Pretty But Lonely

by Erika Farrah about a year ago in single

Is it true? Are prettiest girls always the loneliest?

Pretty But Lonely

This particular entry is about the world I have personally lived in. While I do not hide my personal life, I do not often share it either. Why? Because there are things that aren't meant to be spoken, but I feel now, in this day in age that I have to stay something.

For as long as I have been interested in seeking a romantic relationship I have always heard this "The prettiest girls are the loneliest girls". Why is that? Why do I have to be alone because people thing I'm pretty? Am I pretty? Really? Because I don't feel pretty.

So why do people say that? Is it true or are they trying to make the single girls feel better? Is there a similar saying for men who are single?

I think it has to do with the fact that we are all a little lonely and maybe many of us do not know what we want, but we know what we are afraid of. Rejection. No one likes to hear the word 'no'. No one likes to think that they can't get the person of their dreams.

This is not a "date me" rant or a cry of "desperation". In fact, almost 90% of my friends don't believe me when I tell them I am single. They say things like "but you're so pretty and smart" or "but you're hot!" or "but you're so strong and independent". The list of compliments goes on and on and while I never saw myself as those things, I know others do so there has to be a truth to what they say. This post is to say we need to all get over our own insecurities. I know I have them for I always fear that the guy I have a crush on doesn't see me that way and that if I ask him out and he says no it'll make things awkward or ruin our friendship. I always fear of asking someone out because I'm afraid of being a bother or looking desperate. Those are my insecurities.

And yet I keep reminding myself that the worst thing they can say is 'No'. That little two letter word can have a huge impact on one's life. It can break your heart, make your whole world come crashing down, and take away that little ounce of hope you may have left. So many thing it's not even worth trying. Let me tell you the worst thing that can happen.

You could live a life of regret. The word 'no' isn't a bad thing. It means that the girl or guy you were trying to ask out isn't right for you. That there is someone more awesome waiting for you and that he or she lost out on a wonderful person.

It's one of those things easier to write and say that it is to believe, but it is true. So be pretty, be hot, be the person you know who you are and love, but don't let that make you lonely.

If you like what you read tell me. If you didn't tell me. If there are things you'd like me to talk about I'm more than happy to try.

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