of a happy marriage

One, is to perfect your love map.

The other person's preferences, understand each other's beliefs, understand each other's rhythm. Knowing each other can bring more empathy. When you get to know each other, you will know how the other person will react in a major conflict and be better able to stay emotionally connected to each other.

Couples can allow some space for each other's personal, financial, spiritual and interpersonal independence, but at the same time learn as much about each other as possible. Getting to know each other does not mean controlling each other. The more you know who the other person is, the more you understand every detail about him, and the more you can understand each other's emotional changes in the usual subtleties.

Second, is to love each other and praise each other.

Love each other and praise each other is the basis of a happy marriage. Even those who are not good with words can make each other feel their liking for their partner in their daily behavior and every move.

It will go into marriage that the other person has strengths you appreciate and a personality you like. When the appreciation and love fades away, the marriage gradually enters into a bland passion.

Chinese people are introverted and not good at expressing themselves. By guessing, mistakes are often made, and bold and straightforward language can be made clear to both parties.

Love from the heart is the first requirement to fall in sweet love. Marriage is complicated and hectic, never forget the first heart.

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Third, be close to each other rather than far away.

Make a conscious effort to get closer to each other every day. If you want emotional closeness, then someone should step up to the plate and you both will realize that the other person is an essential partner in your life.

Emotional quality is really not a matter of going with the flow, but more a matter of managing it. Love each other and grow old together.

Fourth, let your spouse influence you.

Two people will inevitably bump into each other. If they encounter something that can be solved, calm down and solve it. If not, then, whether you like it or not, compromise is your only way out.

Expressing compromise to your spouse doesn't mean that your views are wrong. As long as it does not involve your unshakeable principles, then let your spouse influence you that you are willing to change for him.

Fifth, solve the problems that can be solved.

Problems exist and propose reasonable solutions to each other. Begin with gentleness and end with compromise.

When arguing, remember that the goal is to solve the problem, not create it. Rarely bring up detrimental factors to solving the problem, such as criticizing the other person or treating the problem negatively.

The problem ceases to be a problem when two people solve it reasonably and center around it.

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Sixth, learn to defuse the awkward scene

Some problems are fundamental problems, problems that cannot be solved, some differences in personality. After all, they are two different people, with different social backgrounds, childhood experiences and ways of growing up. These differences lead to some deep-rooted ideas in the personalities of individuals.

For example, two people with different religious beliefs may argue over a simple meal, and two people with very different personalities will argue over the same thing. These issues cannot ultimately be resolved, but personal emotions and opinions can be resolved.

When you take the other person's differences from you, even unique quirks, as humorous personalities, you don't have to get depressed or worry about the other person's majesty. Learning to solve problems is the best way.

Seven, create common meaning.

Dreams are hopes, ideals and ambitions, they are part of you, give you purpose and give meaning to your life.

A dream can be a small thing, like watching a love movie every weekend, or a big thing, like wanting to buy a house of your choice. It can also be a hobby, a daily routine, etc.

Respecting each other's dreams is the secret to a happy marriage. Even if you don't agree with each other's dreams, understand each other's dreams. This will give you the ability to be compassionate and to want to know what the other person wants to do is the sign of a couple with high emotional intelligence.

You can provide financial support for each other's dreams and lives.

The highest dream is to incorporate someone else's dream into your own.

Couples can create their own family rituals, make a cake for each birthday family and take a family photo at a set time each year.

Love is not the whole of marriage, and conflict is not the only theme of marriage. To have a common meaning is to pursue marriage.