Sweetheart, Break Up With Your Mediocre Boyfriend

The other day, I was watching an old clip of the Steve Wilkos Show. The clip was about a controlling boyfriend. It was extremely creepy that the girl was explaining the situation in the relationship and her boyfriend was in the background, blaming her for the way he is. It is honestly so disappointing to be with someone that does not put effort into the relationship and acts like they are perfect. I was so happy when the girl made the decision to leave him, after everything he put her through, she had every right to put herself first. If you are currently dating a guy who cannot even do the bare minimum please dump him. Your mental health is more important.

So, what is a mediocre person?

Mediocrity means lack of hope, or choosing laziness over effort. A mediocre person will always make excuses for everything, they will try to justify themselves and have a victim mentality. A person who is mediocre is a person who lacks understanding and does not consider the feelings of other people.

Do Not Date A Mediocre Man

Would it not bother you being in a relationship where you make sure your boyfriend feel loved and important, but he cannot even text you to ask you how you are doing? Can you imagine, having a boyfriend that cannot remember your birthday or do small things for you, but is out there paying attention to other females and giving them more attention? I would never be with someone who makes me feel like I have no value. Why be with someone who does not value you? It makes no sense at all. When I was fifteen years old, I had gotten into a relationship with a guy again, we had dated in the beginning of the school year, then he broke up with me because he was into someone else. I accepted it and we remained good friends. Then, at the end of the school year, we got back together, but we only lasted together for a week, again. This time, I ended it because he was not putting any effort into the relationship, he would always ignore my messages and not communicate with me.

If There Is Regret, Then There Is Suffering

It is normal to not always be happy around someone you love. In relationships, people have their moments of argument, and when they are around each other, that feeling of happiness is not there; there is only the feeling of irritation, but that does not mean they stop loving each other. However, if you are in a relationship where you always worry what is gonna happen or you feel like there is no connection, then that means you will suffer if you continue to stay. You do not want to do something out of anger. When I spoke with a professor at my college, she told me that in unhappy relationships, people will leave, cheat, or stay and suffer. It is not easy to leave, but you do not want to be in a boring relationship. If you come to realise you regret the relationship, and he is not trying to improve the relationship, then do not have high hopes. You should not be with someone who does not want to better the relationship.

Lack Of Communication and Comprehension

A mediocre boyfriend is going to belittle you and tell you that whatever you are trying to say does not make any sense. If he does not take the time to try to see your point of view, it just means he is more focused on himself and his happiness. Comprehension in a relationship is important because it allows relationships to understand what needs to be solved. If your boyfriend ignores your feelings, he is not taking the relationship seriously.

It Will Hurt Leaving, But Staying Will Hurt More

If you truly love someone, leaving them would hurt you a lot, but that is normal. It is normal to cry over the person you valued so much. However, it will make your heart happy that you chose your well-being. Leaving is also a sign that you know what you want and that you know what you deserve. Do not settle for less. You are a princess even without a man.