Relationship Red flags

We’ve all been there before..meeting a person we find ridiculously attractive and all is going well until little things happen that we look past, but we shouldn’t. These are some red flags (signs that you should leave the relationship as it will almost always end up toxic).

Not introducing you to family/friends- now maybe at first it’s because they don’t know what they want or if things will work out, but if you’re dating for let’s say 6 months or more and you haven’t met any of their family or friends there might possibly be a reason as to why. Something to hide maybe? And no someone feeling nervous to meet your family isn’t the same as someome purposely avoiding it! If you haven’t met ANY of their family and friends..there’s probably more too it!

Lack of empathy- empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. If you’re hurting/worried and they don’t care, they aren’t for you! (sorry!) Any normal human if another is suffering would feel remorse even if only slightly, if they don’t care then be worried!!

Taking forever to reply- now I don’t mean they’re at work and busy, no that’s normal but if someone when they are around you are consnrslty on their phone but when you aren’t together takes 5+ hours to reply with a rubbish or no explanation hunny you probably aren’t the only one for him! Sometimes people genuinely ‘just busy’ but if that phone doesn’t leave their hand once when you’re together why is it suddenly no there for a 2 second reassurance check when you aren’t? I was with someone who always shouted at me for being upset when he didn’t reply but was online on Facebook, now that’s me being an over thinker but when I was with him he was never off his phone? Suspicious- I had a right to be because he was messaging more women than single men do.😂😂🥴

Possessive!!- now this is a big one! They may be your partner etc..but THEY DO NOT OWN YOU!! I shouldn’t need to say more you’re still your own person so still be respectful but don’t let them treat you like you are their dog.

Crossing boundaries- trying to force/pressure things that you don’t want/aren’t ready to do. For example you are busy and they push until you give up plans to see them, you say you aren’t in the mood for sex and they make you feel like you have to!! Pushing you to be exclusive before you feel ready (do feel like you have to rush into a relationship). They try to change the way you do your hair or what clothes you wear (this is control!!), don’t let someone take away your identity!!

Making fun of you- little comments that are said in a ‘jokey’ manner that you don’t find funny, or comments that are made to others about you to bring you down again made as a joke but do hurt. For example you’re with friends and they say “...not as dumb as ‘you’ is...” it’s said as a ‘joke’ but it brings you down and makes you feel terrible in the process!

If something doesn’t feel right in your gut, trust it! Don’t let things lead to emotional and physical emotion. They just weren’t the right one, you’ll find it..one day. I spent a long time ignoring red flags and it doesn’t end up well! Don’t try and justify their behaviour to try and stay in what is a toxic relationship- trust your gut!! 💕