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My Husband Is Leaving Me (How To Stop Your Husband From Leaving You)

There is nothing worse than having to say my husband is leaving me. If you're trying to figure out how to stop your husband from leaving you, it could be that you've got some built up resentment that is proving hard to get rid of.

By Ashley ScholarPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 5 min read
My Husband Is Leaving Me (How To Stop Your Husband From Leaving You)
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What to Do When your Spouse Tells You that He is Considering a Divorce

Have you just been told by your spouse that he wants a divorce? If so, you are basically left with three choices. You can agree with your spouse and offer no resistance. You can disagree, but fail to do what it takes to save the marriage. Or, you can say to yourself, "I must start to save my marriage today, no matter what it takes to do so."

Tips to Help You Save your Marriage Alone: List the Marriage Problems

First, determine what problems have led to the marriage crisis. Then determine the causes of those problems. You may feel frustrated at the prospect of pinpointing all of the causes by yourself. However, it is important to accept the reality that you may not be able to produce a complete record of the issues. But your solo efforts will give you a list from which to determine the marriage problem areas of which you need to focus.

Estimate the order of each marriage problem's importance. Next develop an idea of the level of intensity required to solve each issue. Some examples of common marriage problems include; communication problems, no longer being there emotionally or sexually for each other, and no longer treating each other with respect. These issues that immediately come to the surface are a good place to start.

Decide Appropriate Solutions to the Problems

Next, gather all the facts concerning the causes of all of the problems you identified. These are the causes for the potential divorce. Make theoretical assumptions about how those problems can be solved. Then, consider hypothetical scenarios based on your set of assumptions. Allow each hypothetical scenario to fully develop to its logical conclusion. From what you know about your spouse's likes, dislikes, personality and level of tolerance to listen to such a solution, you should make a guess as to how well that hypothetical solution might be received.

Catalog and Rank Your Solutions

Next, compare each solution with the others. Rank these solutions, from best to worst, based on the chances of a positive expected response from your spouse. Also, rank each solution based on the amount of relationship-mending impact that you expect each solution to produce. Then, determine which of the problem-solving measures you should select to implement. The goal is to get the best response from your spouse. Complete this last solution development step over and over. You should catalog those solutions until you feel confident they will work.

Handle Each Solution with Tender Tact

Next, from best to worst, try to implement the solution you determined would have the best overall outcome. Timing is important in order to maximize the effect of your solution. Wait until you are already talking to your spouse to ask him if you can share an idea that could fix one of your marriage problems. Stress that the purpose of the solution is to make things better in your marriage together. If he agrees to listen to you, then follow these steps.

First repeat back to him reasons he gave for desiring a divorce. Next, tell him that you have begun to re-evaluate your level of effort to make the marriage work. Explain to him that you have started to make changes in yourself to repair the damage you have already done to the marriage.

Sharing with your spouse that you have taken his desire for a divorce seriously is a great place to start. Tell him that you have begun to take steps to repair the marriage. This may inspire your spouse to trust you. Next, explain your first solution to your husband. You will want to stop and listen to your spouse's response and reactions. Be prepared ahead of time for a good or bad response from your spouse. If your spouse is receptive to your best solution for one of your marriage problems, then start communicating with him concerning each of your top solutions.

Also, he might decide somewhere along this line of communication to mend the marriage with you. He may offer his own resolutions to your marriage problems. Even if the other spouse is not impressed right away, it is still important to listen to his responses to your ideas.

An important tip about restoring the relationship with an estranged spouse is to respect his need for time to think apart from being with you. Do not bug, harass, and/or try to contact your estranged spouse once he has indicated that he does not want to be contacted. Respect his desire for space may be the first step towards reconciliation.

Follow Through with Your Action Steps of Reconciliation

Whether or not your estranged spouse shows interest in working on restoring the marriage, or shows complete apathy, take action right away. Do not hesitate for one minute to show him that you are serious about mending the marriage. Putting words into action can be amazingly effective in convincing a spouse that the marriage is worth a second try. Saving a marriage on the verge of a divorce is difficult to do alone, but it is not impossible.

When a marriage has deteriorated almost to the point of divorce there is no guarantee that it is still fixable. However, marriages in this situation are saved everyday and there is hope. There is always a chance that it can be fixed. The decision is not final until both of you have signed the divorce papers. Until that point, there is hope that the marriage will not end in divorce. You can feel positive about every effort you make to save it. Each effort may indeed be rewarded with positive outcomes and, perhaps, the restoration of your marriage.

Do you want to reawaken a committed and loving relationship in your marriage? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

Divorce does not have to be your only option. Even if it feels as though your relationship can't be saved because of the ongoing conflicts between you and your spouse, it can be. There are techniques that you can begin using today that will not only stop a divorce, but will help also you build a stronger and more loving marriage. To learn more visit: Steps to Save Your Marriage


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