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My Husband Told Me He Wants A Divorce (My Husband Told Me To Divorce Him)

Are you in a panic right now thinking my husband told me he wants a divorce and don't know what to do about it? Are you wondering how to change your husband's mind and make him want to stay? You're not alone, it's happened to many women before you. This happens to a lot of marriages and frankly there's usually one main reason that causes you to be in a position where you're saying my husband told me to divorce him.

By Logan JacobPublished about a year ago 6 min read

I Want a Divorce. Yesterday you awoke to a sunny day, bright with anticipation of what to expect and accomplish. Today you wake to a cloudy day, somewhat frightened, feeling a little unsettled and possibly angry. When you look at the other side of the bed, it is empty.

Waking allows escape from a restless night filled with ragged dreams, maybe more thoughts than dreams. Then it comes back to you, the words your husband threw in your face after a quiet dinner. Maybe the lack of conversation should have indicated a prelude to what came next but it did not.

You remember lifting the wine glass to your lips as the words tumbled from your spouse, at first unrecognizable then definitely understood. I Want a Divorce. Time stopped as you placed the glass on the table. The puzzled expression on your face reflected what you heart did not understand. There were no words in response. Your husband started to restate the words again as you left the table retreating to another room.

You hoped that moving away from the table would allow some sense to come to your understanding, to your spouse or at least modify the message. It did none of the above as the words came with your spouse following you.

This morning your mind still struggles with what happened. What caused this exchange when things seemed so good, so sweet, and wonderful? Where did it go? You knew in your heart that from last night nothing about your marriage would be the same ever again. If there was going to be a marriage.

Step 1: Grieve. A divorce carries much of the sorrow and loss of a death and spreads pain, loss, hurt and heartache. How to grieve, how long, and in what fashion a person grieves depends on the individual. However to grieve a loss is a place to start anew.

During your grieving period, life goes on. Probably you will hear from your spouse, as they will normally be concerned with your emotional health unless there was bitterness involved. In that case, you will not grieve much. If you still share a domicile this contract will be frequent and sometimes awkward. Time will be your friend in this period.

Step 2: Assess the loss to evaluate your future. If there is no child in the relationship this is an easier step. Do you want to attempt to save the marriage? A difficult decision and one that will work out as you see your former spouse on other occasions. From that contact, you can evaluate if there is hope of a reconciliation and reaffirmation of the marriage and importantly do you want to make the effort.

Step 3: Go outside yourself. Once you have a comfortable grasp on your real feelings, emotions and have them under control consider outside activities. Do not date, as this will not help your heart though it might feel good to the ego to know others still find you attractive. However, get involved with group events of any type you find enjoyable.

Staying home in solitude is no way to work through heartache. Your focus must move outside the home environment onto other activities. If you want to save the marriage, the leaving member must again see you as an individual capable of life beyond the marriage and not as weak and just hanging on. Everyone respects a caring, loving, strong person.

Step 4: Look at You. It is hard to look in at yourself when the center of your life leaves. The image in a mirror highlights new facial lines that appeared overnight, maybe new wrinkles, skin blotches and unruly hair. You are just a mess. Call a spa; indulge yourself, with all things that make you feel better about yourself. This is for men and women. We all need to take a moment when things seem at their worse to put ourselves in a new light.

The secret will be when others see you after you have taken this step. Your confidence will show, they will see it and more importantly, you feel it. There is nothing better than looking good, feeling good to see a major change in how you view the world.

How To Stop Divorce With A Sneaky Little Trick

If your entire marriage went like your honeymoon then most people would never need to know how to stop divorce. Nor would they call it a honeymoon, it would all be just blissful marriage.

But those of us who are married know that is not how it works, marriages have ups and downs. When the downs stop recovering, though, thoughts quickly turn to how you can save your relationship.

There are also cases where one day a person wakes up to find out that his or her spouse wants a divorce, thinking that will improve their life. Often our first reaction is to try to convince our spouse that divorce is not the answer, but the more we try to change their mind, the more they dig in their heels.

Once a person thinks divorce is the answer to a problem marriage, they see almost any attempt to stop divorce as an attack against them they must defend against.

So if you want to know how to stop divorce, sometimes a sneaky little trick can be the best way to save your relationship!

That sounds kind of underhanded, though, doesn't it, a sneaky "trick"? Well, maybe, but we are not trying to really trick your spouse, just human nature. If everything you say meets with resistance, then what happens when you agree with them?

In their current state of mind, your spouse wants everything you say to be wrong; so what if you agree, then what? Then they can actually question whether or not divorce is the right way to go - and that is what you want.

It is absolutely imperative that you be calm, rational and even tempered when discussing your marriage problems with your spouse. Never argue as that will only drive them further away. If arguing appealed to him or her then they would be happy in a bad marriage!

By agreeing with them that the marriage is in bad shape and that divorce could be the answer you take them off the defensive. After all, you cannot deny the reality that this is what it has come to, either.

Show them that you completely understand their feelings and respect their decision to end the marriage. This shows that you are taking them seriously.

Offer to talk through the points that they see as the most serious. Suggest that there be a little cooling off period for each of you to think things over; buy some time.

If divorce papers have not been filed, then your chances to stop divorce are even better, but do not give up even if they have been. Perhaps they would even agree to a trial separation; while not perfect, that is better than outright divorce, right?

It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?

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