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Signs Your Marriage Is Over (How To Know When Your Marriage Is Over)

Are you feeling unhappy in your marriage and is seeking out signs to tell you your marriage is really over? As they say, prevention is better than cure. If you're in a situation where you're trying to figure out how to know when your marriage is over, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Hailey SadiePublished 2 years ago 6 min read

Marriages can drag on for years and years without either spouse realizing that there is just nothing there any longer. He develops his diversions, and she has her own activities. They seldom talk, and if they do, they don't really talk about issues in their lives. There is no intimacy left between them, the loving feelings have vanished, and both of them are miserable without realizing they are. At this point, many marriages take a turn for the worse. They can become abusive in the absence of love, and they may find other lovers to fill the void left by their spouse. So what are the signs your marriage is over, and when can a relationship be saved?

One sign that a marriage is over is when you stop having romantic interludes together. Intimacy is essential in order to keep the love within the marriage fresh and alive. If you lose interest in enjoying time together in this manner, there's something seriously wrong with your relationship. Can't you remember a time when you could hardly keep your hands off of each other? You have to admit that your physical relationship had a lot to do with your attraction to each other, and desire should never end, no matter what age you get to be. Even elderly couples who can't have sex as such enjoy loving each other, and the fact that you don't says your problems are major.

Constant ongoing conflict is one of the signs your marriage is over. When we feel our relationship is spiraling out of control it can lead to fear and resentment. One way that those emotions are often manifested is through anger. If you find that your spouse and you can't agree on even the smallest of things, you need to take a close look at the future of the marriage. You also need to recognize that your spouse nagging or belittling you usually has nothing to do with the subject at hand and everything to do with a much deeper rooted issue. If they seem to be verbally or emotionally attacking you it's likely them lashing out because they feel helpless about the deterioration of the marriage.

Another sign that your marriage is probably over is when your spouse starts thinking of reasons not to come home. If he or she is always having to work late without having extra hours on his paycheck, or if he's also going out with the boys or playing pool or golf instead of spending time with you, this could be a sign that he is not interested in his marriage any more and is trying to avoid you. Of course, it's often the case that if this person is not interested in his marriage, he could well be having an affair. While an affair doesn't have to be the beginning of the end of a relationship, it often is. And if your spouse seems to drift from affair to affair while telling you he still loves you, it's time for you to get out of the marriage and cut your losses.

Not sharing details with one another is another of the signs your marriage is over. Happily married couples want to share everything with one another. They talk about all the good and bad things that are happening in their lives. If your spouse and you don't talk about work, the children or your feelings that's a very bad sign. Neglecting one another will almost always result in the love that was once there being lost. If you feel this happening in your relationship don't ignore it or you will end up heading towards a divorce that may be impossible to stop.

If you're seeing the signs that your marriage is over and still don't want to give up, you can try visiting with a marriage coach to ask him, "Is my marriage over?" If the coach believes there is no hope, he will be able to guide you on the easiest path to divorce, helping you get over the negative feelings and feel good about yourself again.

How To Begin Relationship Healing When There Are Signs Your Marriage Is Failing

Are you having marriage trouble, perhaps saying that your spouse cheated on you, or you are seeing signs your marriage is failing?

Do you have a feeling that the loveless marriage has potential for reestablishing love and trust? Are you screaming inside with thoughts of help my marriage?

There is some great potential for relationship healing, because you are asking for it. That alone is a giant step toward rebuilding your now, what only seems to be, loveless marriage.

Contemplate what the Course in Miracles states, "Look at the picture. Do not let the frame distract you."

Loveless Marriage?

Let me share some dialogue from a recent help my marriage case scenario:

With our marriage in trouble, we have turned down the picnics and bar-b-ques. I guess I will just try to make it through."

Many others told me pretty much the same thing. Some were going to do some things-- for the sake of the kids.

A crisis does that. It ends up spreading and taking over more and more of life. A crisis does the same.

I was chatting with a friend yesterday with a marriage in trouble. I asked, "Have plans for the holiday weekend?" (It was Thanksgiving in the U.S.A., a day to celebrate the first colonials, and kicks off the Christmas season).

1) Life enjoyment.

2) Efforts to improve.

Let's do that this weekend, okay? Don't let the crisis force you into hibernation. Decide to get out and do something.

While it may not seem like it, the choice for healing is in your hands.

The Course in Miracles further states, "For here is only healing, perfect and already complete."

I just started a new online course this morning. And the weekend is a bit slow, so time for me to dig in.

Let's talk about that first one-- Life Enjoyment.

Many times, in the middle of a crisis, marriage in trouble or otherwise, there is a tendency to become uni-dimensional. And the crisis spreads to the space allowed-- all of life.

The weekend is probably a little more quiet and still. Things are just a little slower. You can either join in the slow motion, or decide to dig in and do a little self-improvement.

You can get started RIGHT NOW with improving your relationship.

Second, you (and your life) is bigger than any one facet, any crisis in life.

Your crisis is one part of your life.

The long weekend will pass. Will your relationship be better at the end of it?

If you want a little recommendation, let me make a suggestion for the improvement part: work on your marriage.

Work on yourself and work on the relationship struggles.

I'm pulling for you! That holiday weekend has the potential of dragging you down-- or of being a turning point in how you approach your seeming loveless marriage crisis.

Are Your Crying Out, "Help My Marriage?"

Now, make a mental choice: what will you do for some enjoyment this weekend? What will you do for a little improvement this weekend?

Wherever you are, whatever has happened, today starts a new journey. Every day is a new opportunity for a new journey.

A new process for relationship healing!

Where will you spend your time working on a little self-improvement this weekend? And with a slower weekend, it is a fine time to do it.

Remember, many couples who are desperately in a marriage trouble crisis make the errors that wind up going deeper into a loveless marriage instead of wonderful relationship healing.

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Thinking about regaining the status of "Happily Married"? It is possible, and is not difficult if you think it is not. But exactly how you do so? If you would like the source most couples used to revive their relationship, strengthened their marriage, regain trust and love in the marriage and not giving up then visit Secrets To A Happy Marriage


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