My Ex Says He Misses Me But Doesn't Contact Me (My Ex Boyfriend Says He Misses Me But Makes No Effort)

Obviously when you're interested in getting back together with your ex it's not as simple as calling them up and asking for another chance. The dynamics of relationships just don't work that way. If they did, you two would already be back together, enjoying getting to know each other again. You have to be more subtle, and more calculated than that. You need to start by developing a plan to get your ex curious about you again. You have to reignite their interest so they feel as drawn back to you again as you feel towards them.

Here are 5 easy ways to get your ex curious about you again:

Ask their opinion on something. If you're facing an important life decision right now, call your ex up and tell them that you'd value their input. In most cases, they'll be happy to help. They'll likely view it as you asking their opinion from a friend point of view. Be direct about the issue and then listen to what they have to say. Thank them for helping. This opens the door for you to contact your ex again in a couple of weeks to let them know how things turned out.

Suggest being friends with them. If you two haven't talked much since the relationship ended, now may be the perfect time to bring up the idea of being platonic friends. Let your ex know that you've missed them and that you'd really like to strike up a friendship. Don't put any pressure on them. Just treat them as you would any other friend. This will allow you the opportunity to lay a new foundation for a renewed romance in the future.

Call them on a special day. If your ex's birthday is approaching or the holidays are right around the corner, this gives you an unbelievably good excuse to call them. It's touching when someone remembers our birthday or calls to wish us happy holidays. Be gracious and friendly. Your ex will appreciate your attention and the gesture.

Regardless of how you ultimately decide to reach out and connect with your ex again, be cautious about the way you handle it. You want to approach them from a place of pure friendship so they don't mistake your reaching out as trying to corner them into something more. Leave the past where it belongs and start afresh now. Remember that your ex loved you once and if you can show them that you're still that same person, they'll remember the good times and be open to more.

Save Your Relationship and Get Him Back With a Relationship Triple Play

If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, remember the 80/20 rule: twenty percent of your efforts (to save your relationship) will be responsible for eighty percent of your success (at getting him back). This means that 80% of the things you say and do to try to get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship will be a waste of time.

And since time is of the essence - the window of opportunity to save your relationship and get your ex boyfriend back is only going to be open for a little while - you can't afford to waste any time doing anything that will not lead directly to getting him back.

So if you want to take the shortest and surest route to getting your ex boyfriend back and saving your relationship, make sure you make a "triple play."

"Play" Hard to Get

Guys love a challenge. And they want what they can't have. If you're like most gals you've probably known this since you were small. But under the circumstances of a broken relationship, you may have forgotten all about this helpful little fact. So you've probably been making an effort to make sure your ex boyfriend knows that you're available to him whenever and wherever he wants.

If you want to save your relationship and get your ex boyfriend back, you've got cool things. Not totally (that would make the next parts of the "triple play" to get him back all but impossible), but you've certainly got to minimize contact and allow it to happen only on your terms (when, where, and for how long you say).

"Play" up to His Ego

Guys have big egos. And they love them to be stroked. Nothing drives a guy wild with desire more than being flattered and complimented by a gal who's playing hard to get.

So on those few occasions when you do "allow" some contact to happen - not physical contact (no way at this point) but contact via text, phone, or even an in-person (but public) meeting - tell him he looks good, tell him that what he's wearing really makes his "X" look good (you decide on what the "X" is that looks good enough to compliment him on), tell him anything that plays up to his ego without going overboard - and without gushing.

"Play" the Other Man Card

If you've been following the first two plays of the "triple play," you should be about two-thirds of the way towards your goal of getting your ex boyfriend back and saving your relationship.

Your final "play" leverages off of the fact that no guy wants to see his ex girlfriend moving on - especially when she seems to still have feelings for him ("why is she paying me all those compliments whenever we talk?") and seems to be strangely out of reach to him now ("she used to be there all the time for me, now it seems like I'm sitting by the phone waiting for her to call").

What you need to do is to create an image of yourself having moved on and leading an interesting new life - one that appears to be filled with things that your ex boyfriend couldn't give you.

You don't want to do this directly because it will appear suspicious, so either use friends the two of you have in common to get the word out to him or, better still, post updates on Facebook periodically (e.g., "had a great time at 'X' last night! The lobster was amazing!" "Packing for a weekend trip to wine country...can't wait for the first tasting!").

If you can add some photos to your Facebook updates, the effect on your ex boyfriend will be even more powerful.

So there you have it: the "triple play" to get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship. Use it well and you'll find yourself in control of the situation and the future of your relationship.

Now even though the "triple play" is a powerful approach to getting your ex boyfriend back and saving your relationship, it's really just part of the picture. If you really don't want to leave anything to chance, then you need to make sure that you get the best advice possible on everything you need to do - and say - in order to get him back.

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

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