"No one loves you more than they love themselves, remember that."

Most people who would love themselves are doing well.

"All my life I have longed to be well collected, well laid up and carefully preserved. Lest I be frightened, lest I suffer, lest I be displaced from place to place, lest I be left without a branch."

This quote does meet the requirements of many people's love, but is this really realistic?

It may not be, as the phrase that follows this one, "But the man, I know, I have always known, he will never come", is more in line with the reality in love.

It's not too much to want to ask for love to be beautiful, it's just that one of the difficult things about love is that you can hope for love to be beautiful, but you can't force it to be beautiful.

When you love someone, that person loves you and you can reap the happiness you want, but when that person doesn't love you, you have to learn to give yourself happiness.

It's only when you won't love yourself and all your hopes are pinned on someone else that you're more likely to be disappointed because you can't guarantee what the future holds for you and the other person.

So, whoever loves you can't love you more than you can love yourself, remember that.

You can't force someone else's love.

In a relationship, it's never about someone being able to love, or someone loving you, and being happy.

Because very often falling in love with someone else is the beginning of a person's unhappiness. And that unhappiness often consists of these two things.

One: You can't guarantee that you'll be happy with that person.

Eileen Chang wrote, "I thought that love could fill the regrets of life, but it is love itself that creates more regrets."

This quote is most vividly embodied in Eileen Chang.

The first thing you need to know is that you will be able to find the best way to get the most out of your money, and that you will be able to get the best out of your money.

The reason for her unhappiness is precisely because she fell in love with and married Hu Lansheng.

Soon after the two were married, Hu Lancheng fell in love with someone else, and repeatedly betrayed the marriage, in this relationship of Eileen Chang, from gain and loss, turned into extreme disappointment, and finally chose to leave himself.

This result, is ready to get married Zhang Eileen how did not expect, just like in the relationship, how many people can not imagine, in front of the person who makes themselves feel happy, whether they will let themselves always happy.

It's not just a matter of time, but it's also a matter of time before you get to the point where you're ready to get to the point where you're ready to go.

Second: You can't guarantee how long that person will love you.

Another thing that can't be forced in love is to have someone who loves you to keep loving you forever and ever, because even they can't control themselves.

Just like Chen Junsheng in My First Half Life, when he loves Luo Zijun, he really loves her, and when he doesn't love her, he really doesn't love her either.

He can remember his commitment to Luo Zijun and the work Luo Zijun has done for the family, but often, not loving is just not loving, and there is no need for any reason or excuse.

The person who will love you may be able to stay by your side and make you feel safe in the present world, but love is changeable and you never know what it will turn out to be in the end.

If you are able to stay together, you will naturally be able to be happy, and if you can't, you will have to accept it at ease.

As long as you love yourself, there's never a shortage of people to love.

There may be no guarantee in a relationship how long a person can love themselves or that that person will give them happiness, but what is guaranteed is that if you love yourself, you will never lack for love.

As Wilde wrote in The Ideal Husband, "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."

When you will love yourself, you can give yourself a lifetime of romance, and it's really easy to meet another person who will love you in that romantic setting.

After Eileen Chang and Hulan Seng broke up and lived their own lives, she then met different people and started a different life and had different relationship experiences.

The reason why she was able to start a new life had to do with her own abilities and her love for herself.

After Zhang Eileen and Hu Lancheng separated, she did not devastate but continued to engage in her writing and wrote many classics.

In the process, the money she earned through her writing was enough to sustain her life, and the temperament she cultivated through reading allowed her to meet other people who could appreciate her.

Imagine if the original Eileen Chang had given up on herself after she left Hulan Cheng, not writing, not living well, would there be any stories after that?

Probably not, because life has been set in stone ever since she didn't love herself and was without a lover.

"Learn to live alone, whether there is anyone around to love you or not, do what you have to do, with or without love, and be at peace with it."

This quote is what should be the ideal situation when facing love, not to expect someone to protect you all your life, but even if no one protects you all your life, you can still protect yourself all your life.

You never live your life for others, you live it for yourself.

When you don't even love yourself, you can't see your future, and people naturally won't like you who are too down and out, which is how feelings originally are.

So, whoever loves you, can't compare to their own love for themselves, you can give themselves a long love, you can give themselves to love someone's bottom line, and more importantly, even if no one loves you, you will not lose yourself.

The rest of your life is long, don't waste your time on unnecessary people, love yourself, that's the only thing that really makes sense.