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My Ex Is Dating Someone Else Already And It Hurts (Ex Is Already In A New Relationship)

Are you worried about your breakup, saying to yourself my ex is dating someone else already and it hurts, what do I do? This article will tell you the number one reason your ex is already in a new relationship, and at the same time exactly what you need to do to get them back.

By Michael JaxonPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 6 min read
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My Ex Is Dating Someone Else Already And It Hurts (Ex Is Already In A New Relationship)
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So you think that, just because your ex is dating someone else, that you don't have a chance to win your ex back? I can tell you from experience that you are only feeling this way because of the break up. You are so devastated, hurt, and angry, that your situation seems really hopeless.

When my relationship fell apart I was totally crushed. I had this awful feeling that I would never see my ex again, and life just didn't seem worth living anymore. The worst thing is, my ex started dating someone else very soon after we broke up, and this just confirmed to me that we would never be together again.

However, it was my depression that was making me feel like this - giving up just because my ex had someone else. Of course I stayed as far away from him as I could - I didn't want to see him and his new partner - it would hurt too much. Without realizing it, I was doing just the thing that would get him back to me!

I stayed away from him, and at the same time, I was giving myself time to let my badly broken heart heal again. I can tell you something though, once I was over the break up, I looked at the situation in a whole new light. I wanted my ex back, and I was going to do anything I could to get him back!

Can you see what I'm trying to get at here? Don't give in to your emotions now - they're shattered. Pick up the pieces first, and then decide what you want to do. Get yourself feeling like your old self again, and then you will see things differently, just like I did, and go all out to win your ex back.

You will realize that your ex is with this other person only because he/she is hurting after the break up - it's a rebound relationship that probably won't last for very long, anyway. This alone will encourage you to get yourself looking great again and start going out with your friends sometimes, instead of sitting around moping at home.

Sooner or later your ex will get tired of his/her new partner, and this is when you take action and go all out to win your ex back. Doesn't this article inspire you into getting a grip on yourself? It's so great to no that all is not lost if your ex is dating someone else - there is a light at the end of the tunnel - all you have to do is get there.

How Can a Rebound Relationship Work in Your Favor?

When your ex is dating someone else to get over you that is what you call a rebound relationship. It keeps your ex from feeling the pain and emotions brought on by a breakup. It definitely makes getting over a real love a little bit easier. More often than not, rebound relationships are a temporary thing. How can a rebound relationship work in your favor?

Many people will jump back into the dating scene because they fear being alone. It's a quick fix, one in which we can drown out our pain by reveling in the emotional intensity and passion of a new found love.

Many rebound relationships are based on what was wrong in the past relationship. They may have just come out of a relationship that involved infidelity or abuse so; they turn around and expect their new partner to be able to make up for the pain they experienced in the old relationship. More than likely, all they will do is exchange one set of problems for another.

Rebound relationships don't always mean your ex is over you. It can mean they are trying to get past the hurt and lonely feelings they have for you.

It really does not matter if the breakup is your fault or theirs. It also does not matter who initiated the breakup. What matters the most is that you both shared a real love. As a matter of fact, practically all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If they're in a rebound relationship, they will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship. The fact that they are actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons. Their attention is still focused on you even when they are with someone else and it gives you a chance to see what they're looking for.

If they are going out with someone who's completely different from you, it means they are missing something from the relationship that they had with you. You can use the time you have to improve yourself while they're with a new person.

As they spends time with the other person, they will start seeing their flaws. After a few weeks with the rebound person, they'll start missing you. Rebound relationships tend to make people think about what they really want out of life and most of the time, it can lead to couples getting back together again. They realize that the differences and arguments they had weren't so bad and that they would rather be together than without each other.

That's why you don't want to crawl back to them right away. Let them develop the idea that they misses the good things in the relationship. When they're ready to make a move, be magnanimous. Welcome them back graciously.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

1. Don't try to persuade them or convince them that you're the love of their life. Let them realize this on their own.

2. Don't keep apologizing to them. If you did something terrible, tell them you're sorry once. And then move on. They're aware of the real reason that they love you.

3. Never make promises to them that you will change. You are who you are and that is why they love you.

4. Don't try to convince them that the breakup wasn't your fault. They'll appreciate that over time, but only if you haven't made them spend time and energy defending that it wasn't their fault.

5. Never, ever beg them to take you back.

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Relationship is a fragile bond that when it's broken, the process of mending can be much more difficult than creating it in the first place. Sometimes it's an extremely difficult task to sort out all the problems and get back together with your ex. No matter how many times you come up with different reasons and approaches, your ex does not seem to change the decision to leave you. If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing your ex's decision about the breakup, click here!

Let me show you exactly what to do to salvage your relationship and rekindle the lost love one more time…even if you're the only one trying…and even if the situation seems hopeless. Head over now to Get Your Ex Back Secrets

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