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My Boyfriend Dumped Me Because Of His Depression (Depressed Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Out Of The Blue)

Are you saying my boyfriend dumped me because of his depression, and you want to find a way to turn it around? There are moments when you still can't believe it. It's so hard to imagine that your depressed boyfriend broke up with me out of the blue.

By Michael JaxonPublished 2 years ago Updated 2 years ago 6 min read
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Breakups that come out of the blue tend to create many questions. You may never know exactly why he dumped you, you might be out of luck if he isn't even talking to you at all. Moreover, getting dumped brings about pain and insufficiency, and it's not easy for a girl to overcome those feelings so it doesn't drag her into a state of depression. The following is a list of some useful tips from girls who were able to claim, My life got better after he broke up with me.

First, to overcome the break up and emerge as a better person, analyze what went wrong. When he broke up with me, my boyfriend made certain that I couldn't contact him by any means and you might find yourself in the same situation. It's up to you to reflect upon the weaknesses of the relationships and any flaws that caused the break up since he won't be able to provide answers. Get other people's validation about your imperfections if you have any characteristics that require changing.

If you blame your bad traits for the breakup, let your friends and family validate it. Once confirmed, utilize your spanking new freedom to make yourself as an enhanced person. Your ex is also to blame for the break up but a complete self-improvement is always good.

Several girls say, He broke up with me because I was very controlling to him. More often than not, this is true to relationships where the life of the girl revolves around her boyfriend. This type of loyalty can be sickly sweet to some men, especially if the girl is possessive, as well. The breakup can become an opportunity to discover so many things about you if you're in a similar situation. Our lives mustn't revolve around one person, and while you were so worried about your boyfriend, you may have forgotten your personal talents, interests, purposes, and dreams. You have the chance to leave your comfort zone and try new things now, instead of supporting your boyfriend's endeavors. Eventually, the breakup can even be a benefit for you.

Several girls might consider the above things wrong while thinking, Well, he broke up with me but we're gonna patch up. Self-improvement is both for those who wish to move on with their lives and for those who plan to patch up with their ex, too. You exude a type of confidence that will make you look more attractive if you feel great about yourself. In addition, enhancing yourself will enhance your relationship in turn and stay away from future break ups.

The solution to all of this is finding the bright side in any trouble, even breakups. Consequently, discover means to change the situation so that you can get something good out of it, rather than just drowning yourself in self-pity telling yourself, "Oh no, he broke up with me!".

What To Do To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If You've Been Dumped

You've been dumped by The One, Mr. Right, the man you thought you'd marry and love till the end of time. So what do you do now? Is it possible to get your ex boyfriend back when he was the one to walk away?

The good news is that there is always a window of opportunity to win your ex back, after a break-up. The bad news is this window doesn't stay open forever, it does take some effort to get your ex boyfriend back, and if something serious came between you (for example, you cheated) it's going to be harder. But not impossible.

Here's what you have to do to get him back, starting now:

1. Immediately stop everything you've been doing to try to win your ex back. The crying, the texting, the phone calls, the sending little notes and gifts, telling him you love him, asking his friends about him, who he's seeing now, parking outside his place or near his office...you've gotta ditch all that. Stop it, because none of it is working for you, is it?

2. Did he say he "just needs more space?" Take it at face value. Men don't speak in some secret code - no, it's not about his conflicted childhood, strange relationship with his mother, or fear of commitment or anything else except, right now, he wants space. Respect that. Don't call, don't lurk, nothing. Leave him be, for now.

3. Get up off the couch, stop talking about him to your girlfriends, and get out there. Do something new and interesting. You've probably cried enough by now; time to switch the channel. Sign up for a course, go on a mini-vacation, treat yourself to some pampering and retail therapy, join a group, do some volunteer work, adopt a rescue shelter pet, do what it takes to earn your next promotion or polish up your resume and look for a job you really want - in other words, get back to living. You'll be happier, your friends and family will be tremendously relieved, and your ex boyfriend will hear about how great you're doing.

4. If he cares at all, he'll call. He'll be intrigued. Want to know more. He'll want to get together.

5. Play it a little bit cool. Do get together, but only for coffee. Or lunch. Keep it light. No big professions of love, no how desperately you miss him and absolutely nothing about anybody's wedding, shower, marital bliss or new baby. Instead, tell him about all the things you've been enjoying lately.Be just a bit indifferent to when - or if - you are ever going to meet up again. And, absolutely, don't let him kiss you, and no good-bye hug either when you leave first.

6. Again, if he wants you, this will drive him crazy. He'll call, because that's what guys do when they're interested.

7. And what if he doesn't? Well, then you know, don't you, that as far as your ex boyfriend is concerned, the thrill is gone? There is no point calling him. He didn't suddenly lose your number/have a work crisis/need to leave the country/just forget. He may still love you, just not enough.

Painful as it is, you will need to move on. Fortunately, though, you'll already have some plans in place to help keep you occupied and moving toward the future - that course you signed up for (who else did, too?), bonding with your new pet (who will you meet at the dog park?), winning the new job, maybe moving to another city or part of the country or even abroad (while you're still single and can), buying your own place, going back to school...the possibilities are just about infinite.

Do You Truly Wish You Can Get Back Together with Your Ex?

Relationship is a fragile bond that when it's broken, the process of mending can be much more difficult than creating it in the first place. Sometimes it's an extremely difficult task to sort out all the problems and get back together with your ex. No matter how many times you come up with different reasons and approaches, your ex does not seem to change the decision to leave you. If you’d like to get your hands on a step-by-step method for changing your ex's decision about the breakup, click here!

Let me show you exactly what to do to salvage your relationship and rekindle the lost love one more time…even if you're the only one trying…and even if the situation seems hopeless. Head over now to Get Your Ex Back Secrets

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