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My Husband Says I'm Boring (What To Do When Your Husband Is Bored With You)

There's nothing worse than having to say my husband says I'm boring. This happens with tons of marriages and it's really disheartening. If you're trying to figure out what to do when your husband is bored with you, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Zoey MilaPublished 2 years ago 6 min read

People always say that you need to constantly spice up your relationship if you want to keep your man for good. But not all women actually get to do this important advice. If he's starting to drift lately, don't fret because there's still much hope.

Begin by analyzing your recent actions.

Have you been too boring? Don't convince yourself that there's nothing wrong with you. Look into your behaviors and honestly see the things that need to be improved. Perhaps it's time to smile again and to throw a few jokes.

Get involved with the things that he does.

Even if you're a home buddy, it pays if you also get out of your shell once in a while. See the world through your man's eyes. Appreciate nature. Get together with all of your friends and see how a little party every now and then could break the schedule that's been boring him.

It's time to ask what he wants.

His desires might have changed. Perhaps you've spent too many years together that you think you already know what he wants next. To your shock, this guy now wants something else! Ask him what will make him happy and, together, you could work to achieve each other's utmost happiness.

This will pass.

Or you might just believe that this, too, shall pass. But what if your husband doesn't snap out of his boredom phase anymore? What would you do then? It's best to address the issue while it's still fresh. Plan to deal with his boredom concerns so that you could head on with your lives.

Ask him to be a little understanding.

Being a wife requires so many things - taking care of your husband, cleaning your house, driving the kids to school, fetching the kids their needs, doing the laundry, and the list goes on. If you could just ask him to share some of these tasks with you, then he would be less bored!

How did you win him before?

Ask yourself this question. What made him fall madly in love with the woman that he married? Surprise the man, let him see the spontaneous you once more. Keep him up on his toes by making him guess what you're up to.

Hire a nanny and date out.

Perhaps you've been missing out on date nights! It's time to boogie and go bar hopping with your husband. Don't let the week's tasks eat up your energy. Spend time with him - and him alone. Reminisce all those romantic moments in the past, and if you can, relive them!

4 Keys to Making Marriage Work

Relationship difficulties, marital problems and unhappiness are simply facts of life for most people. The unfortunate truth is that most marriages typically don't work out for the people involved. At any given moment, one person is probably happier or more "in love" than the other person; and, as they say, "it takes two to tango." One person simply can't make a marriage work, which is why most marriages end in unhappiness and divorce. If you aren't working on making your marriage work every day, you are eventually going to run into marital problems, stress, unhappiness and -- if you're lucky -- divorce. If you want to make your marriage work, you need to consciously and consistently put energy into it and, in order to do that, you'll need: incentive; commitment; a committed partner; and a plan.

The first key to making marriage work is incentive. It goes without saying (but I'll say it anyway) that people don't like to do anything unless they're going to get something in return for their efforts. While it isn't wise to do things in order to manipulate your partner into responding a certain way, you need to establish a clear incentive for your efforts. My incentive is that I want to continue to live a happy and healthy life for as long as possible. To stay happy and healthy, you need to spend your time thinking and doing happy and healthy things. Arguing, fighting, worrying and being resentful are not conducive to health and happiness; they cause stress and stress causes illness. Decide what you want in life -- or what kind of life you want -- and make that your incentive.

The second key to making marriage work is commitment. You need to be committed to your goals in order to stick with the program and achieve them. The proper incentive helps us maintain focus, but we also need to learn to master our thoughts, emotions and actions for those times when we are put to the test. Without commitment and focus, you will fall into the unconscious, automatic (habitual) behaviors that got you where you are in the first place. It helps to have a safe "sounding-board" to keep you encouraged and focused through tough times. Friends with agendas or negative influence, however, should be avoided -- these are the friends who attempt to stir up drama by trying to make you feel justified in your anger, worry, etc. True commitment to your marriage may mean eliminating negative influences from your life. How committed are you?

The third key to making marriage work is having a committed partner. As I mentioned earlier, it takes two to make a marriage work; if you try to do this by yourself, you'll simply become worn-out, bitter and resentful. Communicate with your partner. Study and learn about relationships together. Explain the importance of a committed, joint effort and then observe what happens. If your partner is truly committed, it will show. If your partner isn't truly committed, then they aren't truly your partner; they are an obstacle to your health and happiness. Just as you need incentive, your partner will also need incentive in order to maintain a commitment to your relationship. Help them find it and keep it in mind. Spend time talking regularly about what your joint goals and desires are -- as well as what you each want individually. If you help each other, you have found the true essence of marriage.

The fourth key to making marriage work is a plan -- a simple plan. If being happily married was innate to humans, half of our marriages wouldn't end in divorce and married people wouldn't drive each other nuts. Your plan should include regular, meaningful communication, spending quality time together having fun, and learning (together) how to develop incentives and commitment in order to maintain relationship harmony. To be good at marriage, you'll need to learn about it and practice the things you learn. Remember the old axiom: "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail." There are many resources available to help you develop strategies for creating and maintaining relationship harmony.

Everyone of us wants to be happy. If you've found yourself in a marriage, your odds of being happy have dropped significantly. Although humans need companionship to be happy and fulfilled, having a companion you don't get along with will have the opposite effect. You can be happy and married at the same time, but it isn't easy or natural; you're going to have to work on it. Follow these keys to relationship success -- and find a committed partner to help you along the way. When you have learned the art of being happily married, life takes on a whole new look, feel and meaning. If you're married, do yourself a favor and learn how to make marriage work for you and your partner. You'll be glad you did.

Do you want to reawaken a committed and loving relationship in your marriage? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

Divorce does not have to be your only option. Even if it feels as though your relationship can't be saved because of the ongoing conflicts between you and your spouse, it can be. There are techniques that you can begin using today that will not only stop a divorce, but will help also you build a stronger and more loving marriage. To learn more visit: Steps to Save Your Marriage


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