts. Recently, roughly 25,000 dockworkers walked off the job, demanding better pay and protection against job automation. This marks the first strike in nearly 50 years, as members of the International Longshoremen's Association (ILA) rally for “the kind of wages we deserve,” according to their president, Harold Daggett. In this article, we'll break down the dockworkers' wages, their demands, and what their jobs look like on a day-to-day basis. Why Are Dockworkers Striking? The dockworkers are pushing for a significant wage increase. Their union, the ILA, represents workers in ports along the East and Gulf Coasts, and they believe that their current pay no longer reflects the reality of today's economy. They point to the high inflation rates that have eaten away at their income under their expired contract with the United States Maritime Alliance (USMX). This contract, which governed the wages and working conditions for the dockworkers, expired recently. The ILA claims that while the industry itself is doing well, their members continue to feel the squeeze from inflation. The union’s statement notes that many longshore workers are being “crippled by inflation” because of the unfair wage packages offered by the USMX. What Do Dockworkers Currently Make? For longshoremen, pay varies based on years of experience. The now-expired contract set the starting wage at $20 per hour. After two years, this would increase to $24.75 per hour, and after three years, it would rise to $31.90. Workers with more than six years on the job could earn as much as $39 per hour. This means that a worker earning the top-tier wage of $39 per hour would make just over $81,000 annually. However, many dockworkers take on extra shifts, working long hours to increase their earnings. In fact, according to a 2019-2020 report from the Waterfront Commission of New York Harbor, around one-third of longshoremen in that region made over $200,000 per year by working overtime. While the highest earners can make substantial incomes, this requires significant overtime, with some workers logging up to 100 hours a week. For most dockworkers, their salary can exceed $100,000, but this usually includes a considerable amount of overtime. Those working nonunion jobs, however, can make far less, with some dockworkers earning around $53,000 a year. What Are Dockworkers Asking For? The ILA is demanding a major wage increase, pushing for a 77% raise over six years. This would translate into a $5 per hour raise each year of the contract. If these demands are met, the workers would start earning $44 per hour in the first year, with their pay rising to $49 in the second year, and reaching up to $69 per hour by the final year of the contract. This proposed raise is significant and would dramatically change the financial landscape for these workers. The union argues that these increases are necessary to keep up with the rising costs of living and inflation, which have made it harder for dockworkers to stretch their paychecks. Harry Katz, a professor of collective bargaining at Cornell University, believes that the dockworkers hold a lot of power in these negotiations. He points out that dockworkers are essential workers who are not easily replaceable, and that the ports themselves are performing well. This strong bargaining position may help the dockworkers secure a favorable deal. What Is the Latest Offer from Employers? Late Monday, the USMX made a new offer to the dockworkers. The proposal includes a nearly 50% wage increase over the course of the contract, along with tripled contributions to employee retirement plans and enhanced healthcare coverage. The offer also promises to maintain safeguards against automation, which is another key issue for the dockworkers. Automation poses a significant threat to dockworkers' jobs, and the ILA has been firm in its stance against it. The union is fighting to ensure that the workers’ roles are not replaced by machines in the future, which is why they are also pushing for stronger protections in this area. While the offer from USMX represents a significant improvement from the previous terms, it remains to be seen whether it will satisfy the workers’ demands. The union is standing firm, emphasizing that their members deserve higher wages and more robust protections to ensure their livelihoods. Conclusion The strike by dockworkers at U.S. ports highlights the broader struggle for fair wages and job security in the face of inflation and technological advancements. While some longshoremen can earn high wages by working long hours, many feel that their base pay is insufficient given the rising cost of living. As the negotiations between the ILA and the USMX continue, the outcome of this strike could have a lasting impact on the industry. With dockworkers holding a key role in the operation of U.S. ports, their demands for better pay and job protections are likely to influence future labor discussions across the country. For now, the dockworkers are standing strong, advocating for the wages and protections they believe they deserve.
By Black Rose2 years ago in Humans
Finding Hope After Childhood Trauma: A Guide for Adults
Humanity is known for its kindness, it is known for the joy it endows, for the bliss it enclasps in its moments of adoration, care and togetherness as a family and as a community. We are known to live and thrive in a socially garnered civilisation that celebrates each other’s success and belies in growing together into a more progressive society. As we evolve into a more informed and connected world, the bitter truth lies that many of us live or have survived in an environment that was detrimental to our sense of perception, our holistic mind well-being and how we develop our confidence in ourselves.
By Hridya Sharma2 years ago in Humans
The Science of Love
Introduction Hook: “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” - Aristotle. This quote sets the stage for exploring how love intertwines with our happiness. Thesis Statement: Love and affection are not just emotional experiences but are deeply rooted in our biology and psychology, significantly enhancing our overall happiness.
By Sazeeb Chowdury2 years ago in Humans
In the split second between life and death, one realizes that true love is by one's side
I. An Online Encounter and the Sprouting of Love Ava and Ben met in the virtual world of the internet. Through a chance encounter in a game, their fates intertwined. Ben was captivated by Ava's understanding, gentle elegance, charm, and serene personality. In this unknown online realm, Ben found himself falling deeply in love with Ava.
By Emotional Scribe2 years ago in Humans
Finding Hope After Childhood Trauma: A Guide for Adults
Humanity is known for its kindness, it is known for the joy it endows, for the bliss it enclasps in its moments of adoration, care and togetherness as a family and as a community. We are known to live and thrive in a socially garnered civilisation that celebrates each other’s success and belies in growing together into a more progressive society. As we evolve into a more informed and connected world, the bitter truth lies that many of us live or have survived in an environment that was detrimental to our sense of perception, our holistic mind well-being and how we develop our confidence in ourselves.
By Hridya Sharma2 years ago in Humans
The Door That Shouldn't Be Opened. Content Warning. AI-Generated.
Concealed in the cellar, an entryway had been fixed closed for quite a long time. Nobody realized who had locked it or why, yet every past proprietor of the manor had been cautioned: Don't open that entryway.
By Hasib Abdullah2 years ago in Humans
