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My Husband Said He Regrets Marrying Me (My Husband Says Our Marriage Was A Mistake)

Are you worried with the thought my husband said he regrets marrying me? There is little doubt that hearing your husband tell you that he wishes he hadn't married you stings. You are probably beginning to doubt whether if your marriage is going to last. If you're in a situation where you're saying my husband says our marriage was a mistake, then this might be the most important thing you've ever read.

By Amira LyricPublished 2 years ago 5 min read

Author Maxine Rock wrote The Marriage Map. In her book, she explains marriage in seven easy-to-digest stages. All marriages experience these stages, according to Rock.

Stage One: Fantasy Time is when relationships are perfect. This stage is exciting because it's new. You may even overlook your partner's shortcomings. If they don't pay the electric bill, it's easily forgotten with an apology. If your husband snorts when he laughs, you may find it cute, and not aggravating. This is the moment when emotions run high and sex is great. This is also known as the honeymoon stage.

Stage Two: The Compromise period is when couples realize their partners aren't perfect. Some couples find themselves disappointed with their partner or experience marriage regret. You may even think, "Is this all I get? The snorting laugh you once found so cute becomes irritating. This is when people try to change their partners or themselves. You might ask your partner to become more responsible for paying bills or stop smoking cigarettes. This is a dangerous stage because some people won't make any changes or decide they don't want to accept their partner's faults and leave the relationship.

Stage Three: Reality Struggles is when relationships become predictable and boring. Sexual activity may become less frequent and exciting. Eventually, both partners realize the other won't make any major changes and accept their partner's traits-good and bad. By this time, many couples are ready to divorce. To survive this stage, you must accept your partner and their limitations, and focus on their good points without being judgmental or critical. You will need more patience than you can imagine.

Stage Four: Decisions is when you decide your partner isn't the same person from the Fantasy stage. Your partner gets angry, is forgetful, and can sometimes be inconsiderate. But they may still surprise you with a romantic dinner or a romp in the park. At this stage, you will evaluate your marriage, separate the good from the bad, and then decide if you want to continue with the marriage.

Stage Five: Separation is the worst moment in a relationship. This is when couples choose to either separate or get divorced. Some may emotionally separate from each other while their sex life and all communications cease. Some couples continue in loveless relationships for financial reasons or for their children. This stage only ends when a couple alters their lives so their marriage can survive.

Stage Six: Together again is when a couple realizes they are in this partnership together and will stick it out till the end. Both parties decided to commit to their marriage and never consider divorce. If you are here, your relationship has succeeded.

Stage Seven: New Freedom is the final stage. This is when a couple no longer needs to apply so much energy into a marriage for it to work. The married couple just "goes with the flow." There may even be a peaceful understanding between partners. It's what many consider to be the best years of their marriage. Most couples refer to this final stage as their golden years.

Immediately following the seven stages is what Rock refers to as ongoing growth. This is when a couple spends their days enjoying each other's company. It's considered to be the final prize for persevering through hardships. You both grow individually while simultaneously maintaining your marriage.

The Dire Truth You Want to Know About Your Spouse's Love

Are you in a marriage where your spouse has fallen out of love with you, but you want it back?

Well, you're not alone in this at all...it happened in my marriage, and many other woman's marriages too.

But it doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage, strife in the marriage, even not the end of good sex life within your marriage. That is, if you do things right.

Why has your spouse fallen out of love with you?

We need to understand the problem first before we can solve it. When it comes to the problem where you think your spouse has fallen out of love with you your marriage is not necessarily in Danger. I'll explain more about that in a minute

There is a difference if he is really telling you that he has fallen out of love, or that you only suspect it. Either way it is a reversible situation.

Although you might be in a hard emotional condition, confused and heart, try to get over your emotions for a moment (you will need to do this a lot, if you want to save your marriage), and ask yourself some tough question about you and your spouse, in order to understand why he has fallen out of love with you:

Have you been complaining a lot lately?

Have the two of you had enough sex lately?

Have you been jealous and complained about this lately? Have you been irritating?

Did one of you have an affair before and you had over come over it with counseling?

Maybe he haven't got over the affair and have a resentment toward you?

Have you been nice and accepting to toward your spouse lately or that you have been criticizing or indifference?

Have you been occupied too much lately? Neglecting your spouse?

A word of caution to you

When you are behaving in one or more of the ways described above, you are not only betraying your vows, but you also push your spouse away from you.

In this situation the very same man who asked you "will you marry me", feel emotionally hurt or neglected, and after some time become open to get into an affair, or an emotional affair, and this is when they lose their love to you.

For most of them this will "just happen" without planning and with some guilt feelings that might make them impatience and lead to further arguments with you.

And this is the dire truth. The man you have married and swore to live with, happily ever after is either heart, disappointed, neglected or bored of you.

But you can fix this situation in a very short time. Take an immediate action to save your marriage.

It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?

To learn how to save your marriage alone, then check out this plan of actions that is 100% guaranteed. Over 60,000 couples were able to save their marriages by doing the very same series of steps that you will be doing. If they saved their marriages then you can too! Click Here to see how it's done… All my best to you and your spouse!

Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your spouse to feel even more distant from you. You can make your spouse fall back in love with you, all over again. There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by, Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

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