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My Husband And I Have Grown Apart (My Husband Is Acting Distant)

If you are able to acknowledge this fact and say, my husband and I have grown apart, to yourself (instead of just ignoring the problem or thinking it could go away by itself); you have already taken a big step in saving your marriage. This happens to a lot of marriages and frankly there's usually one main reason that causes you to be in a position where you're saying my husband is acting distant.

By Hailey SadiePublished 2 years ago 6 min read

If you are saying "my husband and I have grown apart, and I have no idea what to do!" then please read this very carefully. When a couple starts drifting apart, it is a watershed for the marriage. And it is a watershed that EVERY marriage goes through. In some marriages the couple is able to sort it out, and the marriage ends up even stronger than ever before. In other marriages, the couple can't deal with it, they continue drifting apart and the marriage collapses. It is now in your hands to overcome this obstacle and build something that lasts forever.

In a marriage, there needs to be communication. And it needs to be as clear, and as open as possible. There is no marriage that survives intricate schemes and power plays. So this is the time to be as honest as you can be with your husband. Men, usually, are much more closed to the outside about their emotions then us women are, but they can always be opened up: They NEED to be opened up if you are in the "my husband and I are drifting apart" situation.

If there is emotional distance with you, forcing your husband do talk about it might not be the best route to take right now. He will probably either deny the whole thing, or just get angry because he is being forced to talk about his inner self. Rather, instead of forcing him to start sharing things with you; what you should do is to arrange some alone time in which you two can do things together. If you do not overdo it, meaning, if you limit those times to once every couple of days, he will not object.

And if your husband and you are drifting apart, there is no better way to initiate a mental closeness spell than being alone with him. You will see that during those times he will get emotionally closer to you and begin to share things about his life. Do not force him to do this, but be encouraging by talking about your day, how you feel about a certain thing that happened lately, etc. This will make him respond by sharing things from his own life; at first just at those "alone" times you have with him, then all the time. If you are saying "my husband and I are drifting apart", you need to be close to him physically and mentally!

Even if both spouses love each other sincerely, at times they might find themselves getting more and more distant from each other and getting close to a divorce. But like me, you too can take some steps into saving your marriage and turning it into a satisfying relationship.

5 Strategies For Creating Extraordinary Relationships

Do you know how to create an extraordinary, passionate, and loving marriage?

It's no secret that intimate relationships are the cause of more pain and more pleasure than any other area in our lives. Romance, love and passion are all powerful forces. They pull us in. Yet, they can turn our world upside down, leaving us in pain just as easily as they can lift us up to amazing heights of happiness, joy and fulfillment.

We can feel an amazing deep connection one day and then wonder what happened as we struggle to make sense of our spouse. What happened to the spark that initially caused that intense attraction...where did it go?

How do you bridge the gap back to what was once an amazing connection, from the cold reality of today's existence? Is it even possible to return to love?

Maybe it's our spouse's fault because they changed, and we don't feel attracted to them anymore. Sometimes we can have no idea where they are even coming from. What if you barely get along? Even conversations can be stressful. What do we do about this constant struggle to relate over even the most basic issues? And how do we know when to give up and move on?

Our friends and family have all kinds of ideas about what we should do, but none of it works. After all, most of them are not exactly role models for fulfilling marriages.

There are plenty of couples who have extraordinary intimate relationships even after 40-50 years together. Relationships do not normally lose love, connection and passion over the years. What is the standard that you have for your marriage? Are you modeling an extraordinary marriage today, or have you settled for something that is lukewarm at best.

Re-ignite the spark in your marriage with these 5 Strategies:

1). Stop arguing with your spouse. Do not try so solve any disagreements. Leave those alone for now. Do not try to fix anything that you think is wrong with your spouse. This may seem strange to you, but it will free some of the essential energy needed to restore your marriage. Trying to prove you are right is not the answer that you need.

2). Be who you were in the beginning of the marriage. You probably were playful and fun to be around back then. Maybe you were even downright silly because love can do interesting things to you... can't it? You are not doing what you were in the beginning, or it would be like it was in the beginning. If you truly loved someone what would you do for them?

3). Have heartfelt understanding for your spouse. Put yourself in their shoes and FEEL how they feel. This is not head -felt understanding. This is about the heart. What do you notice when you are in their shoes? There are always two sides to every story. Do you know your spouses side of the story? Maybe there is something that you need to do as a result of this new understanding.

4). Put your spouse first; their hopes, their dreams, their desires. Focus on giving your spouse what they need. Do you know what they need? Can you give it to them in the way that they want to receive it? You can't just intellectualize this. You have to actually give to them. This is not about waiting for your spouse to give to your first. You be the one to give first. When there is really love and passion, and not just people who tolerate each other, or stay together for the kids, you will always find that they put their spouse first.

5). Get back to your core masculine or feminine energy. Like two magnets, it takes polarity, or opposite energy to cause attraction. However, turn one of the magnets around and they repel each other. This happens in marriages when couples get depolarized. People get discouraged because they don't know how to meet each others needs so a shift in energy occurs. In 95% of all couples both men and women are well intentioned towards their spouse but feel constantly misunderstood and frustrated by their needs and communication style.

For example: Men don't feel like they can succeed so they get tentative, and women protect themselves by being strong. A man might give up because he can't figure out how to make the woman happy taking on a more feminine energy, and the woman becomes frustrated with the man's ability to understand her so she takes on more masculine energy.

At first, this might be a very subtle shift. But over time, this lack of polarity is like cold water poured on the spark of attraction, and... it's gone. In my opinion, this is the biggest single issue that causes challenges in marriages, and the #1 cause of divorce.

Intimate relationships can be relatively easy when you know what to do. Passion can be like a switch that you turn on when you have the right energy in a marriage. It is independent of age or time spent together.

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