Married people have a good life, have a "single power"

Singleness is not only something you should have when you are married, but you should also stay single when you are in love. The best way to get along is to love each other but also to be independent and free.

What is "singleness"? It is the ability to remain single even when you are married and have a partner for life.

You have your Shunji Iwai and Kubrick, he has his Stephen Chow and Rob Cohen.

You have your Hetta Miller and Beauvoir, he has his Jin Yong and Liang Yusheng.

you have your English afternoon tea and gym, he has his fishing rods and museums.

You have your three or five girlfriends, he has his fox friends.

The best intimacy is when the two worlds are open, welcoming each other to visit and play, but not pulling and pulling to make each other a part of their world.

There are several criteria and outcomes for "single power".

One. Economic independence

The economic foundation determines the superstructure of "singleness".

Financial independence is not about marital AA, but about the right to dispose of our money and do what we like, excluding the living expenses of raising a family together.

Open a favorite store, pay for a long trip, buy a favorite bracelet, find an out-of-print book or even buy lipstick.

As long as you keep on the path of emptying yourself of desires, a virtuous cycle of money-making - satisfaction will be formed.

And these, if your husband buys you, it is an unexpected pleasure. That is a form of his love for you. Time and time again, hint explicitly, can not get a lipstick, and then gamble to hold back, rather than brightly shake the lips and pout to him: husband, look good?

The result is: you will be happier with each other at that moment.

The husband will always be as respectful as before marriage because he can not easily please you, not to mention the qualification of looking down.

II. Spiritual world of independence

Financially independent women may not have the power to be single. Because their spiritual world is still dependent on their partners. I know a rich woman who owns a building in the Panyu district of Guangzhou, and she is a good person to spit on her husband for treating her badly.

Mr. Jiang Xun once said.

You will be in a very terrible state when you are driven by loneliness to find a way to get away from it; because people who cannot get along with themselves can hardly get along with others, and you must learn to play with yourself.

Deeply convinced. After marriage, you feel that you are still lonely and feel that marriage is painful, that is, you put your awayouom loneliness into marriage, expecting that the other party will understand you a little bit and become the pillar of your spiritual world. You are doomed to disappointment, and the other party also has a sense of suffocation. Loneliness is a constant in one's life, and this should be clearly understood even after marriage.

In addition to the nature of being born alone, we should also retain the independence of our spiritual world autonomously. Playing with yourself, this is also the sexy and mysterious side of a woman after she is married.

You can recite poetry, but your husband does not understand and still think you are a crocodile heart, you know the workplace fight, your husband fell under your royal skirt. We were attracted to each other before marriage, is it not because of each other's special? Why not take this attraction and extend it to after marriage?

The old Lee and I spend a lot of time together, so far can not read many of my articles, but this did not prevent him from forwarding them to his circle of friends, shamelessly saying: this is written under my guidance.

I clicked to see, that article also wrote the ex-boyfriend.

III. Time to wander

The power of singleness also requires you to take time away from your married life to spend alone in the world.

My girlfriend asked me last night to go to Jordan and Israel in April for a two-week-long trip. She and I described in graphic detail the moving scenario.

The two of us, walking hand in hand through the desert, you are the wind and I am the sand, leaving roses in the ancient city of Petra. Then we swept past the diamond counter and accused each other of being too good-looking at the Wailing Wall in Israel.

Finally, two people nestled in a tent to write a text.

I was so impressed by the "one tent writing" that the two senior housewives hit it off and were ready to embark on a bachelorette tour.

Our husbands, however, are never annoyed by our decision to leave their husbands and children behind. The reason is that our time is never fully devoted to our family.

The occasional long trip aside, short trips, a midnight show on your own, a book in a coffee shop, a visit to the harbor city. These are all things that don't have to be and don't need to be, accompanied by your husband.

If your husband wants, you can invite him to see all the sights on earth together. And there are things that you can also navigate alone. The scenery without the addition of love, and another pure style.

Four. Not double standard, respect each other's freedom

The single power is the two sides, if you keep the single power, but ask your husband 24 hours before the preservation of the joint, then may misunderstand the meaning of the single power. First of all, you have not reached the spiritual single power, and secondly, you have also consumed that part of your own time.

Just let go of your husband, it's a way to relieve aesthetic fatigue.

My girlfriend and I said that every time his husband went on a trip on foot and came back dark and thin, with thieving eyes and geeky girls she said what she saw on the trip, her hormone value would return to its peak, taking off her clothes on the spot.

V. Let down expectations of marriage, not demanding soul mates

The greatest significance of the power of singleness is not to expect a soul mate and give a sigh of relief to the marriage.

I often receive complaints that the husband is not the way to go, why did not they find a soul mate at that time?

I think that demanding a soul mate is a very dangerous mindset. Adults know that friends are subject to elimination rates due to interactions and time away from each other. When put into a marriage, everyone becomes demanding.

Even if they were soul mates at the beginning, facing a long life, they will all go with a slack, you see things and love things that will be misaligned over time. I have seen a pair of literary friends, because of different opinions on the "Dream of Dreams" play, in front of the Poly Theatre fights. I lost a beautiful face from Dongzhimen to Tianjin.

Relax, wait a minute, slow down, and transfer your soul mate to a compatible friend, the world is full of them, and you have a heart-to-heart at some point, but not everyone can give you marriage.

When the first into a marriage that one, maybe not be deep into your soul for the longest time that one person, but the timing gifted you with the strongest, most ingenious fate, and also will accompany you for life.

Why are there women who can't see whether they are married or not, or whether they are fertile or not? Can not hear the complaints? Blame? Because they always understand that marriage is just a small thing in life.

One end of their lives is the continuation of a good single life, and the other end is one more loved one who loves their marriage, so that mutual respect, mutual understanding, and mutual happiness of marriage, last as one, and last forever.

The power of having a single, both to win the marriage, but also to preserve their own.