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Monogamous or Open Relationships?

Which kind of relationship is healthy for you? Perhaps neither?

By Gabriel MohrPublished 3 years ago 3 min read
Monogamous or Open Relationships?
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Quick Facts

-Monogamous relationships partially go against our primal biology called The Coolidge Effect! Interestingly enough, monogamous relationships complement our primal biology in other ways, almost as if we were living in a paradox!

-More and more people are having an open mind when it comes to relationships, and you may want to consider which kind of relationship is best for you.


I've observed many different kinds of couples, some of whom were in a monogamous relationship and some of whom were in an open relationship. It seems to me that many people who agree to a monogamous relationship only do so because they believe they should, they don't necessarily make their decision with basic biology or their own desires in mind, which leads me to ask an important question; monogamy, or openness?

Monogamous Relationships

Monogamy is the traditional way to have a relationship. One man, one woman, marriage for life with no sexual or romantic conduct with anyone else except for your one person.

My conclusion is that monogamous relationships work especially well with people who are type D: low-energy, meticulous, detail-oriented, steady, and unchanging. Many men and women love the idea of settling down with one person for life and raising a family with them, and these people tend to push their beliefs onto other people as "the way it should be." Monogamous relationships open the opportunity for trust and steadiness within a partner but also the opportunity to break that trust by having romantic interactions with others.

Open Relationships

Open relationships are almost the same as monogamous relationships except both partners can have romantic interactions with other people. People in open relationships share their lives with each other, they create memories, raise a family, and love each other, but they also have sex and go on dates with other people.

Being in an open relationship is an amazing option for those who are psychologically and emotionally healthy because it goes along with our primal biology! We have biological wiring that encourages and motivates us to have sex with as many partners as we can. It's called the Coolidge effect, and it's the primary reason why we can be so easily "addicted" to porn. I recommend watching this video series on it, it's super interesting!

Type A, B, and C dominants can find open relationships intriguing, especially Type Bs! I don't recommend being in an open relationship if you're prone to jealousy or if you're emotionally immature as a whole because, in this case, a fling can be considered something more than such.

Is There One, Correct Answer?

First, I recommend pondering what your personal desires are. What do you want? Why do you want it? Coming up with your own, personal preference is far better than any advice I can provide to you here. Maybe it turns out you want neither kind of relationship! Maybe you want something different, or you desire to be single.

Second, I recommend being in an open relationship more-so than a monogamous relationship. I secretly want you to become psychologically and emotionally mature enough to have a healthy open relationship, and if you're already there I recommend staying open. Why? Because of our primal biology, but also because of how good it feels to be free. You can talk to and do whatever you like with whomever you like without any judgment from your partner! This alone usually makes life healthier than believing you can or cannot act in certain ways, which is always present in a monogamous relationship.


Which will you choose? I can't wait to find out!

Thank you for reading my article! I'll see you later! :)


About the Creator

Gabriel Mohr

Hey everyone, my name's Gabriel! I love writing short stories, spreading conscious knowledge, and positivity! Author of 3 books :)

Check out my website!

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