Play between friends and good, but do not go to help these kinds of busy

We encounter things in our lives that can easily be botched if we don't use our wisdom.

Because I've heard several experiences of good intentions going bad, I've learned that there are several kinds of favors you can't do between friends.

01 No bottom line of the favor, can not help

Have you ever encountered this kind of thing? There is a male colleague who is introverted and helpful, and he likes to help his colleagues. He had a lot of friends, and everyone said he was a good person and liked him. Eventually, he left his job.

At first, it was like this, one person asked him to help bring a cup of milk tea, he did not want to go down but went to bring it anyway. That female colleague said you are a good person!

Everyone heard about this, every day at noon there are all kinds of friends, let him help to bring things. The better to give money, the bad will pretend to forget.

This male colleague is also embarrassed to ask, so over time, they encountered economic difficulties.

This male colleague's family was hospitalized, he wanted to find colleagues to borrow some money, not much, each borrowed 500. some people owe him money a couple of hundred.

But this time, his so-called friends, all excuses that they do not have money. From then on, he saw through it, he went on a rampage in the office and said he wanted the money they owed before back.

Colleagues said aren't you a good person? Even this money is needed. Some of them even threw the money on his desk and said, "Cheap bastard!

From that day on, he never went to the company again. That's when he learned that there is no bottom line favor, can not help. Others will only think you are a soft touch and will not be equal to you and sincerely help each other.

Have you learned the truth of this story? The only way anyone will like the real you is to be yourself first.

02 When there is someone else's interest, do not promise yourself

There used to be a friend who loved to be nice. Let's say one day there was a boy inside a few of his friends who said his computer was broken, so the nice guy friend inside said another friend wasn't going to fix the computer and told the boy to go to him. Also said that a friend is a good person, who will help him.

The result was that the other friend was very difficult at the time, the family was sick and had no desire to do these things. So he politely refused.

The boy was very angry, he went to his good friend, said you are not a guarantee, he can help me, and he did not even care about me.

The good man's friend did not make a good man, but also suffered a lot of anger.

So we promise to help others but must be able to do it ourselves. If you are a handful, let others do the help, then do not agree with others.

03 let yourself lose a lot of help, do not help

There was a man who reached middle age and made money, so he went home to buy a house and a car. Inside the village heard that he had made a fortune, there are many so-called friends came to the door.

One friend said he wanted to start a business, and the man played the emotional card so that the man borrowed 500,000 himself, the man thought 500,000 was too much, unwilling to borrow.

The friend said I will not treat you badly, the future success of my business will give you more.

The man's heart softened, thinking that all his friends were in the same village, why bother so much, he ran again are the same village with me. Originally he only had 800,000, not on the 500,000 lent out.

As a result, a year later, he and this friend lost contact. The village only left this friend, an elderly pair of parents, friends ran early, do not know where to go.

At this time, the man wanted to cry, I have lent out 500,000, and now they have no money. Now they want to engage in a project what no money.

He regretted lending so much to others, but why should he have done so if he had known in the first place? Never borrow when you encounter a loss that makes you lose a lot of money.

Between friends to protect others to protect themselves, first to their own life, and then help others as much as possible.