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My Ex Won't See Me In Person (Why Can't My Ex Look Me In The Face)

So you're thinking to yourself my ex won't see me in person and you're looking for how to change this. It's amazing how fast things can start going awry, to get you to a point of worry that you're searching out help for why can't my ex look me in the face. Read this article to find out what to do.

By Henry JosephPublished 2 years ago 6 min read
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The time right after a breakup is difficult for both you and your ex, whether you initiated the break up or not. One of the most frustrating things that can happen is one will tend to avoid the other. If you're getting the cold shoulder from your ex, here are some tips to get them to stop avoiding you:

1. If you're trying to communicate with your ex too soon, they might still not be ready to face you yet. Allow them space of a week or two to see if they initiate contact with you first. Eventually curiosity will get the better of them and they will get in touch with you. If it has been long enough and you're missing them terrible. Drop them a brief note or phone message.

2. If your ex has reasons to not forgive you very quickly, send them a sincere apology, try to be unique with the apology. The more unique the better, the element of surprise will knock down their defenses faster than any other way. Just make sure it is sincere but not going to annoy or offend them in any way.

3. If you could, try to talk with your ex's family or friends and try to remain on good terms with them. The more your ex sees you are getting along with the people around him or her, the sooner they will soften to your presence.

4. Once some time has past between you, try to surprise your ex by showing up at a place or time they would least expect it. Just make sure you don't do it too soon after the break up or they might become very annoyed and angry.

5. Talk to them with a calm composure. Do not make a scene, whether they say something to really upset you or not. Keep the feelings inside as much as you can until they are out of your sight.

6. Remain agreeable and caring, you want their best interest at heart.

These tips should get you on good terms with your ex. If you want to keep the lines of communication up, you need to do it slowly and always take your cue from them. Although it may seem as if all is lost. The opportunity to reconcile and make them fall in love with you again is still possible.

Getting Your Ex Back And Ending The Pain

Are you tired of the pain, tears, fears and thoughts of never getting your ex back? I'm sure the pain you feel is just a little worse than you expected and is lasting a lot longer than you thought it would. It's time to get back your ex and mend your broken heart.

Well, when you lose someone close to you it hurts and takes a while before your heart stops aching. If you weren't feeling lousy and miserable and frustrated I would say that it's probably not going to work out getting back your ex. You see if you don't have a strong desire to get back together with your ex I would say that you probably should re-examine your relationship and make sure you really want your ex back in your life.

Tips For Getting Your Ex Back

Don't Be Resentful - One of the struggles with trying to get your ex back is your battle within. On the one hand you miss your ex dearly and long to get back together. On the other hand you might be feeling a little angry and resentful after being dumped, pushed aside, kicked to the curb, etc., and you don't think it was right or fair. You have pride and might struggle to understand how someone who you loved so much could inflict so much pain on you by breaking your heart. Guard your heart and your mouth and don't let resentment get in the way of getting back your ex.

Do Be Purposeful - It's very easy to let fear and anxiety lead you to be confused and scatter brained. I don't mean to belittle you or your pain but you probably feel like any contact with your ex is better than no contact at all. So, you reach out with phone calls, Facebook messages, tweets, text messages etc., hoping for a friendly response. The problem is twofold;

  • First, your ex probably is starting to view you as desperate and thinking he or she has you wrapped around their pinky.
  • Second, the more your ex ignores your attempts to connect the more stressed, depressed and frustrated you might become.

It's important that you put together a communication plan that allows you to make meaningful contact with your ex. You need to think through what you want to say if you do send a message via social media or email or voice mail.

You also want to have thought through what you will say when you run into your ex and have a small window of opportunity to talk. These run-ins might not happen that often so you don't want to let them slip away.

I know this might come across harsh but if your ex asks you "why are you contacting me or what do you want from me", make sure you have an answer other than "I love you". A better reason might be that you have a different perspective on why he or she decided to leave but you would appreciate getting closure on your end. Give them a sense that you understand why he or she needed to end the relationship but that there are still some unresolved issues on your end that you would like help getting beyond.

Do Take Care Of Yourself - I know it's stressful and painful working on getting your ex back into your life. You probably skip meals, sleep and showers (just kidding about the showers). You do need to laugh and keep your mind, body and spirit up. Don't let the fact that you broke up with your ex cause a breakdown of your life. You had a life before your ex came along and guess what. You need to live your life now while you are waiting to get back together with your ex.

As I mentioned above, when you get in-touch with your ex you want to be at your best. You want to look and feel like a million bucks. Don't sound and look like a miserable, angry, resentful and depressed ex. Your ex will probably feel better getting back together knowing that your life hasn't come to a crashing halt and will be more attracted to you.

Listen, your ex is important to you and I get that. However, the most important person you need to love in this relationship is you. If you aren't happy with yourself and love you it will be harder for your ex to appreciate and want to reconnect with you. Spend some time taking care of you and when you do get back together, it will be so much easier to move forward.

These are the first steps in a proven strategy to get your ex back? It doesn't stop here, though. What you do next is crucial to get your ex back. Don't throw away your chances by not knowing what to do next. To read the shocking revelation that holds the final key to get your ex back visit: Ex Back Guide

If you would like to learn more about the psychology behind breaking up, and if you feel that you need a step-by-step plan for winning your ex back, then head to Ultimate System to Get Your Ex Back Fast

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