Social Networks And Your Relationship

There is no denying that the internet is an important part of our lives, at work, at home and even on our vacations and that it is something that is here to stay.

The internet is used both for entertainment and to earn our daily bread.

Social networks absorb a lot of our time, I would say more than it is advisable to dedicate to them.

Facebook and Twitter for example have become part of our daily life and if we are not part of these two social networks, we feel that we are out of the world of technology.

While it is true that these social networks help us to socialize daily, contact friends with whom we did not have access before. It is also true that the abuse of these technological media can lead to problems at family and couple level.

Many people say that their addiction to social networks is an escape or a therapy to openly express their emotions.

On Facebook and Twitter, ordinary people and even celebrities express their joys, their major and minor events that happen to them as well as vent their sorrows and pains of having ended a relationship or having lost a loved one.

While this outlet is liberating for many, for others it can become a dangerous addiction. So the Internet is a two-edged sword.

If the internet becomes an addiction, at the same time it is becoming a synonym of problems, because of the claims and fights that will arise with the partner as a result of the amount of time spent in front of the computer absorbed by the screen.

Social networks often become newspapers that focus on private problems such as difficulties we have at family level and that can be very harmful to the family if not handled well.

The most advisable thing to do is to find a balance between the time we spend on the Internet and the time we dedicate to the family or couple relationship.

If there is no balance between these time lapses, relationships fall apart and can end in a breakup or an irreparable deterioration of the relationship.

Facebook and your marital status.

Most internet users who join social networks display their marital status on their profile.

This causes a stir when that marital status changes both because a relationship is started and when it ends.

Many times people use the term "it's complicated", which causes a lot of curiosity and many comment on relationships that show that relationship status.

On Facebook, for example, sixty percent of users show their marital status as engaged, complicated, married, single, divorced or in a bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual relationship.

5 Keys for Facebook users

There are five keys for Facebook users that can cause problems in a couple's relationship and could bring serious conflicts to the extreme of ending the relationship and these are:

1. Do not take anything personal. If you think your partner posts that he/she is tired and bored.

You don't have to think that you have anything to do with it.

As we said before, many people vent their daily pressures on this social network.

Just because you see a "hello" on your partner's Facebook page, don't imagine that your boyfriend or girlfriend is starting an affair with that person.

2. The moment you put on your Facebook that you are in a relationship with a person, you can't avoid that friends of both of you take pictures of them together and share them on your wall.

If the relationship ends, those photos remain on your wall, as well as videos and other memories will remain on the walls of your friends' friends without you being able to lift a finger to remove them.

Remember that many of your photos become public records.

3. Remember that on social networks everything is public and people will find out if someone cheated on you and changed partners from one day to the next.

Even if you don't change your relationship, your partner can do it and everyone will find out that he/she cheated on you and went with someone else. How to avoid it?

4. What not everyone dares to do but it is very advisable is to delete your ex-partner from your friends' network to avoid having to face painful moments and find your ex even in the soup hugging and kissing with another partner.

There is never lacking the masochist who delights in suffering by constantly checking the wall of their ex-partner instead of deleting him/her from their contacts and move on with life.

5. Finally, never comment with other people what you think your partner will dislike.

Remember that you cannot control where your comments will end up and some of your words could end up in the ears of people who want to harm you and want your relationship to be shipwrecked.

If there is any hope of reconciliation with your partner, do not make your conflicts public so as not to distort the facts and offend your partner without that having been your purpose.

The internet is an intruder in your romantic relationship.

Unfortunately the internet has become an intruder in romantic relationships and many times it is the direct culprit of the definitive separation of couples.

Just as suddenly a possibility appears on the internet to find your ideal partner and you meet the man or woman of your dreams, so too the internet can be the mortal bullet that ends your relationship.

People of all ages, races and nationalities are attracted to social networks from young people in their pre-teen years to older people retired from their jobs who find in the network a way to socialize without having to move from their homes.

According to a study conducted by several psychologists from the Psychology Department of the University of Guelph in Canada, social networks generate addiction but at the same time people can freely express their emotions without being judged by anyone for their ways of thinking and feeling.

A couple counseling therapist, states that couples who get carried away by what comes and goes on the Internet are highly vulnerable, insecure, intolerant and disrespectful of each other because they lack confidence in their relationship.

They are also people who do not know how to communicate effectively with their partners.