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Sex and Love

Sex can mess you up without love.

Sex and Love

Hello, everyone. Here's the deal about having sex with someone else outside marriage. Yes, it's okay to have sex outside marriage as long as you have feelings of romance of love, really any passionate desires that you deeply and intermediately feel towards your other partner, because sex is something you should NOT EVER take for granted. Sex is a gift for people to enjoy. I would not recommend looking for sex in a night club, because that’s where women who love to sleep around with tons of guys go, but if that's how you want to find your partner, go for it. I'm not here to judge and tell anyone how to live his or her life. I'm only offering a little piece of advice. Intimacy is supposed to be in it, but if you don't really feel anything emotional towards your other partner you are having sexual relations with, you're just lusting after him or her in a meaningless way. The byproduct of this is misery. You will feel so miserable and empty that you'll wish you never did actually did it before. Trust me! I have a very good idea of what that crap is really like; I was watching pornography for about 18 years in the beginning of my life. I started doing that crap in Middle School. It messed me up when I was younger, so I am advising you to make sure you feel something towards your partner before you have sex with him or her. Don't just go out to nightclubs or some other place to meet your needs. To lust and have sex can destroy your self-image, your own FEELINGS, and your HEART. You will experience so much emotional pain when you sleep around, and you felt something for him or her, but in the end of it all, it is just a nymphomania. You will realize you wake up feeling miserable the next day. It may feel good the first time, but as it progresses, what I've learned from watching and masturbating, is it’s not worth my time. I think to myself, "I can do better than this!" So basically, whenever you have premarital sex with someone else, make sure it's someone you love or at least have feelings for. Because if you should ever get married, your spouse is most likely to find out if you have been sleeping around. He or she can most likely TELL if you're masturbating, based on how you carry yourself and on your own negative feelings about yourself. It can ruin your self-image, but it can also cause your skin to become unclean. I learned from first-hand experience that this could happen because I have been masturbating to pornography excessively, but I can honestly say that I am getting better every day. It really is just a waste of my time. Now that I'm 28 years old, what I've thought to myself when I watched pornography was: "That's it. I've HAD ENOUGH OF THIS FANTASY!!!" I am worth more than what I lust after. I mean, HECK YEAH, SEX IS FUN AND ALL, but think about the aftermath of what happens AFTER you've experienced the best sex of your life. Sure, you'll feel tired after you’ve slept with your significant other, but what happens afterward, when you wake up in the morning? You ask yourself: Oh crap, who is this person next to me? I didn't really feel love. Basically, would you want to have sex with that individual again? Did I REALLY care about this person, or was I trying to feel good about myself and have a good time?

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