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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
Relationship Idolatry?
Has love become your idol? Idolatry in relationships is very subtle. You don't know that you have that person up as a idol until everything they do affects your well-being and emotions to the point where it feels like bondage. You can't even follow your dreams because their opinion(s) matter more than your drive to follow after your passion. You're more focused on pleasing them and changing for them rather than focusing on you and growing within yourself. You'll never reach or really know what your purpose is in life if they're an idol (if you don't know what you've been placed on this Earth to do yet). That's why there are so many people that you hear about in relationships where you may think "Why is he/she in that relationship? ....and the person that they're with treats them with disrespect or doesn't value and treat them according to their worth?" They stay because they may feel staying with that person is more important than leaving and finding happiness. We attach ourselves to people due to our own insecurities and emotional hurts so we look to them to fill our voids instead of allowing the Creator to fill those voids for us.
Alexis PatmonPublished 7 years ago in HumansDating Advice: Ladies it's Time to Ask the Men Out!
In the video above Dear Sybersue talks about women needing to change things up with dating in the millennium. If it's not working well then maybe it's time for the ladies to ask the men out!
Susan McCordPublished 7 years ago in HumansEndangered Species
“Once I get home and take off my pants, that’s it. I’m not putting them back on until the morning. Sometimes I don’t even make it to my room before I take them off.”“If I agree to do something more than a day ahead of time, there is a 90% chance I will cancel.”“I don’t want to go outside. There are people there.”
D. Gabrielle JensenPublished 7 years ago in HumansBeing Transgender Is...
Hi I'm Yannick and guess what? I'm transgender. That's right. I am a transgender woman. One thing about my transition is that, although I live as a woman, I have yet to have surgeries and I have yet to start hormone replacement therapy, also known as HRT.
Merlin MystiquePublished 7 years ago in HumansThe Art of Getting By
I do not have a monopoly on suffering. But at seventeen, I've seen my fair share of it. However, this is no sob story, nor is it my entire story. Instead, this is just another chapter of my life---unfortunately, a rather mournful (but life-lesson ridden) chapter.
Brooklyn M.Published 7 years ago in HumansLet It Be
"So why does it hurt when relationships end?" she asked. "Well do you mean romantic relationships or like any relationship?" I replied. "Yeah, any relationship." she says.
Winnie RugambaPublished 7 years ago in HumansAn Open Letter to My Stalker: Thank You.
At fifteen, a boy who I vaguely knew through a friend of a friend took something of a shining to me. This is no mean feat when you attend an all girls school, are entering your teenage years and desperately want a boyfriend. Not to mention the fact that I was a little frumpy and suffered from acne. Any attention from a boy two years my senior was, initially, well received.
Hattie HayePublished 7 years ago in HumansTouching From a Distance
According to Gary Chapman’s best-selling book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, each of us naturally shows affection in one (or two) of five main ways – quality time, physical touch, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service. Feeling fairly confident that I knew how it was going to turn out, I decided to take the 5 Love Languages quiz to find out what my personal love language is.
D. Gabrielle JensenPublished 7 years ago in HumansStop Telling Me I Can't Settle Down
I am the person who is in love and ready to settle down. I have people (gotta love polyamory baby) I love, who I want to marry. I know I love them, I know I want to be with them. So why do so many people think they can tell me not to settle down?
J.C. MariePublished 7 years ago in HumansLet's Talk Polyamory
In today's world, monogamous relationships are the norm. In fact, most people don't think that there is an option besides monogamy. After all, if you aren't Mormon, then you aren't going to be in a place to date multiple people, right? Not necessarily. As a young woman in a polyamorous relationship, I am here to tell you that there is much more to polyamory that the traditional media representation.
J.C. MariePublished 7 years ago in Humans3 Signs To Show You're Comfortable In Your Relationship
It is no surprise that when we enter a new relationship we try to be the greatest versions of ourselves. We try to give only the best impressions to court our future significant other. It’s only human. However, a few months down the line amidst the talks about future plans and how many puppies you want, there are some façades we just cannot help but drop. Nothing screams love and affection more than casually letting bodily functions do their thing, or letting the leg stubble do the talking after a few days. Here are 3 things to show that your relationship is reaching a new level of comfort, and why it’s nothing to be ashamed of.
LJ ChaplinPublished 7 years ago in HumansCan You Survive a Long Distance Relationship?
Love is hard. False, love is actually very easy. If you think about it, we all have someone in our life that we love. For example, it could be your mother, father, grandparents, aunt or uncle, friends etc, and we don't stop to think about how much we love them, we just do because it's un-conditional. We're brought into the world by our parents and in most cases we learn love from them without any conditions, because they are there for us and they surround us with safety and comfort.
Lucy FramptonPublished 7 years ago in Humans