Life is too short to leave things in bad terms.
Giving someone a second chance is scary. Once you accept an apology, you must decide if you want to give them another chance. What if giving them a second chance results in the same outcome? We all deal with conflicts differently. Sooner or later, we learn from our personal experiences and gain the ability to not only move on but to forgive others.
Offering forgiveness or second chances is usually a complex situation because it requires a lot of maturity from us.
I do believe in second chances. I think everyone deserves a second chance. But we cannot control how they will use the second chance. Will they repeat the same mistakes, or will they actually change?
Of course, it also depends on the situation when giving someone a second chance.
People make mistakes all the time. No one's perfect. I used to give someone chances upon chances upon chances. When do we know we should stop giving someone another chance? I learned that when the person I kept giving chances to, will never change even though they said they will. When someone thinks they can come and go in and out of your life because they know you will always be there for them, you need to stop giving them these chances that's taken for granted.
Giving people a second chance does not make you stupid, it just means that you're stronger in that aspect and you believe that people will and can change for the better. Life is too short to leave things in bad terms.
A second chance is an opportunity for you to learn and grow. When you are given a second chance, you should never waste it. Because you'll never get another chance again. Learn to be a better person with second chance. If you don't forgive someone, you will be pulled into a pool of negativity, what's more it will just drain you emotionally and physically, as well as mentally.
What happens if you don't give someone a second chance, or worse, second chances never exist? We would not be able to grow to be a better person, to make up for our mistakes and learn from our mistakes. The same mistake will be repeated from one person to another.
Not only that, we will lose friendships, relationships or even family members if second chances never exist.
Can you imagine yourself not giving someone a second chance? I can't. Sometimes, I give people way too many chances because to me, I think they deserve it. Honestly, giving someone more than a second chance is a wrong choice. If your second chance is never being appreciated, then don't give any more chances.
You get hurt, you learn, and you move on. Life is too short to hold on to the past and not enjoy your future. Things will never go the way you want most of the time, but that doesn't mean you should hold grudges against people. Free yourself and enjoy life as it is. What comes, comes and what goes, goes.
"Everyone makes mistakes in life, but that doesn't mean they have to pay for them the rest of their life. Sometimes good people make bad choices, it doesn't mean they're bad. It means they're human."
We're all human. We all make bad choices in life that we regret. People make bad choices that they regret too. We're not perfect and will never be perfect. It's normal for us to make mistakes, making choices we think were right but is wrong, ending up hurting people. And that is how life is.
What we can do is forgive, move on, give people a second chance to learn and give yourself a second chance to learn and grow along with others. Don't hold grudges, don't hold on to what has happened. Learn and understand that things are bound to happen for a reason. So, forgive someone, and give them a second chance.